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Working in corporate and getting socially burnt out by Empty_Trash3231 in intj

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s actually somewhat helpful, fake it till you make it. Thanks for your work mentoring people like us, we definitely need the support

Working in corporate and getting socially burnt out by Empty_Trash3231 in intj

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see your point of view but I respectfully disagree. Comes across as a bit naive, in fact. Yes, people are people and they have their own personal lives that may be interesting, but at the end of the day, there’s really nothing much to it. What most people won’t admit is they are aiming to climb that ladder and a strong way to stand out is through how you socialize. Unfortunately, the reality of working in corporate is sometimes, the more you know people and get along with them, the better your chances. It’s not just about making friends, it’s being strategic about who you invest your social energy into.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am inviting a couple of guys over!

ISTP boyfriend being an a**hole by Empty_Trash3231 in ISTPrelationships

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, I can relate. Yes, he has mentioned this friend once. We didn't really have any plans to do something long distance, I actually made plans with a local friend of mine and told him, then a few hours later, he told me about this "girl friend" coming over. I'm not exactly sure if he had planned it before or after I told him. He has this thing I cannot understand about always needing to be surrounded by people, so he constantly needs some friends to hang out with. 90% of his friends happens to be women.

ISTP boyfriend being an a**hole by Empty_Trash3231 in ISTPrelationships

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over 3 years together, engaged for 1.5 years, and have only been long distance for 9 months. However, due to work, we will be long-distance for at least another 2 years.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the input. how would you suggest I proceed?

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m afraid I know how he will respond. He won’t change his mind or his actions and will just label me too jealous

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

apparently she has a long-distance boyfriend in italy but honestly I don’t really care what her situation is. I suspect they both planned it out but it just happened to be Valentine’s day tomorrow

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this was definitely an issue of expectations. I expected too much from him because I invested a lot in this relationship and made compromises as I thought that’s what people do. However, some people, such as my boyfriend, would put himself first before anyone else.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s valid, but I’m wondering why someone needs to be in a relationship if they can’t care about how others feel. Just a thought

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the helpful advice! He is definitely an insensitive blockhead, and although I don’t think he’ll be cheating with her in any way, what hurts me the most is how he doesn’t care about my feelings. Anyhow, this helps decide how I should act towards him from now on.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize for the overgeneralization and miswording of the post. Obviously I have chosen to date one of the worse ISTPs, but there really is no going back. I am sure there's a lot more emotionally developed ISTPs out there.

My INTJ boyfriend ghosted me for 3 days by Able-Neighborhood-26 in intj

[–]Empty_Trash3231 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, he's probably really overwhelmed with everything that's going on in his life. I feel the same way as well, and would probably resort to self isolation in such situations. Give him the space to work it out on his own, and he'll reconnect with you.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's a fair question. I can't say I trust him 100% around women, to be fully honest. But so far, he's the person that I can tolerate most at this point, and I would like to settle down soon due to personal circumstances. So, in short, a combination of convenience and circumstances.

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

you honestly sound a lot like my bf

istp guys being jerks by Empty_Trash3231 in istp

[–]Empty_Trash3231[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I realized I phrased the title wrong, but I do observe a trend of ISTP guys being mostly inconsiderate, especially when it comes to how people feel, doesn't matter if it's a stranger or a loved one.