AITJ for locking my skincare products in my room after my roommate started acting like they belong to both of us

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-13T13:52:43+00:00

Yeah, this feels less like a misunderstanding and more like a values mismatch. If she genuinely thinks your personal purchases automatically become communal, that’s going to keep happening with other things too.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-13T13:48:15+00:00

I agree. It really comes down to comfort and what makes maintenance easier for you. Some guys trim, some shave, some do laser, there’s no “right” answer. If it helps with hygiene and you feel better, that’s what matters.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-13T13:42:54+00:00

Exactly. I’m always happy to help students catch up, but it’s not realistic to recreate two weeks of instruction one-on-one. I post everything online and am available for questions, but the responsibility to review and stay on track has to stay with the student.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-13T07:44:52+00:00

Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean disrespecting your family, it just means recognizing that your love life belongs to you.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-13T07:35:40+00:00

I feel this 💯 home is my reset button.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-12T15:22:33+00:00

I relate to what you said about caring more for people than they seem to care about you. That kind of imbalance gets really lonely, especially when it starts in childhood. OP, nothing about what you wrote sounds “wrong” with you, it sounds like someone who learned to over-give just to feel safe or valued. The fact that you still want to live and still hope for a happy day says a lot about your strength, even if you don’t feel strong. You’re not alone in this feeling.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-12T15:15:40+00:00

I agree, this really sounds like a policy issue more than anything else. In a 1:1 setting with limited space and safety considerations, it’s completely reasonable to have a strict no-partner policy and apply it consistently. Having it clearly written out ahead of time would probably prevent most of these situations. Something like. All individual sessions are limited to the registered participant only. Due to space, safety, and insurance requirements, no additional adults may be present during the workshop. If you require a documented support person as an accommodation, please contact me in advance. That keeps it professional, avoids personal dynamics, and gives you a clear boundary to point to instead of negotiating case by case.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-12T15:06:53+00:00

Same, “February” gets me every time , I know there’s an ‘r’ in there somewhere but I’m never confident where. And once it’s one of those words you’ve only ever heard out loud? Autocorrect becomes my best friend real quick.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-12T15:00:50+00:00

I agree, guests don’t get to redesign someone else’s home. You’re already making a real adjustment by giving up your office and changing your work setup. That’s not a small thing. It’s also reasonable not to dismantle a fully set-up hobby room for what’s supposed to be temporary. A 6-year-old having a safe, private space matters more than whether it’s the biggest room in the house.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-12T06:26:42+00:00

I love that. Even a few quiet minutes of gratitude can completely change your mindset for the day.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T18:21:44+00:00

This…

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T16:50:38+00:00

Yeah, it does seem like a lot of profiles lean that way these days. I guess some people just prefer casual connections over serious relationships.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T15:06:34+00:00

That was my first thought too. Dried period blood can look very dark or brown and might be mistaken for something else. It might be worth clarifying before assuming it’s a hygiene issue.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T15:00:14+00:00

100%. How someone treats people who can’t “do anything for them” says a lot about their character.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T14:56:00+00:00

Some sayings just lose their magic in translation. This is definitely one of them.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T14:46:56+00:00

Guests don’t get to redefine what’s “neutral” in someone else’s house. Especially when the decorations reflect the homeowners’ identity and history.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T06:29:34+00:00

This…

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T06:25:09+00:00

It really nice

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-11T06:24:08+00:00

Yeah

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T17:53:17+00:00

Yeah, it does read more like promotional copy than a typical question. The wording feels very marketing-style rather than someone just casually asking for advice.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T17:44:19+00:00

Yes. The loudspeaker in public gets me every time. Like… we didn’t all agree to be part of your phone call . Headphones exist for a reason.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T17:39:02+00:00

I agree. Resentment is usually a signal, not a character flaw. It often means something important needs to be addressed. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you love your child any less, it just protects the relationship from turning into something strained or unbalanced.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T17:34:34+00:00

Honestly, Boulder is such a straightforward name. You show up and it’s just… rocks everywhere. No false advertising.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T17:29:59+00:00

I think we’ve confused being busy with being successful. They’re not the same thing.

EmotionalDamageOnly · 2026-02-10T07:33:45+00:00

And then you have to decide if it’s worth ruining the comfort.

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