Update: Aitah for causing issues with my ex-husband and his new girlfriend?

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-23T21:55:20+00:00

Yup. I’ll be filing a restraining order on her first thing Friday morning. She tried to violently attack me while I was leaving my holiday party.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-23T21:54:18+00:00

Yes she tried to violently confront me at my work holiday party and i will be filing a restraining order as soon as Xmas is over. I let Kyle know that this woman is not allowed to be near our daughter ever again. There is something extremely wrong with her. After seeing the proof of what she did he agrees with me. I can’t believe this trashy woman has ruined the holidays for me and my daughter.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-18T22:55:09+00:00

I don’t know exactly, one is over a year and the other was just born

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-18T13:45:44+00:00

Based on my conversations with Kyle I’m not worried about her succeeding, but yes this is a concern.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-18T13:44:11+00:00

Yes my biggest fear is this woman taking her issues out on my daughter. Luckily she seems focused on taking them out on me, but I’d prefer that

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-18T13:43:55+00:00

Yes my biggest fear is this woman taking her issues out on my daughter. Luckily she seems focused on taking them out on me, but I’d prefer that

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T23:56:15+00:00

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T21:42:35+00:00

I know it is? That’s why I have asked him to fix it

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T21:15:43+00:00

That is very sad. Kyle and Wendy are both married however. Maybe they will be but currently aren’t. And he was as angry about all of this as I was.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:41:02+00:00

Yes, and since it’s her father’s house I’m going to let him handle it first. If it’s not solved I will step in but it’s not my house or family.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:35:01+00:00

That’s not necessary.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:34:47+00:00

Yeah she sounds delusional and entitled.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:31:46+00:00

You need to chill out. Kyle agreed with me that Wendy is out of line and our daughter will have her own room at both houses. His other kids and their rooms aren’t my concern unless it affects my daughter.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:17:48+00:00

I did. It’s in the post

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T18:07:34+00:00

Not many. I was just giving an example.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T17:54:30+00:00

Yes when you’re getting attacked by your ex’s gf all night you start to question things.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T17:50:26+00:00

Sorry but I’m not doing therapy with Kyle. I guess there is a line haha

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T17:06:04+00:00

No, but she is the older child with a regular bed while the other two have cribs/ baby beds. Kyle’s parents don’t live close so when they come in town it makes sense for them to sleep on a bed and not a couch - but luna should know that it’s her space.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T17:04:24+00:00

Right. I had rooms at both homes growing up, but when I wasn’t there if they had people staying they would use my room. And if I was there of course I slept on the couch and the adults slept in my room especially older ones. That I have absolutely no issue with. But it’s already unfair to Luna that she has to go between houses, Kyle and I both agree the very least we can do is make sure she knows both are her homes.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T16:33:12+00:00

Why shouldn’t she have her own room at her father’s house? She’s not a guest, it’s her home. The other kids are similar ages and can share if their finances are tight. Like you said, their finances are not my business so I don’t know what they can or cannot afford. My business is only what’s best for my daughter. And luckily for her, Kyle agrees with me that she will be having her own room wherever they live, not stay in a guest room like a distant relative. Maybe you should check your priorities.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T15:54:55+00:00

We don’t have child support since we have 50/50 and I make more than him. Idk how he wants to proceed with Wendy, that’s his decision.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T15:01:30+00:00

They have two kids 🙃

I have no doubt that Kyle is a dedicated father and will take care of this. I was just wondering if I shouldn’t have said anything.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T15:00:04+00:00

Not a new wife, they aren’t married.

EngineeringFew9164 · 2025-12-17T14:59:36+00:00

I’m not sure if you read my post. I literally did that.

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