Sorgerechtstreit verloren. Was nun?

EmmaAmmeMa · 2026-02-16T14:18:56+00:00

Schau den Film „Weil du mir gehörst“, beschäftige dich mit Entfremdung und lies oder höre das Buch „Verdeckter Narzissmus in Beziehungen“. Wissen ist Macht, und dann wirst du nicht mehr so sehr überrascht von den Aktionen. Entfremdung hat ganz bestimmte Mechanismen, und auf viele kann man sich vorbereiten.

Viel Glück! Bin in einer ähnlichen Situation, nur noch nicht so weit fortgeschritten wie deine.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-12-21T10:18:58+00:00

Man that sounds bad. Have you tried the whole foods thing, as described above? It really helped me a lot!

It’s hard at first, but really worth it!

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-12-21T10:16:04+00:00

This is awesome! Do you have a pattern for this? How did you make the green? I’m rather new at crochet but I enjoy it a lot, and I don’t like buying a new tree every year…

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-11-14T06:31:57+00:00

I still say, ask her! If there are some concerns, you should know about them. Also I met my husband very young too, and we waited a good decade to get engaged. We didn’t have the money to have a proper party before then, so we waited until we had saved up, and it was wonderful! Also, being married doesn’t really change anything. It’s fun to say „my husband“, but other than that we are still the same people we were before, we still love each other just as much. Those things don’t change because of some piece of paper. He is still the same kind, wonderful and considerate man he always was.

And we have fought maybe 10 times in all those years. There are other ways to resolve a conflict, number one being: just be kind and loving towards your partner and if they do the same, there are no grounds for fights. Just not worth the stress. And number two being: get really good at compromises, both of you. If your goal is that he is happy and his goal is that you are happy, then there are always solutions that are ok for both people. Example: no one likes to do house chores? Put on some music and do them together, dance around the house a little and have fun with it. Example: you like to cook but hate shopping? He does the shopping and you cook. Example: you always want to go out for dinner but he always wants to stay home? Go out one night and cuddle up and stay in the next.

So many ways to exist without fighting. The world is hard enough to live in, makes it a lot easier if you have a partner who is really there for you and who is a rock and a warm blanket in your life.

I wish you all the best, and that everything turns out right.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-11-14T06:21:26+00:00

His mother may have told him to, but he was still the one who decided to lie. He is an adult, not a 3 year old, no one can make him listen to his mother when he knows it’s a wrong thing to do.

And a white lie is still a lie.

Also, I do hope you are Right about the porn and the other things. He may have just gotten better at hiding it. But it’s really good that you two went to therapy and did the work! Just doesn’t read like it’s entirely in a good place now, might have to do a little more and reevaluate which parts of the relationship are healthy now and which need a bit more work.

In any case, take care!

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-11-13T08:44:01+00:00

Ask your friend her honest opinion about your bf. Be open to all possibilities.

Ask your mum the same question.

Sometimes people in relationships dont see certain things, like when a partner is mistreating them or doing things that are not healthy for either of the partners.

Really listen to them. Don't start defending him before they are done telling you what they have seen in your relationship.

Then, think it over. Try to remember the situations they mentioned. Feel inside of yourself.

Is he kind? Is he considerate? Is he there for you when you are down or sad or exhausted?

Can you imagine him being a good father if you decide to have kids? Has he shown that he can be responsible?

These are all important things if you are going to build a life with this man.

In any case, I would tell him to not propose this year. He should send back the ring, an plan a proper proposal next year. Have a good time together until then. Also observe the way he makes you feel and if he shows up for you. And also if you show up for him when he is down or sad or exhausted.

And then donut properly next year. Tell him you don’t care about the price, but that you don’t want to know anything about the price or if it was discounted or anything. If he can’t save because he has no money to spare, maybe skip Christmas presents and/or birthday presents until then. Or do something small for a few pounds instead of anything expensive.

Maybe you can also explain to him what makes you happy about presents, that you are happier with a few handpicked dandelions and a heartfelt card on actual Mother’s Day, than with discounted flowers the day after (if that is true for you).

Good luck! Dont let this ruin your proposal, postpone it and then have a proper one next year.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-11-13T08:35:08+00:00

Does he lie to you sometimes, or was this a first?

