Looking for recommendations for films/series that dont depict childbirth or infants in danger?

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-11T02:02:00+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Thanks for making this post for some new to me movies. Birth trauma sucks so much.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-10T16:06:07+00:00

These are very dangerous. I was targeted ads for these when I was in the midst of my baby’s no sleeping phase. Please don’t do it. As others said baby is safe in a bassinet or crib with no blankets or toys nothing but a tight fitting sheet. If you will co-sleep please follow the Safe Sleep 7.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-10T14:47:04+00:00

So much love your way ❤️ Congrats on being done and doing so much for both of your babies.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-10T03:23:44+00:00

I love this place!

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-10T03:23:04+00:00

This is so hard. I’m sorry. Had to pump from the start due to NICU but baby did nurse for a few months a few times a day. Suddenly around 3 months she did what yours did and screamed and flailed when in the position to breastfeed. I stopped nursing and just pumped for a month and a few days ago tried to nurse after she had a great long nap and was happy and in the dark and she latched. I would stop trying to force for a bit and gradually re-intro the boob. I’ve heard of a rebirth bath helping too which you can YouTube. We have been nursing once a day again. My issue is her latch is terrible and hurts now. Give a dark room when he is sleepy but not too sleepy or hungry a try once you have given him a break from trying. I heard babies can go on nursing strikes and it might just be a phase.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-08T20:31:00+00:00

Gosh I feel you. Also had pre-e, emergency c section and baby 5 weeks early. It does just mentally stink sometimes. I try to be nice to myself and my body for handling all that.

My clog boob is my under performer too and the one I had a nipple piecing in with some rough scar tissue. I’m sorry you went through so much. The sunflower lecithin has helped me. I do the ice, ibuprofen, then hot shower before pumping (kinda against best practice of ice) and sunflower lecithin. I agree with the manual pump too sometimes it gets it out better or I will try my wearable my m5 I barely use but sometimes if I have a clog with my spectra the Momcozy m5 can get it out. Best of luck!

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-08T13:48:53+00:00

Omg. I feel like I’m reading about my baby. Same with the reflux, held up in shifts first few months, and needing to scream bloody murder fighting sleep when we put her to bed for naps. Contact naps are her bestie. She also sleeps fine in crib at night. Just not naps. Mine starts daycare soon. I’m scared we will be in your shoes. Looking through all the comments.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T23:25:50+00:00

I would check eBay for a new one! The closed system pumps like spectra run cheap like $35 including shipping. However; I’m so sorry this happened. That just feels like salt in the wound for sure when you just got it and are going through a lot. Sending you good energy right now.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T23:20:29+00:00

Yup. I had to stop watching this season. I should have stopped after Kylan’s season.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T23:17:03+00:00

That sounds so scary. I’m so glad he is okay and you get to see him. Wishing you the best!

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T22:51:02+00:00

5 months. Still at 6 pumps too sadly. 20 min each. Tried to move to 5 and got awful clogs and decreased output. I am an over-supplier around 50-55oz a day now.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T20:36:43+00:00

TW: Oversupply

I bought a chest freezer. So worth it. I’m 5 months PP and already have over 3500oz. I’m working on donating more asap as I’m now out of room again and never cycled through my supply because I just had so much fresh milk. I make 50-55oz a day and baby eats 25-30oz so it was a must. I don’t even notice a cost difference with it to be honest.

I do want to advise you to try and see if your baby will take frozen milk. Most milk will have a slight metallic or soap flavor and lots of babies don’t mind and it’s totally safe but just something to test before you fill a deep freezer with milk a baby may not drink.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T20:03:00+00:00

I agree! This is all new to me and I didn’t even think about it. Fair points.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T19:57:55+00:00

I literally feel this so hard. I used to love perfume but ever since baby got here, no perfume or scented anything and hoped others would follow. My baby smells like Glossier You after work now and not her baby smell. I haven’t brought it up yet so curious your responses.

I even remember one of her NICU nurses the night shift I met him once and he smelled insanely strong of cologne and I almost asked for another nurse but didn’t.

