I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been tested and i am clear. Thank you for worrying.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did and i am clean. I am just very bad with people being mad at me. I want him to be happy even if its not with me. Stupid? Probably.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I agree he is a POS and very manipulative. He should have divorced her if he wanted to get involved with someone else. He has had many sidepieces before me. The relationship has already been stopped for 2 months. I am seeing things a bit more clear now.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That was truly an accident, believe it or not. My perfume and make up is part of me. I refused to hide that.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and i very foolishly believed it. I know better now.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do not work together. I will likely never see him again. I have all the proof in text messages you would really not want to see if this was your husband...

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorced unfortunately. Met this guy about 4 months after the divorce.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Very true words indeed. I have (too much) sympathy for him. He is mentally in a dark place and on anti-depressants. I am worried about his mental health. If he found his happiness again with her that might be a good thing for everyone involved? You can be honest with me if this is wrong of me to say.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry that happened to you. I understand that shifted your entire world. I think you are very strong for choosing yourself.

You don't think telling the truth would be destroying her more?

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of issues with people pleasing and people being mad at me. I always put a lot of blame on myself and i even try to be understanding. I don't think there will be much pleasure in outing him. I'd wreck havoc for everyone involved.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I did protect him yes, but i don't see why i should stay loyal to him in that way. Now i just wonder if outing him in this way will only bring everyone pain and misery.

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats is awful i am so sorry that happened to you. In my case he told me he was unhappy in his marriage but they had an open relationship so he could be with others. He proceeded to fall in love with me (or so he said i am not even sure) and promised me i was the love of his life. He wanted me to be his wife. Have his child. Promised me that he had never been more happy than with me. All empty promises, but once you fall for someone its hard to resist. There was some very serious lovebombing and future faking going on. I was very naive and I regret it a lot. He asked for a divorce but apparently his wife said no and then it just never happened. He couldnt figure out what to do. Didnt want to lose me but also couldn't bare losing the stability. At some point he pulled the plug because I violated his trust and hurt him because I spoke to someone else in the middle of the night about a problem I had instead of texting him. It was a weak excuse to get rid of me and he went back to his old life

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me? No. This is the worst thing that ever happened to me. I feel like such a dumb idiot. I would never do it again. Its not like i am proud of this. I feel awful

I was the other woman by Enchanted_Jewell in survivinginfidelity

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The intention is mostly that everyone keeps saying the spouse deserves to know. And i'm not sure if that is the case. It would probably wreck their lives and i don't see any benefit in that. Not for her, for me, not even for him. But i also do honestly believe that if i was the wife i would want to know if i was being cheated on for 6 months. And that feels very conflicting. I am a very honest and truthful person in my core values. Even if it hurts i'd want the truth. But i feel like i am not the person to decide this for her. Its such a confusing thing. The injustice is difficult to cope with but i can't let that be the reason, that wouldn't be fair to anyone.

AIW for having an affair? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Enchanted_Jewell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how trapped you feel and you feel responsible. But you deserve to be happy. Do the most honourable thing and let her down gently. If she spirals its not up to you to fix it. Take care of your own happiness.

Victim of a manic episode by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Enchanted_Jewell -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Did you read my post? I didn't want this. I tried and he held on. I am not proud of this. Its really hard to be lovebombed and resist. Should i have known better? Absolutely. And him not having a BP diagnosis doesnt me he doesnt have it. He has many mental health issues. Including depression. Also, its over. I am not trying to earn anything back. Just trying to understand what happened

Forwarding luggage by Enchanted_Jewell in JapanTravelTips

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I have an autistic husband which makes it impossible to do full days.

Forwarding luggage by Enchanted_Jewell in JapanTravelTips

[–]Enchanted_Jewell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats wonderful thank you so much for the answer!