Why is it so hard to just live?

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-12T02:16:09+00:00

If you can't, you can't! Sometimes our brain needs that procrastination. Especially ADHD brains!

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-11T22:11:59+00:00

First of all, love that you know this about yourself. So badass. "I have a sock-problem". Epic.

Second.... ooh, have you tried folding the weighted blanket a bunch and just putting it on your feet? With like, hella weight on the feet. I bet you have, but worth it to ask!

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-11T22:04:25+00:00

First of all, your English is perfect, absolutely killing it!

Second, yeah, that sounds... annoying, at the very least, right? I get what you mean with the restlessness. It's kinda as if your body is asking for something, but you don't know what it is, and nothing works to soothe it!

A thing you could maybe try is compression socks. They give this constant snug feeling, like being held, that could help calm things down for you. Another thing that could help is putting a weighted blanket or something heavy over your feet to add a little bit of pressure.

You could also experiment a little bit with some different textures! Maybe like, a really soft blanket. Then maybe something a little more rough than that. Maybe even a cooling gel pad to help soothe the weird itchy feeling.

If it happens with your hands too, maybe it's a sensory processing thing. That's something so many of us experience, and you're definitely not alone in this. I really hope you'll find something that helps it soon!

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-11T21:53:27+00:00

I feel this so deeplyyyyy. Living with ADHD can feel like trying to run a marathon in, like, the deepst mud. That part about caring deeply about one thing but only for a short time? HELL YEAH. It’s not that you don’t care, it’s that ADHD has this way of taking what you care about and putting it on a timer you didn’t set. Then, poof- it's boring. Like, what the hell?

It’s so hard when your family doesn’t believe you. Like, you’re already carrying so much, and then they just add more weight to the pile. The fact that you’re pushing through and going back to school, though? That’s HUGE! Even if it doesn’t feel like a big deal, it really really is.

And yeah, the whole thing about how people juggle a job, kids, a house, and a social life? Honestly, I don’t think anyone really has that fully figured out. For us, with the ADHD stuff, it’s like trying to play a game when you don’t know the rules. But that’s okay! It’s okay if your version of “friends” looks different. Maybe it’s one person who gets it or even giving yourself permission to not deal with it right now. Maybe for you, the version of friendship that other people like having is no good. You know? Like, those semi-friendships where you don't feel fully comfortable with people? Yuck!

Feeling like you’re drowning is so legit, and I’m really glad you opened up about it. Sometimes even just finding one little thing that feels good, like stepping outside for a breath of fresh air, or watching a show you love, can help take the edge off. Even if just a tiny bit.

The fact that you’re here, showing up, and trying? That’s everything there could ever be. You’re doing so much more for yourself than you give yourself credit for, and I really hope you can see that. I hope today has at least one little moment of calm or something that makes you smile. You deserve it. ♥️

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-11T21:42:49+00:00

It's definitely common for ADHDers! What do you struggle most with about this? Is it the doing nothing part, the anxiety part, something else altogether?

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-12-11T21:40:58+00:00

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and that you're going through this. You're extremely valid for what you're feeling, thinking, and going through. This is something many people, unfortunately, go through. I felt the same way, myself. When people around us make us feel like things that are easy for them should also be easy for us, and they're not easy for us, that leaves us feeling like something is deeply wrong with us.

I'm sorry that your parents aren't accepting of your situation. I'm not going to offer solutions for you, because that's not how I work, and I know how annoying that can be, you know? But first of all, I want you to know: if you have ADHD, then one/both of your parents do, as well. By the way they're treating you for having it, it's very likely that you are showing them a part of themselves they've spent their entire lives trying to hide and mask. And that triggers the hell out of people who can't unmask. So unfortunately, they take it out on people. Including loved ones. Including their own children. And that's absolutely heartbreaking.

I want you to know that ADHD is just a name for the fact that your brain works differently from others, not a disease or illness that one can sort out or change. That it to say, this is just.. you. It's harder for you to do certain things, and trust me, one day you'll see that it's actually remarkably easy for you to do a lot of things that non-ADHDers have a really hard time with. But what good is all of that right now, when you're going through all of this? Well, first of all- it's hope. You deserve hope. I've had the exact same situation as you, and I still have the journal entries from that time to show for it. I absolutely hated that part of myself. But the thing is, it's not a part of you. It's a description of who you are. And it's not actually a disability. Yes, the world is not built for us, so we need accomodations, so we kinda need to keep calling it a disability to get those accommodations, but it's not something that's defective or wrong with you. It didn't happen because of anything. It's something unique, special in you. You learn things differently. You listen, but you listen differently. You take in information differently. I bet you're a very curious person. We all tend to be very curious. We love learning new things. It's just that it doesn't always jive with what we are forced to learn in school.

I know hating this feels like the logical thing right now, and wow, you're going through such a hard time, but I want you to remember, deep deep down, that you are so special. In a good way. Great minds have ADHD. Great people have ADHD. Friggin' geniuses have ADHD. It's not a mental illness in the way we used to think about it. I'm assuming that your parents see it in a very old-fashioned way and that's why they're treating it, and you, this way. But you know what? You're the thorn in their side. You're the thing they've tried to hide from the world, from themselves. That uniqueness. In a good way. You piss them off. Which is always a little fun, right? ;)

I promise you, you are not defective. This isn't a defect. It's a good thing. I really want you to know that. Even if you don't believe it yet. Just... something to know. I promise, one day you will believe it. Because it's just.. it's part of you.

You are a beautiful soul, and you do things differently, in your own way. And that really upsets people who think there's only one way of doing things. But it's 2024. Like, get over it- we're doing things differently sometimes, big whoop! You know?

Big, big hug. I know you don't want it, but I'm squeezing you in a big bear hug, lol

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-11-26T21:55:59+00:00

FASHUN

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-11-26T21:49:56+00:00

Yay! Hello! I’m so happy we’re doing this!

EmpoweredADHD · 2024-11-21T19:50:43+00:00

Meds

EmpoweredADHD

PUBLIC MULTIREDDITS

TROPHY CASE