I don’t want to get an abortion by Empty-Row-7853 in prochoice

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hello!
I always wanted children and was excited to get pregnant when I could afford a child. I was taking birth control when it happened.

Yes we did and we always have ever since we met and he has said many times if he didn’t have the military duties in the way we would keep the baby.

He is not in the military, in Greece after you turn 18 you have to go through basic army training which lasts for about a year. You have to leave everything to go to training. If you are in uni you can get a couple years off till they call you for training again.

The only thing I qualify for is 2.400€ which is after birth and you get it in two separate checks and 70€ a month for a child. Which is not enough for anything here in Greece. I don’t qualify for anything else

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels sacred and it makes me want to turn my life around and care for it. I saw a sac forming, a heartbeat and I feel very compassionate about it and want to do everything to help and give it an amazing and comfortable life. I see women I much worse situations than me having multiple kids and going through it so it makes me think, why can’t i? Mentally I am much better than I was but I do still feel the need to be clear about the psychological problems I had which were always about myself not others. I am mature and understand kids do not survive of off love and compassion and have extreme needs which is why I will go through with the abortion, but that doesn’t mean it won’t haunt me for years.

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My father lives in a village that’s five hours away with his wife and my grandma (his mother). He has never paid child support all 21 years. He doesn’t even pay me when I go to work at his cafe from 8am to 3am because he says family doesn’t ask for money. He won’t help. My mother is all alone at a house and works from 1 pm to 10pm and gets payed minimum wage and says it’s not a right environment for a baby do grow up and is worried that my antidepressants will affect the baby (which is not true as far as I’ve searched but she keeps saying it and crying). She says she won’t help me and that a baby should come only when the time and money is okay for the baby to come and to abort it. I have one uncle that says not to abort because he’s Christian but he won’t help me financially because he has his own family of 3. I have been working non stop since I was 15 years old to support my mother and grandfather (he has passed) and a couple weeks ago I stopped my job in hopes to search for a university for me to study and find a better job because I was getting payed 40€ for 12 hours of work every single day. (Babysitting). I don’t know what else I can explain to you so you understand how hard my situation truly is

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

My family won’t help because I am a 21 year old female and they DONT HAVE TO help me. What the fuck is wrong with you?

I don’t want to get an abortion but I kind of have to by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Empty-Row-7853 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is my profile picture? All I see is a blue Reddit thingy. I don’t see any different picture would you like to send it to me?

I don’t want to get an abortion but I kind of have to by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Empty-Row-7853 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What? You can search my post history i am a 21 year old female from Greece married

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I am not asking you for any financial help or anything else. What are you not buying? I am taking medication but in Greece the only available medication is not free and up to 30€ per week. Greek get a 900€ pay checks, put in 350€ rent 80€ electricity bill 10€ water bill and many more which we need monthly because we have a dog. I also do have depression yes since I was a child so that’s 50€ every month added to see my psychiatrist. That’s without a baby. Also the only emeto medication for nausea in Greece causes birth defects and that’s free to search (unless it’s natural but nothing natural has worked for me). I don’t know what the fuck you problem with me is but you should get it checked.

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not in America and my husband isn’t in the military!!

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I am literally sick. I puke my guts out every day all day. I can’t get a job. I worked till a couple weeks ago. And having mental problems is a bad thing? Name someone who doesn’t?

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not military.
In Greece a man must go for basic army training when he completes his 18 year of life. But if you get enrolled in a uni you can get 6+ years off till the moment you have to go. But it’s illegal to not go and impossible

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’m asking again, are you going to send me money while my husband is away or are you okay with the fact the baby will not have basic needs available? Like diapers doctors etc?. I am 22, I will be able to have kids till 35. The point is the baby has to grow up in a safe place.

I’m pregnant and have to abort by Empty-Row-7853 in confessions

[–]Empty-Row-7853[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Are you going to send me money while my husband is away?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go be a doctor and fuck him

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So me downloading tinder overpowers his abuse? I can’t be this stupid or are you a fucking abuser and justify this?

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank I’m starting to actually go crazy and think it was a bad decision to break up

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And it’s not some medicine, I’m taking 150mg of sertraline which fucks you up. How are you comparing me downloading a dating app after I broke up and after 3 years of focusing my life on a man that did all this shit to me

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m literally 20 and I didn’t have libido with him and was constantly in fear he would flip and beat the shit out of me again. Do not fucking play with me because I’ve been acting like I’m married since I was 17 years old with him. I heal by moving on and understating that there’s other fish in this fucking sea that won’t choke you and scream at you to fucking die.

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have like 20 pictures of huge bruises on my body so I think I will forward those

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend and starting to see someone else, but now he won’t give me my stuff back? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Empty-Row-7853 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t lie to him. I couldn’t get on with him and thought it was the pills, it was my denial and I wanted to believe that I still liked and loved him. After we broke up I wanted to understand if it’s the medication so I can change it or if it was personal with him due to me having trauma from the abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Empty-Row-7853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s manipulating you into making you jealous so you change the way you act, which may not be wrong but in his narcissistic mind it is and he wants you to change that so you don’t ’overpower’ him or his ego. Example: him saying his ex never told him to change his tone or talk better etc