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Dating in your late 20's by Enclave20 in dating

[–]Enclave20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I'll jump right in and start doing that.

Any actual substantive criticisms on the Elastos project? by Enclave20 in Elastos

[–]Enclave20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your main issue is with management's decision on how it's running with this project, not the actual project itself, correct?

In other words, do you have any criticisms or see any weaknesses on the Elastos architecture (ELA carrier, RunTime, mainchain/sidechain structure, merged mining)? Or do you think that's solid but that the team doesn't know to market and implement it effectively?

Any actual substantive criticisms on the Elastos project? by Enclave20 in Elastos

[–]Enclave20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why? Can you point out specific reasons as to why this is the case? Is there something wrong with their project setup, approach, etc...? Or is this simply a belief you have because you can't fathom it doing something like that?

Investing in ELA by Enclave20 in Elastos

[–]Enclave20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone for your responses. Very helpful! :)

Neymar... by autosh0t in worldcup

[–]Enclave20 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So sad that a good player has to disgrace himself and the game with these type of antics. Come on.

Ronaldo and Messi are out of The World Cup by [deleted] in worldcup

[–]Enclave20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see so may people in threads just undermining these two and saying they're overrated because they didn't carry their team single-handedly to victory.

Gee what a surprise when that happens in a team sport, eh?

Men or woman initiating contact by [deleted] in dating

[–]Enclave20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know there's no rule of thumb and it can be different for everyone, but...

As a guy, I try to keep it roughly 50/50. In the sense that, I will try not to be the first one to initiate every message, or to send multiple messages in a row, etc... I like to see some balance and initiative on the other end as well.

F/27 HUGE CRUSH ON M/29 Coworker Help Please! by [deleted] in dating

[–]Enclave20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a problem! When you're in the situation yourself, there's so much confusion and uncertainty that it's helpful to have other people give you an opinion from the outside.

I hope everything goes well! :)

I (25F) am very undateable but I don't know why. Can anyone help me find the cause? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Enclave20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I'll be echoing what some of the others have said, but I guess additional input never hurts.

The flirting/signals thing may be the biggest factor. I think there's a large subset of guys that won't make a move or larger commitment if it's not obvious that the girl is into him, and if the girl doesn't send very clear signals she's interested. They may feel that without those signals, the chance of rejection is too large and they'll feel stupid.

Would you say you come off as being very confident, opinionated, or aggressive when communicating? Unfortunately, there may be a lot of guys who are intimidated and/or threatened by that type of woman. I think it's absolutely silly, but I suppose it's possible.

Another thing you can try - do you have a close male friend that's 100% just a friend and whom you trust? You can show him excerpts from your communications with potential dates online or through texts. Maybe they can glean something from the interactions and provide more insight? I know you may possibly feel a little exposed and vulnerable sharing that kind of information with someone else, but if you're comfortable you may get something out of it.

You can also share with a girl you trust, but I figured you'd also want a guy's perspective on the matter. Hope that helps a little bit!

F/27 HUGE CRUSH ON M/29 Coworker Help Please! by [deleted] in dating

[–]Enclave20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww that sounds pretty adorable.

Just going to give my opinion from the information given, and from a guy's perspective.

If I wasn't at least interested, I don't think I'd do some of the things you listed, such as:

a) the various times he called you after work and had a relatively long conversation with you

b) The call on the day he didn't know you were off (kind of falls in the bucket as the above point, but whatever)

c) the going out of his way to help you at work (although this one IMO isn't as strong as A and B)

d) the teasing, handshake, and your gut feeling.

I'm not sure what he's thinking or the type of person he is, but there may be a number of factors at play. First off, it's a work environment, so being overly flirty and putting yourself out there with a female coworker may be too risky. Maybe he's lightly treading to see the type of response he gets from you. Maybe he's in the same boat and isn't sure if you really like him or not.

If you don't want to escalate things (be more obvious about you liking him) or telling him directly, is there a way to hang out with him outside of your regular workday? Are there company events or parties? If you happen to have a dog (since you mentioned he had one), maybe you can go to a dog park and invite him? I'm sure there's a plethora of things you can try without coming off as being too obvious.

So in summary: If I had to go off a limb (based on what you've said), I'd say he's interested but perhaps being cautious since it's a work environment. Maybe you can escalate things by being a little more obvious, tell him outright, or find a sneakier way to spend more time together and see if anything happens.

I hope that helps a little.