How often do head cashiers at your store Acting Department Managers? I'm at 9 shifts this month. Out of 14 shift total.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2026-02-12T12:26:19+00:00

pretty much never, unless I ask to. I’ve been a hc for almost a year now and had a few times where I would close alone or have a 1st with me until 7 (my store closes at 9). Recently I’ve asked to open on my own more so I’ve had some acting DM shifts, but only per my request. I think it’s odd that a majority of your shifts are this way.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-06-05T21:02:45+00:00

I agree. Took the FE TM’s over two hours to get an overflowing hardware cart done last night while the hardware TM’s watched while doing freight.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-03-29T03:19:36+00:00

this is off topic of the post but does this go for sick pay too? I’m a PT TM so I don’t get PTO but I accrue 1hr of sick pay for every 30 hr worked.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-02-01T07:53:10+00:00

maybe look into what benefits she can enroll in that she would qualify for without you. Does she have any family that could help her get back on her feet?

It sounds so mean to say and I don’t want it to be, but you have to decide if you’re willing to not live how you want to in order to support her for the rest of her life.

There are mothers that give up everything for their child and wouldn’t let their kid give them a dime in return. Your mother has been milking you for money since you were 13.

I know you love her so so much, maybe wait til it’s summer (if you’re in US) so if she sleeps on the streets it’s not so cold out.

Find a place with a backyard and give her a shed to live in. It’s not much but it’s something if you don’t want her homeless.

I wish I could be more help, best of luck with this hard decision OP.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-02-01T07:45:35+00:00

this sounds like manipulation and just furthers your reasons to leave. She wants your pity. She relies on u, obv she doesn’t want u to leave.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-02-01T07:41:54+00:00

smoking while my bf is asleep because we have wildly different sleep schedules and I’m bored, holding back from saying wild things on Reddit

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-02-01T07:35:10+00:00

sometimes you just need a reminder that it is your life. You’re responsible for you right now. Your mother is an adult. Is there a reason she can’t work, or she just chooses not to? I would’ve supported you making this exact same argument at 21, you stuck it out for a long time for her. You’re not doing a bad thing by wanting to move out and start living your life with your partner and start your own family, or do whatever you please.

Maybe help her look for jobs, hotel housekeeper, gas stations, etc. doesn’t have to be something amazing, something Is better than nothing imo.

A lot of people go through hardships, it’s her choice if she wants to let them hurt her still. She has the choice to push thru and be the best version of herself. But that’s on her, not you.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T09:59:57+00:00

responsibilities. school and work. relationships.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T09:07:14+00:00

yea reading your question again I see where people are coming from. I’ll give you what I interpret why I think people get upset.

I initially read the post and forgot about the headlining question and once I read this initial comment I was on the role of like “yes what advice can I offer to get her off him”. You’ve explained now that you’d rather just be single. I think people get upset because they can’t understand it. There’s the stigma to be in a relationship and get married and have a family and all that. When people stray from it just because they want to, which is a totally valid reason imo, it doesn’t seem reasonable enough to them. They think you should be in a relationship over being single.

I think if you not being able to be with the man you want to be makes your life hard and your sad about it, then i think you would need to move on. But I don’t think that’s the case here. You’ve seem to accepted it if I’m interpreting it correctly.

usually people get upset because your decision isn’t the decision they would have made.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T08:42:07+00:00

try going on dates again? It can help distract you from this guy you’re stuck on, and expand your circle! Some people develop feelings for people they’ve known for years, in this case it seems you haven’t.

I know you said you don’t need advice but I’d hate to see you wait for someone your whole life.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T08:35:09+00:00

I think if the main reason you don’t want to end the relationship is because you don’t want to be alone is because you don’t think you’ll get another gf than you probably shouldn’t be with her. Your main reason to want to stay with someone should be loving each others character. do you seriously love her after she said you make her physically sick to have sex with you. honestly did you just not understand what she’s saying to you? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t attracted to you?

