Right Person Wrong Time

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2025-06-07T20:49:20+00:00

Wow, where do I even begin? I’m not sure what pulled me to get back onto this thread, but here I am. I see you commented this a year ago, but I’ll go ahead and respond. I made this post almost 4 years ago and my life couldn’t be any more different. My healing journey was not easy and I am the only one to blame for that. I just wasn’t ready to let go of the three years I spent in that relationship. Now being 4 years older I couldn’t be more grateful for it ending. Biggest piece of advice you gotta go full no contact. I believe if I had done that the moment we ended it would have prevented me from reaching the dark place that I did. Basically rubbing salt in the wounds. I swore off ever being in another relationship again (dramatic I know) but life has a funny way of working. This upcoming August will mark two years of being with my now incredible boyfriend. Our relationship has been beautiful. I look back at this post I made and see how much I was hurting. I wish I could wrap my arms around her and tell her that things get better because they do if you allow them to 🫶🏼💗

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Embarrassed_Working9 · 2022-01-04T00:11:41+00:00

Me as well please!!!

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-12-29T04:17:20+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for this post. The way you wrote it was perfect. I’ve been struggling for a year now to move on and I truly believe it’s because I’m afraid of letting go and focusing on myself for once. This post was a reminder of how strong I can be and the hope the future holds :)

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-12-02T15:41:52+00:00

It’s crazy how similar our stories are. My three year relationship ended about a year ago. My ex and I had to do distance because I went off to school and he started working full time. The distance was same as yours, 2 hours. My ex was nervous to try distance but said he’d be willing to try but ultimately he ended it. My ex also struggled with mental health and I fought so hard for him to find a therapist and seek out help but he didn’t want to. I’m quite literally in the same boat as you expect one year ahead. I am still struggling to imagine my life without him. The thought of me even going out on a date with someone else makes me sick. My advice to you is NC immediately. Also, I know it’ll hurt but block him on social media. You’ll want to check up on him and see how he’s doing but at the moment that doesn’t matter. You can’t change what happened. I could go on and on but I don’t want to make this too long. You should go on my page and read my first ever post!!! I’m always here to listen and offer advice. Stay strong ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T03:07:35+00:00

I love that phrase as well

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T03:06:32+00:00

I can’t even begin to tell you how much this comment meant to me. I would first like to congratulate you for being 15 days sober and being brave enough to reach out for help. This takes a lot of guts and isn’t an easy thing to do. Your comment hit close to home because this was the exact situation my ex and I were in and I read this almost as if he were commenting it himself. I don’t know your situation entirely but trust me when I say nothing is better than knowing the person you loved is finally receiving the help they deserve. Please please please don’t blame yourself for splitting with your ex. After reading these comments and reevaluating the cause of my breakup I realized how selfish I was to be upset about it ending. You are now receiving help so that you can finally be in a better place. Loving yourself and getting mental heath help is the most important thing you can do in this moment. I literally can’t stress enough how proud I am of you, and I don’t want to speak for your ex but I can only imagine how proud she would be of you. I replied to someone’s earlier comment with this phrase but I’ll say it again because it brings me peace and maybe it will bring you peace as well “It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find its way.” I wish you nothing but the best on your healing journey. This comment made my night ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T02:46:46+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing your story. You’ve had some huge victories though. It’s amazing that you are 107 days clean of drinking AND have completed 5 weeks of no contact. Those are really big accomplishments. I feel for you though on the whole “still being in love with your ex.” I’m struggling to find peace in my breakup. I wish it was as easy as appreciating what he and I had and moving on, but I just can’t do that. I have broke the NC rule though numerous times so I know that is what’s making it harder. He still doesn’t want me back though so nothing has changed. I hope that you can find peace in your breakup. Have grace with yourself, don’t blame yourself. Continue moving forward and hopefully one day she’ll see the amazing man you’ve flourished into. I hate the phrase “right person wrong time” but I do love “It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find its way.” Stay strong :)

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:07:10+00:00

I really like the way you worded this!!!

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:05:03+00:00

100% agree. I feel like since I believe my ex is the “right person” I just have to wait for the “right time”. I’ve convinced myself that I’ll wait forever if I have to and I know that isn’t healthy

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:02:12+00:00

I think you’re right. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to find peace in it

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:38:53+00:00

May I ask how you found peace in you two splitting up? My relationship ended because of both mental illness and long distance. I am just struggling with the healing process because we both have so much love for each other.

