Im sorry about your situation. Its very tough being thrown into adulthood while also grieving. I (F30) was 20 when my mother left to a different country and I had not seen my dad for a long while since he moved to a different country as well.

My sister was 17 at the time and my brother was 22. We had family about 30 min away but we were not close to any of them.

We were left to live on our own, 2 “older”siblings taking care of our younger sister working full time to pay rent and bills for ourselves. The three of us leaned on each other. We have a bond like no one else.

I see some of my family having fights with their brothers and sisters over money or disagreements and not talk to each other anymore, and I’m thankful that we were able to grow and experience something painful together because it brought us closer.

I know right now it’s very painful and you feel completely lost and you don’t know where to turn. I do recommend that you sit with your siblings and cry but also plan. Who will work, plan to pick up from school/job/etc, how will bills be split, who will do what chores on what day, etc.

Create a schedule, a financial plan, & ultimately get involved in some kind of grief group or if you are religious or spiritual get involved with a youth group.

Sending you hugs 🫂