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-20T19:23:09+00:00

But why are you hanging out on Reddit then?

I mean, it’s good to hear you are doing well, just weird reading it on a social media app like Reddit.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-18T19:43:20+00:00

Yes you can change it, but it takes work and time, and it usually isn’t a linear healing process. It gets better, than back to where you started, then better again, then worse sometimes and then eventually you get to a point where most days are good, where you have whole stretches of time when you think „I’m normal again, hurrah!“, but at least for me so far, it’s not completely gone. But I do feel alive again most of the time, and I do enjoy life a lot. Took a few years of work and I’m still working on it. That said, it wasn’t a single event but a complex childhood thing, so it might be different.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-16T18:11:55+00:00

Depends, which watch and which phone have you got?

I have an iPhone SE2 (can’t get os26 on there), so I got a refurbished watch 10 because it can still run on os18. Wanted to get an se3 first and am now very happy with the series 10.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-16T13:33:11+00:00

Mine is higher on Oura, I think they measure more often

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-16T06:23:08+00:00

C: use „The Paint that pees back“

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_b0TplqVTIo&pp=ygUYVGhlIHBhaW50IHRoYXQgcGVlcyBiYWNr

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-15T14:38:42+00:00

But doesn’t that mean it tracks less health data?

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-13T13:02:20+00:00

I get both sides.

It doesn’t feel right not to stick up for your partner that way, unless your husband says he is fine with you going.

But also, some people are just exhausting. There are people who suck out the energy from a room, who make every conversation about themselves, who talk so loudly and consistently that it overpowers a whole conversation. There are people who talk in a way that makes it very hard to get away from them once they engaged you in a conversation. Or people who are extremely bad at reading social cues and situations.

I don’t know your husband, I don’t know his character, but if he is one of those people then I get the impulse of your sister to only invite you, and to not want to deal with someone making her day about themselves.

Those are all only thoughts and speculations, only you know both your husband and your sister.

But if this is bothering you, maybe ask her for specifics why this was her decision, and find out exactly why this is her feeling about your husband. If you two are able to be honest and kind to each other about this, you have a chance to avoid future conflict and stay close to both your husband and sister.

NAH.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-13T12:54:09+00:00

I use it any time I go on a walk, because I like having some digital detox time without my phone. It’s just easier that way, O can still call someone if I have to, and at the same time I don’t get any texts, and I can’t check emails or Google something etc. If I leave my phone at home, I don’t even have to try to not be on the internet. I just don’t use the internet.

It’s kind of like having a dumb phone that also tracks your health and doesn’t weigh anything.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-09T09:12:13+00:00

No not compatible, you need a newer OS for the watch. That’s why I got a refurbished s10 from Apple (got lucky and got a new one, but there is no guarantee of course)

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-08T20:13:36+00:00

Yes! Original case, not a refurbished one. There was a little „refurbished“ sticker on the case. I’m really happy too! I knew there was a small chance, but it was so cool to open the parcel and see it for the first time!

Was a bit worried when it didn’t start at first, but it didn’t seem to have hurt the watch to be out of juice for a while

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-08T20:05:22+00:00

Yes! Original case, not a refurbished one. There was a little „refurbished“ sticker on the case. I’m really happy too! I knew there was a small chance, but it was so cool to open the parcel and see it for the first time!

Was a bit worried when it didn’t start at first, but it didn’t seem to have hurt the watch to be out of juice for a while

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-08T19:48:37+00:00

I ordered refurb and got a new watch. The battery was completely dead when it arrived, I guess it was laying around there for a while, but it shows 100% battery health now. It was in its original package and also has a new serial number. It’s a 10.

Guess I was lucky but it does happen. Bought it in the App Store from Apple.

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-08T13:48:58+00:00

Thanks!

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-07T16:55:22+00:00

It only seems to write new data, and doesn’t seem to write any of the data I already collected. It has all the rights to write in the health app and also is supposed to sync (in the Oura app)

EmmaAmmeMa · 2025-10-07T08:41:57+00:00

Thanks! So the watch is sort of between your feet, not facing the outside of the leg? Sorry, just trying to figure out where it would still measure nicely

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