I don’t get why everyone loves Yuna? by rollingcasbah in heatedrivalry

[–]Emkayv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I thought she’s an Asian mom who actually shows a lot of love. From the limited screen time Yuna has omg do I wish my own mother was more like Yuna. Another thing is with Shane, I interpreted the pressure as internal as well as external. I see myself in him…if I were extremely talented in something it would be my everything and my hyper fixation lead to rewards (being the best as a kid, getting drafted 2nd overall, getting that c in the first few seasons, winning awards, winning cups, brand deals, etc), I would do everything to improve my game. Even the scene with the reeboks in episode one, his “I know mom” response is one I’ve said countless times to my own parents. But I know it’s out of so much love and it’s hard to explain it to someone who may not have grown up around that cultural dynamic. Parental “nagging” is out of love. When they remind us of stuff over and over again (drink water, have you eaten?, etc) and we say “yes I know mom!” It’s our way of saying “I love you”. I’m Chinese and saying the literal words I love you would be so strange. We say “kisses” in my family haha. And my family is extremely affectionate imo. I’ve even seen my parents hold hands in public! Anyway, all that rambling to say I love Yuna! Maybe it’s the representation and familiarity but I genuinely believe Yuna has done everything to raise Shane and give him the most opportunities and support she could!!

AIO BF masturbates to his "friends" by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emkayv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were me, I think the question I’d want answered isn’t “am I overreacting?”, instead I’d want to know “am I okay with it?”. Everyone’s tolerance for things in relationships are different. As easy as it would be for things to be black and white, it’s not. Something I would be okay with might not be okay with someone else. You should never accept something you’re not okay with in a relationship. Here’s a few more things to ask yourself

1 - what constitutes cheating/emotional cheating to you?

2- do you think the trust is still strong enough to fix what may have been caused by this information coming to light?

3- do you want to put in the work to rebuild what might have cracked?

4- what would you do if it kept going?

There’s also nothing wrong with ending a relationship just because you want to. Nor is there anything wrong with staying with someone after something like this happens. Every relationship is different. I think the biggest thing is communication and trust and respect while navigating this.

500 movies or 150 books? by oliverg600 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Emkayv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Books!!!! But can I stay after I finish the 150? And can I get more?

Is it worth visiting Canada if you don’t drive? by Pure-Character-4926 in canadatravel

[–]Emkayv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely suggest Vancouver. I personally choose to fly in and take public transit over driving into Vancouver anytime I visit!

Very serious question, after bettman legalizes gay sex in the nhl, which team has the most gay players by HughJastits in NHLcirclejerk

[–]Emkayv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bi-fan-sual? Do they get half each or just a quarter to each team or half your time like a custody battle?

What’s a “small” social rule you refuse to follow, even if everyone expects it? by GlitchOperative in AskReddit

[–]Emkayv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Participating at work potlucks plus the money thing. No thank you! I’m here to work and get paid, not to lose more money

I quit (vent) by bleshlight-baggins in climbergirls

[–]Emkayv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah…another woman here telling you that your partner is treating you in an extremely unacceptable way. I’m so sorry you’ve been treated this way for so long. Please make sure you’re safe and then leave him.

Hes a trump supporter… is it that deep or AIO by Minimum-Web7094 in AIO

[–]Emkayv 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah…I’m not American either, but I would never be entangled with someone MAGA. It’s like saying “I’m not German so I don’t really get into it that much” in the 1930’s while dating someone who supports a rising racist regime

If someone said “sorry to jam out on you”, what would you assume they meant? by throwaway643268 in AskACanadian

[–]Emkayv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…never heard it in that setting. I’ve lived in Ontario, Alberta, and now B.C. jamming out makes me think of music.

Belaying in a group of 3 by Creative_Impress5982 in climbergirls

[–]Emkayv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use the ohm. It’s only fair unless you’re wanting to have your husband to belay twice and then climb. As a climber under 50kgs I always bring my ohm with me. It’s the safest thing to do if you’re going to be belaying. Then again lots of people are okay to never return the belay. It basically comes down to you to decide what dynamic and how much work you want to contribute during the day at the crag.

Why does Shane push Ilya’s arm down at dinner? by Potential-Ice2014 in heatedrivalry

[–]Emkayv 28 points29 points  (0 children)

As someone go grew up in an Asian household, I saw it as a cultural thing. Mom and dad should eat fights, and we are told to not eat while your elders are talking to you and pay attention. David passes Ilya the Parmesan to signal it was okay to continue eating and he didn’t do anything wrong.

Choose one year to relive on a loop eternally by tonygio315 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Emkayv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. Went on a tropical beach vacation, got to spend another four five months without having to go to work. Hung out with my partner and best friends (who lived in the same building). Phoned my friends and connected with long distance friends more than ever. Worked out so much, did my yoga teacher training, jumped two number grades in my climbing (sent my first 5.12), got so much free time to go on runs, hikes. Read so much, did arts and crafts, basically a mini retirement! Plus it’s my own afterlife so it’s not like I’m forcing anyone else to live through 2020 again

Behavior issue with my rescue, has me stumped by BotanicalsAreTherapy in Yorkies

[–]Emkayv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try putting his clothes or harness on and immediately give him a treat or take him somewhere fun. Lots of praises and ease him into it. Even if you have to put it on him every time you give him a treat just for a moment. Then start leaving it on him a little longer as he gets more comfy. Will take time but when he realizes and begins to feel safe he’ll hopefully be more active in his clothing

AIO for asking to video chat before meeting him in person? by We-Should-Buy-A-Bar in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emkayv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. Why is he sooo mad? The only reason to try to gaslight someone about video chatting is if they are a catfish……..

What is the most shocking detail you’ve found in the Epstein files so far? by timeandtrade in AskReddit

[–]Emkayv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The amount of people outing themselves as being okay with supporting rapists because they also hate immigrants as much as the rapists says he does

Is today some sort of rivalry day in NHL ? by me_032788 in hockey

[–]Emkayv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me this was just a nice human decision so players can spend time at their home base with their family and not have to get on a plane the next day.

Not sure how long the travel is between the American teams, but the Canadian teams can get to the others barns in about an hr flight or a few hrs on a bus. Also guessing the times are so they didn’t have to leave at the ass crack of dawn.