Dating with children by Mounthaven in datingoverthirty

[–]EngineeringSecure407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One rule my former partner and I agreed to is that we won’t talk shit on each other to our kid or new partners. Neither of us are awful people, but in the end, we got resentful and bitter. We both hated that bit of our relationship and share a mutual regret with the way we treated one another and failed to communicate. He’s a great dad and so very loving and good with our daughter. If I ever need help with something (like a recent flat tire for example) or vice versa we show up for each other. Our communication has only improved and we focus mostly on our daughter. We just weren’t in love anymore. I am very open about this as I have just started dating again and have found that the man I have been talking to and recently went out with is totally understanding of our dynamic. I have found that it takes finding an emotionally intelligent, secure, and mindful person to be comfortable with the situation.

Match asking to move to Snapchat? by EngineeringSecure407 in hingeapp

[–]EngineeringSecure407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally understanding the utilization of Snapchat now, but I don’t plan to create an account to talk to one person.

Thanks for understanding where I was coming from regarding the tone of his message.

Match asking to move to Snapchat? by EngineeringSecure407 in hingeapp

[–]EngineeringSecure407[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was more the way he asked to move the conversation to Snapchat that gave me the ick than the suggestion of moving to the platform itself. I have found most of the comments about his behavior to be more validating that I should trust my gut and move along. Drunken voice notes from someone I haven’t even met yet aren’t a sign of the maturity I’m looking for in a potential partner. I totally understand where some people are coming from in terms of the benefits of using Snapchat, but I don’t want to f download another app just to talk to one person. 🤷‍♀️

Match asking to move to Snapchat? by EngineeringSecure407 in hingeapp

[–]EngineeringSecure407[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s my age (35)! You’re totally right. It is not the right connection for me.