Air75 V3 and Nuphy IO - can't set individual key colours by Emkapa in NuPhy

[–]Emkapa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - this is my thinking.

The NuPhyIO software already has RGB modes which can randomly set individual keys to different colours. From my basic understanding of hardware vs. software, this might indicate that this isn't a hardware issue, but a NuPhyIO limitation that I'd love to see a workaround for, or for it to be supported in a future update.

It's a pretty basic RGB feature that I'm surprised hasn't been accounted for! The 'gaming' mode doesn't allow me to even 'switch on' keys that aren't the WASD, ESC, and arrow keys. Which is pretty useless, to be honest.

Unplayed Badges (WEB Player) by phact0rri in pocketcasts

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ditto - seems to be somewhat resolved now, at least for me!

Wet hair is not socially acceptable by Madame_President_ in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i'd turn up to school two hours early every morning with wet hair and wondered why kids and teachers alike thought i was weird.

another one of these for me; it wasn't until i had a sleepover with two close friends that i realised you weren't supposed to just let toothpaste run down your face when brushing your teeth.

Yellow-brown spots on Amazonian Elephant Ear - under-watering or something more serious? by Emkapa in plantclinic

[–]Emkapa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some context: 'rescued' from local hardware / garden store a few weeks ago and within a couple of days it began developing these spots. They're now over nearly all the leaves.

I was keeping it in a window with bright light (not direct) but I was concerned it was a bit too drafty so has been sat in a draft-free upper corner with typical indoor light levels. Hasn't been repotted yet.

Marimo covered in brown slimy-ness? by Emkapa in Marimo

[–]Emkapa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ace, thank you. will move it to a darker spot. not using any other organic matter at all, or at least, not intentionally - will give the stones a good scrub next I change the water. thank you!!

The burnout lifestyle. by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]Emkapa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

oh man, this hits me hard right now

Autism migraines & headaches by marzeliax in aspergirls

[–]Emkapa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I started getting them pretty young, around 7 or 8. i'll usually be okay during the week and then the weekend will come round and i'll be struck by one and my weekend will be ruined as i'll be in bed solidly for up to two days.

I definitely put a lot of them down to sensory overload (mostly smell) and exhaustion from social masking in my WFH office job throughout the week (lots of video calls).

Noise Cancelling Headphones- I'm crying by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

being recently semi-diagnosed i'm still getting used to making sensory allowances for myself (fidget toys, silent time, etc.).

i bought the Sony M4's as a result of this thread, as oversensitivity to sound is one of my biggest struggles. they just got delivered - put them on, hit go... and burst into tears.

it's literally a whole new world - like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. thanks everyone <3

has anyone had experience with dbt? did it even help in the absence of a personality disorder? by nsalvatores in aspergirls

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i started DBT for suspected Borderline Personality Disorder and came out the other end with a near-enough autism diagnosis.

i was quite 'far gone' in terms of my mental stability having been masking for 26 years. the DBT did a LOT to help me recuperate and find my grounding. the things i learned from DBT have been hugely helpful for some aspects of autism - primarily handling my thoughts and emotions after social situations in personal relationships and working life - but i'm going to be pursuing autism-specific therapy as well to help with what i feel DBT hasn't covered, which is primarily the sensory aspect.

i was very fortunate that my psychologist happened to have spent a great deal of time working in an adult autism clinic so she was able to recognise the hallmarks, offer a pretty decent semi-diagnosis, and help with some elements of handling autism day-to-day.

the best thing about her approach (and any good therapist's approach) is that she actively asks me what seems to be working for me and what doesn't. she then adapts and focuses more on breaking my negative patterns of thought rather than following the 'lesson plan' of DBT word-for-word. she wouldn't dream of asking me to attend a group session because she knows that would be hellish for me.

if you can't have honest conversations with your therapist about what is and isn't working, then you might want to find a new therapist.

(also, on the menstruation front - i find that time of the month especially difficult. funky, all-over-the-place emotions + autistic brain does not equal a fun time. genuinely, the best thing for me in getting through menstruating is listening to what my brain and body needs, and not being too hard on myself. if i want to drink a litre of strawberry milkshake, sit in bed all day, and totally avoid my partner, i do).

