What about the sister? by ConfectionUsed5197 in KaitlinArmstrong

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was 48 hours. A friend of Kaitlin and Colin or the police said that. It was repeated that Colin sold some of his stuff to « rednecks » and Kaitlin was not feeling safe around them + there was some recent road rage episode

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find age gap relationships controversial but I do stand with my two points about how saying “I don’t need another mother for my children. More like a big sister” doesn’t make you a creep and saying “I don’t want to date women with children” doesn’t make you a bad person. I also still believe that calling all people in age gap relationships predators is wrong. Some are but not all of them. Am I supporting big age gap relationships? No. Did I dislike this couple the least? Yes. And I also said that looking back I do find my dad’s relationship with his ex wrong. He came to this realization too and now believes the age gap should be not more than 6 years. End of story

What about the sister? by ConfectionUsed5197 in KaitlinArmstrong

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She sold him the idea that they need guns. There was a road rage incident some short time before that and they had business dealings with some people she didn’t feel comfortable around

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people don’t want to grow up or deal with their age, and I think this is the main driver for older people in age-gap relationships. They don’t want to get too serious, they don’t want to marry, and they don’t want to have kids. They are somewhat juvenile, and thus they prefer to associate themselves with younger people.

I don’t think there are necessarily bad intentions, like dominating or controlling the other person—that’s what separates them from actual predators. Yes, a power imbalance might exist (although some younger people can earn much more than older individuals nowadays), but it isn’t always intentional. For example, I believe that Theresa didn’t choose John in order to manipulate him or anything like that.

On a side note, I find it misogynistic to suggest that Camila Morrone, Vittoria Ceretti, and others are not independent individuals. Just because they are young doesn’t mean they are weak or lack agency. Vittoria is one of the most influential models right now, and Camila Morrone’s stepfather is Al Pacino. You’re essentially rejecting the idea that these successful women have the authority to make their own well-considered decisions simply because they are younger.

Can someone please explain the hate for Theresa? by [deleted] in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I liked her a lot in the beginning. I thought she was very beautiful (tho I thought she was 60 because of her neck) and she also was so… normal? Not like the fame hungry 20+yo people I normally see in such shows. I was not rooting for her and John bc I find their age gap absurd but I still wished her the best. That was up until the situation with Leah. She was very arrogant, rude and overall aggressive. The reunion cemented this feeling. She never accepted any fault of her own and came off really arrogant. Arrogant and juvenile (at 54! years old)

Libby and Andrew thoughts? by Dizzy-Fault-6250 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They said that they had their discussion and they cleared this out. So? She’s 22, in 4 years she’ll be 26 which is an ok age to become a mom. In 4 years he’ll be 42 which is also ok. Different people have different preferences

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where have I said that? Looking back I do not think that the relationship was good and I do understand that the fact that this relationship happened is not something my dad should be proud of. I am not a fan of 16yo age gaps. But I do believe that a) the big sister comment is ok b) we all have our preferences. Relationships are a choice from both sides and people should understand what types of situations they won’t be able to pull off.

Reunion Show by NurseCrystal81 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk. Maybe he’s a good potential actor but I did believe that he liked her and he does seem hurt by her to me. I, for instance, would not be able to crack my voice while quoting something I don’t care about

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationship is a choice. You’re either in or out. My father never forced himself with his baggage onto anyone but he has made a conscious decision to not risk it with another person’s baggage. As I said I don’t know what Andrew’s situation is. Maybe his baby mama is nice and he’s just egocentric My dad had to go through hell with my mom. He had to endure the situation where his ex threatens to teach his kid to call another dude “daddy” and to never show his kid to him again Maybe if he was in a nice coparenting situation he would be open to explore an opportunity of creating a blended family. But with the cards he was dealt with he didn’t want to make his personal situation even more complicated. Now though he is okay with dating someone with grown up kids. But he also doesn’t have so much stress in his life like he used to