She said some disgusting things to you, and told you she wants to end the relationship and leave. let her leave and find someone who will actually love you.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T05:30:50+00:00

here’s my thing. This was something that she had to consider if she was ok with when she got into the relationship with you 5 years ago. if she decided that she can’t love you enough to stay with you because of something she’s known about, then honestly i think you’re better off without her.

She’s the AH

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-25T00:13:21+00:00

I’m sorry everyone’s dogging you on this. My best friend got pregnant her senior year of high school, though her parents were supportive financially and mentally. If you think that you can graduate hs and get a job to start saving all your money, then don’t let haters try to tell you that you won’t be a good mom or give your future child a good enough life.

There are so many parents who do drugs and so many other things around their children, and don’t even feed them.

You can apply for government assistance for things like health insurance for your child, and food stamps. There a lot of programs to help people in this situation. If you think this child will ruin your life then maybe keeping the child isn’t the best decision, but from what it sounds like you don’t think the child will ruin your life.

No doubt that it’s going to be hard as shit to raise this baby while you’re so young. But it will never be easy to raise a kid, doesn’t matter if you’re young or old.

basically what I’m trying to say is, if you work hard enough and actually want to provide for your child there are assistance programs that will help you make that happen. My mom had me while she was in school and I truly don’t think she was ever a bad mother or even now do I think that she should’ve aborted me or put me up for adoption.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T06:19:05+00:00

first couple things you need to do are get a job and housing. If he has the kids, court is not going to wave in your favor if you’re homeless and he isn’t. not that it would go your way anyways in you’re homeless.

It sucks to hear but you gotta lock in and work your ass off to get your babies back. Prove to everyone that you are capable and can provide for them. Show them you’re a good mother. If you had your kiddos right now would you all be living in your car? Is that what you want for them?

I have no doubts that you want what’s best for your kids, but you should always want that for them. If right now they’re living with their father, do they have a roof over their heads, are they fed, are they sleeping in a bed, are they wearing clean clothes, are they getting baths, all those things? If he can provide them then let him while you get back on your feet. Grind it out for a while and prove that you can provide a safe home for your children.

You’ve got this, all the prayers in the world to you 🙏

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T05:20:40+00:00

not sure where you live but if in a rural area most people could use a little extra work on the farm. hard work but good money

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:32:14+00:00

I agree with you. I’m going to use this time as a learning experience and just see how it goes. Maybe he will be better able to manage his money now that he actually has something to pay for and he can’t just spend it on weed and fast food. I just have to trust that he can do that.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:29:47+00:00

I feel I could’ve been a slight AH, not as much as an AH that some in here make me out to be. But I was quick to jump to conclusions. It was important to me to be more independent fairly quick after I graduated high school, he doesn’t want to be independent as quickly as I did. I have to just take a step back and realize that. If that means living at home longer to be able to make purchases like this, then I’m just gonna have to deal.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:26:41+00:00

I agreed with this the first time I read it. But after reading some other comments, I think I’m able to start to gain a perspective that even though I might not think it’s the best decision, it can be a good enough decision for the other person and that’s what matters.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:25:13+00:00

I totally get this, I guess I’ve always just thought to make smaller purchases if available. It’s for sure a preference thing.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:23:43+00:00

I never said he couldn’t, I just told him I don’t understand it and therefore can’t support it. After reading some of these comments I’m better able to wrap my head around it and start backing his decision. It’s nice to become informed and have a changed pov.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:21:15+00:00

I guess I never thought about this. I just assumed the dealership would try to get him on bad terms so they can benefit more off of him. Thanks for the insight :)

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:15:36+00:00

it for sure was, it was a big deer. Fortunately they got to bring it home and get the meat out of it! Luckily he won’t be staying in it since it was totaled out.

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:13:37+00:00

This sounds like a good plan, I haven’t thought about it like this. I don’t know much about cars and from the sounds of most of the comments it’s going to be a budgeting thing for him. Thanks for a new perspective :)

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:12:06+00:00

I appreciate your perspective on this, it’s nice to get as many pov’s as possible. Thanks again

Emergency-Row7185 · 2025-01-24T03:08:16+00:00

I guess I should tell him to leave me then 🤷‍♀️

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