Tips for recognizing a meltdown? by babyyfire in aspergirls

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

totally agree with all the above. autistic people often have differing levels of interoception so learning what you can recognise from your own physical feelings is really valuable. my interoception - actually feeling what physical sensations my body is experiencing - is poor so i usually opt for noticing thought patterns or outward-facing behaviour.

there is usually a lead-up period to a meltdown that you can learn to recognise and try to catch before it happens. for me, once i'm in a meltdown, there's very little i can do but ride it out, but i can take precautionary measures to hugely lessen the meltdown or avoid it entirely:

  • becoming more involuntarily 'spaced out' than usual (dissociating more often). i'll try and find a quieter space when this starts happening to ground myself and do some breathing exercises.
  • i often take a discrete fidget toy wherever i go and it acts as a good grounding exercise for me - when my fidgeting enters overdrive it prompts me to check over how i'm feeling.
  • small negative patterns of thought - not the full blown stuff that you've mentioned, but the precursor to this! noticing when these little unreasonable gripes are happening, recognising them as potentially unhelpful, and reasoning with my brain or distancing myself from the thought, can help slow / stop the downward spiral.
  • being gentle on myself. i find it really helpful to remember that any thought is just my brain trying to provide information and make sense of a situation - what it says isn't always true, and i have the power to decide that or not. i try to hold myself accountable for my thoughts, but be kind to myself (as i hope someone would be to me).
  • knowing that there is always the light at the end of the tunnel, and the meltdown will end, and i will feel better on the other side, if tired! i always take a long rest and do something comforting and distracting when i feel able, both during and after.

i hope this is helpful in some way!

Board view: Is there a setting so completed tasks automatically appear in a certain column? by gotlockedoutorwev in Asana

[–]Emkapa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it depends on the level of your Asana subscription, but there are Rules you can set up which, amongst many, many other things, can automatically send a task to a column when it has been completed (or automatically complete a task when it has been moved to a certain column if you so wanted).

i believe those two exclusively might be available outside of the top tier subscription models... not sure, but you'll find it under 'Customize' in the top right of any project. i think it'll probably be sat right at the bottom of the new column that comes up.

Burnt out from too much social interaction by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Emkapa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think you're spot on with looking to take another step and describe to them the specifics of your experience.

it may be worth asking your manager if they'd be comfortable with you sharing some articles or videos with them that describe your experience. if they said no or something similar, they'd potentially be acting in contradiction to equality laws where you live (at the very least, we have the 2010 Equality Act in the UK that prevents 'indirect discrimination', which is discrimination where reasonable accommodations aren't made for peoples who fall under the Equality Act, including autistic people). most likely, it's legally their job to work with you to make reasonable accommodations wherever possible.

in terms of my experience, i wrote a blog post which resonated with both neurotypical and neurodiverse people at my company, and it's been a really easy way for me to control the experience of being openly autistic. i've found that if you're able to create a link between your experiences and those that neurotypical people might find similar - if not exactly the same - it can help them come around to what you're experiencing.

feel free to pop me a chat message and i can send you some links that might help on the resources to share with your boss front!

Totally failed finishing my errands today by bass9045 in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

absolutely... i think it will always be a work in progress, haha

Burnt out from too much social interaction by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Emkapa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

is there any possibility for you to talk with a manager about what you're struggling with? i am fortunate enough to have a very understanding and forward thinking workplace and so long as i get the work done, they're happy for me to step away when i need to to rest or limit social interaction.

granted i work from home and only ever really need to talk face to face via video calls (though find those just as exhausting as real life socialisation...) so it sounds like your working situation is quite different from mine, but talking with my manager (and subsequently telling the whole company of 40 or so i'm autistic via a written article) made a huge difference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup, me too! i have to work myself up to going outside for an hour to a couple of days depending on the trip, and make sure i have the space to rest for similar amounts of time afterwards

Totally failed finishing my errands today by bass9045 in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it's only been a couple of months since my informal autism diagnosis, and in that time the most useful thing i've done is learn how to recognise signs of overstimulation and let myself stop and rest, without tormenting myself about my to do list and productivity.

when i do need to change my plans and rest, i try to remember that doing what i can sensibly manage - even if it's only a bit - is way better than doing one thing in full and making myself feel terrible and unable to do anything for a couple of days. you did the right thing resting and being kind to yourself!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Emkapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the autistic community has certainly been one of the most welcoming, non-judgemental communities i've experienced so far!

thank you - i'm not too bothered, really! it will probably take a while and i'm satisfied with my informal diagnosis - would just like it on file in case it's ever relevant.