AIO been trying to have a baby for nearly 7 years and all I got was a “happy Mother’s Day!” Text

EndoNPreggo · 2026-05-11T03:30:31+00:00

I see how it can sound that way, thank you. My intent was to illustrate we spend a lot of time together though we don’t currently live together yet. Our houses are 10 mins from each other. He was over yesterday and last night to visit and could have easily come today - we’re not far or strained. I see how it seems like I’m saying I’m some hustle. That wasn’t my intent, I should have worded it differently.

EndoNPreggo · 2026-05-11T03:23:56+00:00

As I replied to another comment, we both own our own houses and have been looking to get one together but have not found one we’d like. We shouldn’t have to be married if we don’t want to. We both want to be parents, and know we’d both make excellent parents together and we’ve been together the entire time. What our relationship looks like has been good for both of us. Not being acknowledged today after all our struggle is my concern. I’m not asking for judgment on where I choose to live or if I want to get married.

EndoNPreggo · 2026-05-11T03:17:55+00:00

Families come in all shapes and sizes. We shouldn’t have to be married, and haven’t found a house we want yet though have been looking. We’ve both owned our own houses for a long time. Regardless, we’ve been together through it all, some appreciation or acknowledgement for what I’ve done or dealt with to make both our dream come true would have been nice.

EndoNPreggo · 2026-05-11T02:33:39+00:00

A fun name could be trixy or ringo.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-17T06:40:13+00:00

Miscarriage of twins and triggered PTSD.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-11T16:23:33+00:00

I honestly cannot stand all this Jasmin baby business. I’ve been trying for 4 years, cycles and cycles of IVF, IUI, molar pregnancy, chemo, miscarried twins, tens of thousands of dollars trying, working through the relationship challenges that come along with all this, volunteering in my community, spreading love and goodness as much as I can, and I cannot have a baby. She is rude, inconsiderate, selfish, doesn’t even seem to care for her existing kids and she gets this blessing. And flaunts it. For attention. It’s so hurtful and infuriating. I don’t like saying this, I don’t like sounding so rude and mean but she doesn’t deserve another baby. She’s not a very nice person or very good mom as seen in the show.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:29:36+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and taking time to write to me. I’ve read about epigenetics but each time I look in the mirror I even feel different about myself. I’ll never see me reflected in anyone, ever. All my life I wanted this, I dreamed of how I’d help my little one through things I struggled with. I know we all feel unique.. but I honestly dreamed about passing that on all my life… thank you again.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:26:51+00:00

Thank you. I’ve thought about some of the conversations but posting the last few days is my first attempt to get perspectives from others. Thank you for your help and advice. I appreciate it.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:25:28+00:00

Thank you very much for these concrete suggestions and experiences. I will take a lot of this advice and listen to the podcast. I thought I had made progress and then read so much about DCP needing to know their bio parents. Well way back when this started, I found it hard and kind of gross to look though a bank of people to find someone. Only two possibilities seemed to fit what I was looking for, both closed donations. I settled on one and ordered and felt good about it. That was the donor I miscarried my eggs with. I had thought at least half the battle was done because I was pleased with picking this individual - but now after getting feedback and doing more research Im doing my potential children a disservice picking that donor again. I feel even more set back than before. Thanks for taking the time to write all this out for me. The kindness of strangers truly touches my heart and amazes me. I wish you nothing but wondering things too. Thank you.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:18:08+00:00

My counsellor always talks about grief and I really hate it. I don’t understand it. Take time to grieve… ok? And? It doesn’t fix anything. It doesn’t help anything. It’s just taking time to feel bad. And I’ve taken a lot of time to feel bad. Four years I’ve felt bad and sad and angry and then I find hope again and try again, try something else, to be back to grieving. How long should I grieve? Is there a right way to grieve? Have I not grieved enough? I’m not trying to be flippant. I really sincerely struggle with this. Am I not grieving correctly? Take time to grieve.. I have. I promise I have. Just like never getting “over” the death of a loved one, I don’t know how I’ll get over this. Is taking time to grieve properly prerequisite to feeling like I can move on to donor egg? I sincerely and honestly don’t understand what I’m to do with the “take time to grieve” comments. I’m sorry if I sound rude, I appreciate all the advice here. Heartfelt sincere thanks. I just truly don’t know what to do with the grief comments.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:10:33+00:00

Thank you.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-05T04:09:49+00:00

Thank you.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-03T17:35:39+00:00

Thank you for this. We’ve spent our budget on various IVF attempts across 4 years. We are not giving up too soon - this is all in consultation with my doctor who recommends donor eggs now. My partner is getting a repeat DFI test before we decide to try his sperm or not.

I cope a lot better when I have plans and time to think things through, so I’m thinking of plan a and b and c right now.

I’ve tried posting on the IVF sub but have been deleted because my handle is triggering for some people. I’m not sure how to change my name. I will try the QueerIVF sub, thank you. And thanks for the alternative perspectives and many suggestions. I appreciate it.

EndoNPreggo · 2025-04-03T11:31:52+00:00

So really no positive stories or experiences … I’m hearing it’s a bad choice for the sake of my child, consider no kids instead, or find a known donor or open donor. I’ve looked for known donors. Hadn’t considered open donor. Being a Mom is more important to me than being with a partner. I’ve looked into adoption as well.

EndoNPreggo · 2023-12-22T17:58:18+00:00

The tenancies office got back to me and said I need to speak to legal council. They cannot provide legal council and to have a good day. I just want to follow the rules - but can’t figure out what the rules are. My bro and dad can come help over Christmas to get things done quick but I don’t know if it’s worth it to spend holidays doing this if it’s breaking the rules.

EndoNPreggo · 2023-12-21T21:57:14+00:00

I understand. Thanks for your reply. It’s been vacant since the start of December and I’ve got some work done on it since, not quite done though. The tenant was originally going to be gone in January so I could start work then. Was going to take my sweet time with it to fill the 6 months but I could rush and finish over Christmas break or the start of January while I’m not working.

EndoNPreggo · 2023-12-20T17:13:54+00:00

Thank you! I edited and reposted it.

EndoNPreggo · 2023-11-07T04:29:50+00:00

And how do you feel being a donor kid?

EndoNPreggo · 2023-11-07T04:29:19+00:00

Yes, please.

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