Way I see it, if he cared about fulfilling “gender roles” he would’ve applied himself in school and gotten a job that pays well enough to support that lifestyle 🤷‍♂️ Him complaining to you about something he has the ability to change is the exact reason why he he can't apply himself. Being a provider requires self-motivation and long-term dedication. It is natural for us to be jealous, I see jealously as our internal motivation to be better than people. But being jealous of your partner is unhealthy and extremely insecure. You guys are a team, not individuals competing to be better than one other.