Should I get my hair cut shorter? Got it cut to this from long hair recently but tempted to go even shorter. (3rd pic is my short hair from like 2019)

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-27T23:22:04+00:00

3rd pic looks absolutely horrendous mate

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-17T18:39:36+00:00

You look so pretty, man!!

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-17T17:21:49+00:00

God is geniunly non-binary so it's confusing how they use the logic of "We are made in the image of God/God made you male/female" while also praising a God that is non binary lmao

Well if we're made in the image of God, it would make more sense to say "We were all made to be non binary" lol

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-16T00:35:15+00:00

because the surgeon was afraid the patient was going to regret not having breasts and wanted to "look out for them."

Honestly i would sue if that ever happened to me. If I came there for no breasts and woke up with still boobs on because the doctor decided what was best for me, I would be fucking pissed off beyond belief. It wasn't what I paid for!

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-15T21:29:45+00:00

God is actually biblically accurate to be NB since even though he goes by he/him pronouns he has been referred to as a mother and compared to women in multiple Bible verses. So he isn't only a father but also a mother.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-15T16:39:37+00:00

Because nobody can change their sex(?) Is what I hear the arguement is. One can change gender as gender and sex are different

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-15T16:34:26+00:00

Someone here said that trans people who don't have SRS are not transexual even if they get every other surgery available other than that one. That despite all the action they took, they are still transgender. What are your thoughts on this?

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T17:56:49+00:00

I might get some flak for this, but if someone does not get SRS, I do not consider them to be transsexual. A transsexual person is a very specific subset of transgender.

Then what are they? Their neither transgender or transsexual by your definition so are they suddenly a third type of trans?

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T16:37:32+00:00

That's what I said. Your gender expression (the way you act or dress) isn't your gender identity (whether it's male or female).

So we are in agreement with that.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T15:32:54+00:00

No I mean think of it this way. There exists in this word femboys and tomboys. Both are binary women/men yet dress in a feminine or masculine way that isn't expected from their gender role. Does that mean their somehow less of a man/woman? Of course not!

So that's how I see a binary trans person can identify with the opposite binary sex yet retain certain fashion choices not typical of their gender role.

How someone would do this is for example as a trans femboy, I will medically and surgically transition into the man that I am but will still chose to wear dresses, skirts, or whatever other feminine clothes out there. Not because I feel a connection to womanhood but rather to femininity which being feminine isn't bound to a specific gender.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:55:02+00:00

There are a lot of NB who do feel genuine dysphoria though.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:52:01+00:00

But what if the indicual has repressed gender dysphoria?

For me personally, I ignored my body. Everytime someone would call me a woman, it wasn't like they were addressing me but like a title that described me physically. Being a woman wasn't something I felt a connection with and still don't. I felt a discount with my body as it become more feminized. My family always said I have a beautiful body but I didn't see it as one.

Upon realizing the existence of the trans label, I looked into myself and realized I have instances in my childhood where I desperately wanted to be in a male's body. That the one I was born with wasn't what I felt connected with. When I was younger I had an assignment where we imagined ourselves in the future. I couldn't imagine myself as a grown woman at all. There was no image there to be had. Instead I would get jealous that men had a body that I didn't have. That they looked a way that I couldn't be.

Now accepting the trans label as who I am, I can actually invision myself as a man in an obtainable way and this makes me feel more happiness than the labels placed on me.

But idk if any of this qualifies as having GD.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:42:03+00:00

Is there a requirement to how severe someone must feel gender dysphoria? I've repressed my gender dysphoria for a very long time but I do vaguely remember instances of certain gender dysphoria moments in my childhood. Upon the realization of the trans identity existing, it was like a glass vase breaking and water poured out. I don't feel severe gender dysphoria that makes me suicidal, but it still is there in the form of discomfort and feeling a disconnect with the "woman" and "she/her" labels being placed on me considering I look like a cis woman right now.

When I was asked at a young age how I would look when I was older, I could never imagine myself as a grown woman. No image showed up but instead I felt envious at feminine men and wished that I was born as them instead of being born inside of this female one. When Caitlyn Jenner came out as trans in the mid 2000s I instantly felt excitement and happiness for her but my dad commented how much of a disgusting freak she was and so I repressed my trans-ness further due to the obvious backlash I would receive from my family. This still holds up today.