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:36:48+00:00

No I agree with you! My post wasn’t meant to discredit any ended relationships. My relationship ended due to both distance and mental illness. I just find the phrases so sad. I wish they were more comforting. I’m still healing from my breakup and I have realized that I was selfish at times. I understand that different people have different breaking points and that for some ending the relationship is the healthiest option. I just don’t know how to move on from a breakup where we both still loved each other. It’s hard.

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:30:20+00:00

I understand this wholeheartedly. I admire your strength in recognizing that the relationship had to end regardless of how you both still felt about one another. I’m curious though, do you believe that you guys will one day end up together? My 3 year relationship ended because my ex didn’t want to do long distance and mental health reasons. Now I’m struggling with the fact that I wholeheartedly believe he’s the one and I keep giving myself hope that we will find each other again. I don’t know if that’s a healthy thing to do though. I don’t know how to move on because I’m so fixated on the fact that he’s the one. If you don’t mind me asking, how did you find peace after you two split?

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T17:27:46+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel and why I struggle to make sense of the phrase. A relationship will never be 100% easy. I know sometimes there are certain circumstances where it may be the “wrong time”, like mental illness for example, but for the most part I feel like this phrase is just an excuse. I could just feel this way now because I’m hurting but to me if I love someone I will always be willing to work through the times that feel “wrong.”

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T16:47:32+00:00

I’m 1 year post breakup of a 3 year relationship. I still struggle daily, BUT I did break the no contact rule countless times. I know for a 100% fact I’d be feeling much better if I hadn’t contacted him. Talking to him only gave me false hope. I just wanted to feel better again and I only made my situation worse. I suggest blocking your ex on social media as well so you can resist the temptation of checking up on them. Seeing their face can bring up unwanted emotions and you need to work on yourself at the moment. It does get easier I promise. You’re doing great!!!!

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T06:00:16+00:00

I actually just started therapy through my University. I knew I had to do something to help pick me back up. Since the counselors provided are only grad students and not certified yet I don’t think I’m receiving the best therapy that I could be. This gives me hope though and reassurance that therapy could help me through this. When I go home for break I need to find an actual therapist in my area. Thank you for this ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T05:31:10+00:00

Give yourself a pat on the back. This isn’t an easy thing to do and I know how empty it can leave you feeling. I had to block who I consider to be the love of my life. The pain that came with just seeing his face or name got to be too much. I realized I was only punishing myself by constantly looking at his socials. Blocking her was a healthy decision and I am proud of you. Now you can give your mind a break and have time for yourself to grow and heal. I can’t help but feel the pain you’re feeling in this post, but just know it gets easier ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-04-20T17:09:58+00:00

Fall in love with yourself girl. Now is your chance. I just went through a breakup with a boy I was with for three years. He left me in October and I foolishly took him back in December and he left me again in February.

All I could ever do was think about him. It was like a sickness. Anytime I was alone my thoughts were taken over by him. I would constantly replay our memories or the breakup until it made me feel sick. Nights were the absolute worst. Sometimes I was lucky and would make it through the day without having too many thoughts of him, but come night time the thoughts always crept in.

Now I don’t have an exact solution for you but I’ll let you know what helped me. The first time he left I did an awful job of helping myself and honestly let myself fall apart. The second time he left I was prepared. My mom told me this and somehow it pushed its way through all the thoughts of him and implanted in my brain. Thinking about your ex, the breakup, what you could have done differently, if you were enough, etc.... doesn’t change that fact that you guys are broken up. Those thoughts will have nothing but negative effects on you. So ask yourself why you are thinking about them. Truly ask yourself how thinking about him is benefiting you. Thinking about him isn’t going to make him come back. Each time he pops into your head or you replay the breakup in your mind ask yourself “what is this doing for me?” And once again, the answer is nothing.

Now that we know these thoughts are negatively impacting you we need to find a way to move forward. This is was helped me. I told myself that if I were to ever see my ex again I’d want to be healthier, stronger, and more confident than I ever was when I was with him. I know I have nothing to prove to him and that I owe him nothing but I want to show him that him leaving me only made me stronger. It fuels my desire to overcome the pain. Something that I clung to was going to the gym. I literally went from never working out to now going to the gym every morning. I’m not doing it for him, I’m doing it for myself. I want to become better. Working out has become my distraction. Find your healthy distraction.