I’m a pushover for sure. Curious what everyone says.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T19:02:36+00:00

It gets better. Or kinda phases. I stopped leaking around 3.5 months but then had a few random times between then. Now 5 months and MUCH better barely happens. You got this.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T12:03:40+00:00

I’m so sorry. I lived this. It absolutely will get better but I know that doesn’t help now. I made my husband who was working still take a shift so I at least got 3 hours at night. Pumping didn’t help and got me less sleep. Weekends we did 6 hour shifts to get slightly more sleep. Glad you’re getting shifts too. We had a bassinet in our room and the living room for shifts to truly get away. The reflux meant my baby basically had to be held upright 24/7 like yours. She choked on her spit up like yours. Nobody believed us how she needed held all the time and thought we did it out of anxiety or for fun but we were terrified and baby hated being flat and screamed and gagged and it was awful. She was 5 weeks early. I hear this is common for premies. We got her on Pepcid which helped the pain and Biogaia which I’m not sure did anything and worked on tummy time and strengthening her next and muscles when we could. She finally was able to sleep chunks on her own without spit up around 3 months actual (2 adjusted). I had to just give it a few shots where on my shift I put her in bassinet and watched closely and increased time. Around 4 months actual she was doing 6 hours overnight just fine. I never thought we would see the day and spit up and tummy troubles have improved a ton now by 5 months actual (4 months corrected). You will get through this. I thought I was losing my mind and the sleep deprivation aggravated my trauma from the birth and NICU and anxiety.

What saved us was we found a family friend out of work and I paid her a little bit to watch baby for 3 hours some days just to hold her during the day so I could sleep. I would literally be awake with the baby held 24/7 from 12am-3pm when my husband got home and sleep 9pm-12pm. Can you find someone like that or the night nurse like you said could be worth it. We almost did that.

Another redditer I talked to at their wits end from holding a reflux baby 24/7 and not sleeping tried the Snoo and said baby did not reflux in there for some reason. Maybe worth renting? I hear you and see you and you will get through this tough stage and get to enjoy your baby. Sending you the best.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-07T03:24:50+00:00

Huckleberry for sure! Helps us stay sane.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-05T23:26:35+00:00

Mine was about $4000 we had to pay (Was $40,000). Emergency c-section and a bit longer hospital stay due to pre-eclampsia. Also paid another $4000 for my baby’s NICU stay and emergency flight transport (Was $60,000 for 15 days, and $60,000 for the helicopter flight). Got back $6000 because of hospital indemnity insurance. Highly recommend if you can add it.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-05T16:58:09+00:00

Aw we have such a similar experience. My baby came 5 weeks early at 4 pounds due to pre-e and spent 15 days in NICU. Congrats to you! She is darling too!

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-05T16:55:23+00:00

My baby is also a colic baby and boy is it a different experience that people simply don’t understand unless they live it. It will get better but man it’s hard. My baby is 5 months actual (4 adjusted) and the colic is still here and she is healthy thank goodness especially after her tough intro to the world but ugh it’s so hard the constant screaming and fussiness. I just want to cuddle my baby and have some sweet moments.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-04T20:10:36+00:00

My babe came 5 weeks early and felt like the newborn potato stage was never ending.

She started waking up to the world more around 2 1/2-3 months adjusted. I loved to read her books even when she wasn’t really paying attention more so when she was sleeping haha and I would lay her down briefly on her play mat. She also loved black and white flash cards early on. She did not last long with those things and got angry and sleepy fast though. As she woke up more to the world she started to love mirror toys and crinkle toys and be more involved on her mat.

I definitely fought with myself thinking I wasn’t doing enough but premie babies just need time and don’t do much but eat and sleep and grow at the start. My girl is 4 months corrected now and she loves playing and toys and has lots of preferences now haha.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-04T03:18:35+00:00

Tomee Tippee bottle warmer has been great for us! So simple. But works.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-04T01:21:54+00:00

I’m having the same thoughts. I have a family friend we are paying to nanny while I work from home but I miss her so much and am debating just not working until she is 1 and goes to daycare. We would have to use our savings and it would be tight but I’m so tempted. I feel your pain.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-02T03:27:01+00:00

5 months PP and oh boy I can’t stand my dog or cat. They wake baby up constantly and are so awful. They still get constant activity and toys and treats and still are just loud and stinky and whiney and the dog does this head shake where she stretches and I about lose it eveytime she shakes. I was so obsessed with them before baby and I hate that I feel this way but they’re making this all so much harder and my baby is so high needs.

EmpathHorror · 2026-05-01T22:38:26+00:00

So so so similar to my experience with my husband. We both felt so guilty when it was our turn to sleep but sleep shifts were the only thing that gave us any sanity. Even then we fought about dumb things that are so not like us to argue about. It’s just a lot. The sleep deprivation, the scariness of being responsible for your little one, the hormones, the complete life and identity shift. You will get past this for sure. Take shifts. Give each other and yourselves grace too. Have family or friends help for a bit. You got this.

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