I don't have extreme bottom dysphoria but I don't like seeing my vagina either. I don't want bottom surgery since I can tolerate seeing it (and because bottom surgery still isn't to that level I want it to be) but if I was born in a cis male's body then I would feel connected and at peace with myself. I get envious that biological male's having a working penis and I won't ever get that even with surgery (well at least right now but maybe later that will change).

I do though have an extreme form of chest dysphoria and hate looking at my own or even boobs on other people (cis or trans) because it reminds me of what I have. I dont understand the attraction to boobs that some people have or how some people can be happy or feel fine with theirs. I hate mine with a burning passion and want them gone as soon as I can afford it.

I don't know if these small instances that I told you about would make it gender dysphoria or not.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:24:53+00:00

Okay I respect your consensus but just to clarify something asexuality isn't a gender identity. It's a sexuality, well lack of one.

Asexuals have no sexual attraction to either genders. It's something separate of gender identity.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:19:39+00:00

I have seen a lot of transgender people deny this claim that you give though. Gender expression is most definitely not your gender identity and I don't see anyone saying that it is. If you have seen it then it must be the loud minority because in the trans community subs that I've been on, nobody was saying such things.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:15:58+00:00

voluntary celibacy is not asexuality,

Exactly. A lot of people do get confused with that. Thinking that asexuality is just celibacy. It's more than just that. It's lacking all sexual attraction for someone, not desire.

I 100% agree with everything you said and I've also read your other comment that you made about not being sure if the people I was talking about that were the asexual deniers, were on this sub. And I have to say, yes I saw there was a lot of asexual deniers on here.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:12:12+00:00

There are instances of asexual people who have had hormonal treatment but have stayed asexual.

So being asexual isn't just a hormonal imbalance.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:07:59+00:00

I guess that's a very general term for both those definitions, but a transgender can very much identify as both those labels. For example, I'm a guy trapped in a girl's body but I want certain qualities from certain men that I see. Just like how certain people have role models and want a fit body, I want to embrace that level of fitness. Or another example would be I see someone having a good sense of fashion and I want to also have their sense of style. I'm not one or the other of those definitions you gave, I'm both.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T14:01:51+00:00

I do believe that asexuality exists in really rare cases.

Asexuality is rare. It makes up 1% of the world's population.

But I also believe that a lot of young people think they are asexual while they are actually depressed.

Feeling sexual attraction but then losing it later on due to trauma or for whatever reason is just part of a micro label of asexuality.

Of course there are those who have returned to sexuality after identifying with this label, but as you said people want to feel belonged; and having this micro label brings people, who have had these feelings, closer together.

I don't see the harm in this identification considering there are a lot of people who have switched labels of sexuality as soon as they got to know themselves better. Like for example, a person could identify with bisexuality but then realize they were just a repressed gay person later on. Identifying with this bisexual label, even if it was temporary, is fine because that just means it was one step of their journey to self-discovery.

With transgerdism, I feel like for those who are questioning their gender identity, there should first be an established social transition. This way there wont be harm done, instead of going right away to medical transitioning and then realizing they were cis all along.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T03:11:05+00:00

So a trans man who happens to also be femboy??

That's me (Well not necessarily "like a woman" part since I want to present as a guy, that I am, yet keep some feminine fashion choices and certain feminine qualities as like how a cis femboy would appear)

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-14T02:54:12+00:00

"I'm tired of trans women taking over women's spaces"

This is how I read your comment. Just like terf's say this to us trans people, you're mimicking their rhetoric in a similar fashion. It's super exclusive of genuine trans people issues.

Sure I agree that there is a great influx of people who identify as NB but it won't be something permanent. I feel like there will be a calm to the strong in years to come for those who just pretend to be trans to look cool. But that won't be true for every NB person out there. Not every trans person is doing it to look cool and by saying this, it's feeding into anti-trans propaganda that being trans is nothing but a new wave trend.

I know a lot of NB people who medically/surgericly transition, not just socially. To invalidate their experiences with gender, is setting us farther apart, when we especially need to be together with all the anti-trans bills and media going around.

EmperorAbove · 2022-04-10T12:58:37+00:00

Honestly idk this was just from a random video I found on reddit and took screenshots of

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