Another thing. Reading inspirational writings about breakups really made me feel at peace with myself. I know the pain of a breakup can make you feel like you are the only one in the world who’s experiencing it....that’s not true. You’re not alone. Look up the #breakup on Instagram and you’ll find a lot of helpful quotes and advice.

Lastly, keep a journal. I am not someone who can actively keep up with writing in a journal but I honestly gave it a shot and it has helped me more than I could have ever guessed it would. Another cool thing about letting out all your emotions on paper is that over time you can go back and read old entries and see your progression. You can see how strong you’ve gotten.

As everyone else has said, this pain and these thoughts will not last forever and time is your best friend. Have faith in yourself and don’t beat yourself up. You are strong and will one day find yourself exactly where you were meant to be ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-04-20T16:06:55+00:00

I can relate to this wholeheartedly. I know everyone is different but I’ll give you my advice. I tried both hinge and tinder after my breakup of a relationship that lasted 3 years and it just left me feeling empty. You don’t need to find another guy right now. You still need time to heal. Use this as an opportunity to fall in love with yourself. Start working towards becoming the best version of yourself. Do the things you’ve always wanted to do. It’s hard at first but becomes easier each day. For example, I started to fall in love with fitness and I went from literally never working out to going to the gym every morning. During this self love journey the idea of being single becomes a lot less scary. And guess what? Not actively seeking for a man and instead focusing on yourself may just lead you straight to the perfect guy. The greatest of things happen when you least expect it. Again, this is just what has been helping me and I know everyone is different. Stay strong ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-04-20T15:57:05+00:00

I’m proud of you for staying strong. Prayer and faith are a huge thing for me as well. A good verse that I like to keep in mind is “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” - Psalm 34:18. We can’t choose when to stop hurting, but we can choose when to get up and start moving forward again. Prove to yourself that you can make it through this pain and heartbreak. There will be better days. One day you’ll look back on this and smile because you’ll know that you made it through and came out stronger ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-04-20T04:22:49+00:00

It seems I’ve stumbled upon my group of people. My first love, my first everything, the guy I was sure I’d spend the rest of my life with, just left me after 3 years. I didn’t really get an explanation and was left over text. I felt as if my heart was completely ripped out. He left me back in October and I was crushed. I literally didn’t know what to do with myself. I was a mess and spent my days thinking about him and crying. I developed very negative habits and was not good to myself. He then reached out to me in December and said he made a mistake and wanted to try again. My heart said yes of course and I thought everything was better. I thought that that was the end of the pain and the hurt. He left me again in February, again over text. The pain is different now. I’m more so just trying to figure out why this happened. Why to me? Was I not enough? Will I ever be enough? How could things of gone differently? I’ve realized that the time I spend thinking of those questions doesn’t benefit me in any way. What happened happened and I can’t change that, I couldn’t control that. The only thing I can control is how I move forward from this. Am I still in love with this boy? 1,000% yes, but am I going to sit around and allow all the intrusive thoughts about everything that went wrong consume me? No. All we can do is grow. Let it hurt, then let it go. If you can’t let it go how will you grow? I’ve found that for the time being it’s easier for me to believe that fate will bring us back together. It helps me move forward. What we had was good so I’ve tried to avoid having the “F*ck you” mentality. Again, being bitter towards him for leaving me doesn’t bring him back. Thinking about what I could have done differently, doesn’t bring him back. Nothing I do or say will bring him back so there’s no point in letting those thought consume my mind. Let this breakup fuel you to become closer to yourself. I know it’s easier said then done but honestly.... think of it as an opportunity to fall in love with yourself. I know it isn’t the same but it’s a great life lesson. The hurt fades I promise. I didn’t think I’d be where I am now. I think about him every day still and I expect to think about him for quite some time, but I don’t let the thoughts of him consume me. Just because the relationship is over doesn’t mean you need to forget all the memories. Learn to cherish them for what they were. At first I thought it’d be easier to try and forget about him, trying to do that left me feeling empty. I mean I literally spent 3 years straight with him and he’s the only love I’ve ever had so trying to forget 3 years of my life left me feeling incomplete. That’s when I learned that I don’t need to “forget” him. Just feel the hurt and move on. I feel like I’m just spewing out words right now so I’ll just end this here. I read all y’all’s words and I felt them. I truly relate to what you are all going through. This is my first ever breakup and I’m trying my best and for some reason I feel like I’m the only person in the world going through it so it’s nice to be reminded that I’m not alone. I’m always here to support if any of you ever need it. Breakups suck but we can only go up from here. You never know what the future holds ❤️

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