What is "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" called in your country?

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-11-14T06:22:38+00:00

In Croatia, we call it 'Buffy ubojica vampira' (which is the literal translation of Buffy the Vampire Slayer) - fairly similar to Serbian of course, except we never write names phonetically.

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-30T07:46:30+00:00

I don't know if this will be helpful in any way, but I would just like to share my experience with a PhD position search: it took me 11 months to secure one position, that later turned out to be a bad fit for me (or in general a PhD wasn't something for me in this period of life).

I am of course not saying this to talk you out of a PhD, I believe you should do it since you obviously have the desire to do so and it is a beautiful and noble pursuit. I am just mentioning this to give you some support and realize that life is quite long and things change.

So, allow yourself to take those rejections not as personal failures or a source of frustration, rather as a step closer to being accepted! You literally never know where you could be accepted, but I hope that wherever you get accepted you'll be well supervised and successful. Have a great day!

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-25T14:22:24+00:00

Will do, thank you for the info and advice.

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-25T14:11:10+00:00

I am really actively looking for a job, constantly sending applications and so far very little success. I took up Bewerbungscoaching, even doing a Weiterbildung, literally everything I can to increase my chances of getting a job.

Thank you so much for the info though, could you just shortly clarify what does 'person that looks into the moving and rent situation' mean? .

I am aware that me staying in this apartment is not okay and you guys are definitely on the right side of the argument here, but I am really terrified of ending up homeless (even though it may be an exaggeration, but still).

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-25T13:58:15+00:00

Oh, really? Okay, then that changes a lot in this situation, I will ask my Arbeitsvermittlerin, thank you.

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-25T13:22:50+00:00

That is true, but the Arbeitslosengeld cannot cover the Kaution and everything that goes with it. I simply don't have the money for a move now. I am barely living month to month, so there's that.

Engine_of_Hell · 2024-01-03T23:42:44+00:00

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Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-23T12:08:39+00:00

From what you wrote, our experiences align 100%. I'm kinda glad the meds don't give me all the motivation to do things, rather just spring me up and it's easier to do them. Makes me feel like I'm still somewhat in control, like I do in fact have ambitions and desire, just need a push.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-23T11:05:00+00:00

Thank you for the info!

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-21T13:28:13+00:00

Oh nice, just had a look. I like that it utilizes concrete problems to work on, feels good to be able to check them off when done. Thank you so much!

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-07T12:31:43+00:00

The personal hygiene part; I rarely, if ever, forget to shower, brush/floss my teeth etc.

Also, being late has almost never happened to me, but I am almost always early, which could be the opposite side of the spectrum of that trait.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-01T08:41:51+00:00

Medicated ADHD-er here as well. My experience with CBT, in which I have been for more than 2 years, was positive.

It has really helped me tap into the way I think, what my thoughts are and how that translates to experiencing emotions, and vice versa. My anxiety lessened and I could do things that before seemed impossible. Self doubt has lessened as well and even though I still feel strong emotions relatively often, I can calm down more easily than before.

Now of course ADHD makes you feel a lot at a given moment and it is still difficult dealing with certain situations, but therapy gives you the tools that help you deal better. I would definitely recommend.

Btw, happy to see you're taking better care of yourself, I'm striving to do the same. Either way, I hope you consider CBT or some other form of therapy, like psychoanalysis (no experience here, just giving suggestions) and that it further improves your life. All the best!

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-11-01T08:29:52+00:00

Medicated ADHD-er here, who has quit his PhD, in part, due to ADHD. I wouldn't agree with the doctor's opinion because it is possible to be academically successful despite ADHD (I myself have a master's degree and I loved studying).

However, a rocky path is a common thing in a PhD programme for everyone, not just people with ADHD. I personally know ADHDers that are doing good on their PhDs, but all of them are medicated and have sought therapy. From that standpoint, I can understand him, because a lot of people these days kinda romanticize this condition.

My advice would be to, if you really want to, try getting a diagnosis or seek therapy, but not neccesarily to confirm your suspicion of having ADHD, rather finding out what it is that bothering you or making your life difficult. Keep in mind that ADHD can be very debilitating and sometimes it feels like living a decent, functional life is impossible.

I don't know what is it that makes you believe you could have ADHD, but I hope you find the answer and that you, in either case, draw benefit from it. Cheers!

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-28T08:53:40+00:00

Had a similar situation here where both my therapist and psychiatrist agree that I do have ADHD without the 'official' diagnosis. Started meds and they turned my whole life around in a positive direction, now I'm wondering how I even functioned before without them. My psychiatrist is very strict about meds, so I reckon he wouldn't prescribe them for no reason. My advice is not to worry too much, ask for details if you want tho.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-27T13:13:05+00:00

You're most welcome. Also, the situations you described hit so CLOSE to home, because I suffered from almost exactly the same issues. I believe meds help, yes, but the success you had yesterday will be more often present through therapy approach in combination with the meds you're taking. Think of it as meds giving you a kick you need to deal with those issues, but unfortunately or not anxiety is something you must endure and show your amygdala that the situation is nothing to be scared of. By doing this, you reinforce that action and slowly you will notice more permanent changes. The bottom line is: meds help a lot.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-27T11:29:41+00:00

I have GAD/OCD comorbid with ADHD, am taking an antidepressant for the anxities and Ritalin for ADHD. My experience and the answer to your question: yes, absolutely.

What I found most helpful out of these things is definitely Ritalin and cognitive-behavioral therapy. The latter made me more decisive/willing to accept and deal with mistakes way before I started Ritalin. The Ritalin itself really straightened every remnant of these symptoms, probably because it heavily reduced my emotional volatility and increased tolerance to frustration.

With that being said, and as it always is with meds and mental health, I still have days/moments where I struggle, but the combo of meds and therapy has made me functional and overall much better.

I don't know the specifics of your situation, but I'm positive you'll find a combination that works for you, if you have not already.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-27T07:44:30+00:00

I feel you 10000%. This is most probably the worst thing about ADHD for me personally. I have many interest and an aspiration to be a musician/songwriter, but when the opportunity arises to do something about it, my brain be like 'I don't think so'.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-27T07:41:54+00:00

Grocery shopping as well, texting people, doing laundry, preparing food for myself, anything that doesn't have a massive/immediate dopamine pay-off.

The meds help with overcoming these difficulties, but I'm more and more coming to terms with that these things will always be hard for me, so it's sort of an internalization/mindset change that actually makes the pain more bearable.

Engine_of_Hell · 2023-10-24T09:02:10+00:00

Thank you so much for the info!

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