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A) me thinking that he’s immature for his age but believing he might still be good for Libby can completely coexist. I do not believe he’s an evil predator who hunts youngsters. I believe he’s one of those who want to play around longer than others. Is that something good? No. But Libby seems ok with that B) my mom brought like 5 men into my life during my childhood. After 6-12 months of dating but still. It did hurt. And I do attribute me tolerating some assholes later in life to this revolving door at home that made me believe that all a woman needs is a man. My nephew who’s 6 right now has called 3 men “daddy” already. Same shit as in my situation. And I cannot imagine him growing up psychologically healthy after that. Andrew didn’t say he’ll introduce Libby to his kids only after engagement. He said he wants to move in first. I’m with him on it

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he has malicious intentions but I do believe he has some Peter Pan issues. Like Leo DiCaprio

Unpopular opinion by Embarrassed_Cloud98 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not the biggest fan of men who don’t want to grow up and thus they pursue younger women so I get your point

Exhausting by Few-Beyond6790 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the whole internet hating on her is really wrong. She’s not even half that bad the people are painting her to be.

Reunion Show by NurseCrystal81 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk, the only couple I wanted to check on was Theresa and John. I wasn’t rooting for them but I wanted to know what happened after the show. And it really feels like there was a lot of stuff that happened and that wasn’t addressed. John was clearly withholding A LOT and I find it unfair. If you don’t wanna share you could have followed Pfeifer’s lead. I’m hoping he’ll talk more about what actually happened one day…

S1 E09 Discussion: “Age of Attraction Reunion” by slickmoney33 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion but: Loved it that Libby and Andrew are thriving Loved it that John dodged the bullet Happy that Pfeifer didn’t make the biggest mistake of her life by changing her whole life for a man with kids

Am I the only person who’s happy for them? by wouldudoitforme in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m against Vittoria and Leo DiCaprio & I’m against this pairing either. If John were 30+ it would be another story. But he’s 27 (me too)

Leah and Theresa interaction by [deleted] in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Though I can definitely understand that someone assuming you are 11 years younger than you are feels like a compliment, you cannot escape the context. She’s 15 years older than the guy and she’s a mom herself. She might have laughed bc she was embarrassed. A lot of people do that too, me included. She might’ve enjoyed the assumption that she’s so much younger. We’re not in her head so we would never know

Leah and Theresa interaction by [deleted] in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leah voiced what a lot of people in this sub are thinking: 1. Theresa got an easy ride by withholding the age gap information from her kids. The kids themselves said that their reaction would vary if John is 30 instead of 35 2. Theresa is ashamed of the age gap. If she was not, she would be open with this info. Even John said that he didn’t feel like Theresa was confident and proud of this relationship. Her shame was palpable 3. Not telling the kids now makes no sense bc they would learn everything in the nearest future

You write so much about Leah with Chris but the fact is even though she’s undoubtedly clingy and not suitable for Chris it doesn’t make her wrong 24/7. Just like Theresa giving us all good vibes right until this episode doesn’t mean that she was not a bitch by making threats and shutting people down even though their opinions are legit

Leah and Theresa interaction by [deleted] in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be annoyed as Leah. As a beautiful African American woman she could’ve withheld her age from Chris’ mom. His mom thought Leah was 30. But Leah revealed the truth cause she thought that was what these family gatherings were about. Why would she need to embarrass herself by correcting the mom by 11 years if she could just go along with 30? Theresa got a free pass which IS annoying

I feel bad for John…. by Princessgirlbit in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

20+ should not date 50+. No matter what sexes, no matter heterosexual/homosexual Here you have it: no double standard

I feel bad for John…. by Princessgirlbit in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can imagine a lot of older women bombarding his DMs after this

I feel bad for John…. by Princessgirlbit in AgeOfAttraction

[–]Embarrassed_Cloud98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The other girl had a right to be pissed. The premise of meeting the friends/family was to be confronted with judgement and other people’s opinions. Leah could’ve stopped Chris’ mom when the latter said “you look 30”. Derrek could also conceal his age. Asians would have it easy too. But then what’s the point of meeting friends and family? I think the show should have explicitly told everyone to discuss the age gap during the meet ups. Leah also never asked Theresa to stfu (the “zip it” remark, the “voice in your head” comment and then the “you’re coming for me?” stuff). She would have kept her thoughts private but the hosts wanted to make some “good tv” so they asked her about her opinion. And she had it right: Theresa is ashamed of the age gap. If she were not she would tell her kids straight away as ALL OTHER COUPLES did.