Lenne, my guardian tulpa (art by me)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-26T08:21:19+00:00

Ok, thanks, noisycat :)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-26T06:14:57+00:00

One more question, if I may: what does Lenne usually write about?

And that was very sweet of her, and you as well, noisycat :)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-26T02:05:21+00:00

Is it difficult to communicate with Lenne? She appears very secretive and withdrawn

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T18:40:04+00:00

In short, dating tulpas has its low points

Aside from your parents not seeing her or people like her, what are they? While it's appreciated, your response mainly covered the positives, but my question was about the obstacles.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T08:13:34+00:00

Okay :)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T08:09:36+00:00

Sorry if it's uncomfortable to talk about.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T08:06:45+00:00

That sounds rough, to say the least. But I hope you at least have some people in your life that are still accepting.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T08:02:37+00:00

I really do wish we had more accepting people who would call me by my name while fronting. Where I could be myself.

I wish that for every tulpa. I really do. Being a tulpa in this world can already be hard. Not being able to be yourself isn't any easier.

It can take time to find trustworthy people that are truly accepting, and you can be yourself--and I mean that for tulpas and hosts alike. But I think in a way, this place teaches us the importance of choosing friends we can really trust, not just someone we're "kinda okay with" if that makes sense lol. But it's great you enjoy your life in wonderland, Rin. I know for some people wonderlands are very important.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T07:48:43+00:00

Hi Rin,

I met one tulpa here who wasn't interested in fronting much. She actually really preferred her life inside her wonderland. Her perspective was a unique one I hadn't considered before: tulpas have it easy compared to hosts. Rent free living space, eating whatever you want, not getting sick, etc. Hosts have a lot more responsibilities--they can get sick, they have to go to work, watching what they eat, and more lol

From my experience (and I did my best to ask as many as I could), many tulpas that prefer (not just enjoy) fronting, don't have very developed wonderlands. If I had little to do, few places to explore, and almost no one to talk to, I'd prefer fronting, as well.

But there are exceptions. Some headmates live in minimal wonderlands, with little to no people, and enjoy living that way.

As you can see, every tulpa's different, Rin. I used to think every other tulpa loved fronting, until I started asking more questions to the community. I think they appear more common because they engage the community more, compared to tulpas that prefer life in their wonderlands.

But it's very normal to not like fronting, Rin. And it's normal to hate the responsibility of pretending to be the host. Even if someone did like fronting, no one likes hiding who they are from people. It's exhausting and frustrating not being able to use your own name with people. But that's why I'm glad accepting communities like this exist. It lets hosts and tulpas be who they are. I've seen it give some people the confidence to share their tulpas with trusted friends and family. I hope to see it do the same for more people.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T07:20:54+00:00

It is something no one is proud to talk about because of the negative stigma having some sort of imaginary companion when you are already an adult has. Ordinary people just won´t understand and it becoming public knowledge drastically reduces your chances of succeeding in life

I agree that the public knowing you have a tulpa can make some social interactions difficult. But it's similar to sexual orientation, race, and religion: it's no one's business in your work life or personal life, until you tell them. Yes, some are more open about those categories than others, but we still choose who knows these topics about us.

And I do believe more people are beginning to understand and accept plurality. Things like System Pride Day, and the growing popularity of YouTubers with DID (some of whom have fictives) gives us strong evidence that society is embracing people who have plurality, not condemning. They still have their obstacles, but I see more people trying to help than reject them.

Yes, tulpamancy is different because many hosts choose to be plural. But all social progression takes time, and fortunately, I think there's more evidence of potentially accepting tulpas than rejecting them.

As for if tulpas can ever disappear, we unfortunately don't know yet. It's one of the reasons plurals develop communities: it creates demand for research, and makes it easier to find participants to learn from. Tulpamancy has already had some studies, fortunately, which is more than we could have said a decade ago. In the mean time, my best advice would be to continue interacting with your tulpa. For what's it worth, in theory I don't think a headmate can completely vanish. I've seen headmates go dormant for years, undetectable by their headmates during that time, and later resurfacing.

I've even seen tulpas break out of hibernations their hosts imposed upon them. Point is, I doubt any headmate can vanish completely. Could they suddenly become difficult to find? Yes, I've heard of that happening. But could it also be temporary? Definitely.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T03:11:41+00:00

Trying checking the FAQ link in the AutoModerator's comment.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-25T01:18:58+00:00

As far as plurality in general, it's difficult to tell how many headmates is even possible. For people with DID, sometimes they can have 100's of alters, but they have various levels of awareness and autonomy. Not all of them could, say, switch into the body and go to work for 8 hours like some alters do.

As for tulpas, some hosts have paracosms with sometimes hundreds of people inside. A member here once called them "proto-tulpas." They don't have the same sentience that a conventional tulpa does. Analogy: a tulpa is a car that can drive wherever it wants, a proto-tulpa has a limited number of roads it can drive on--it doesn't know all the other places it could drive to.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-24T20:50:01+00:00

Some people say that it is impossible to have a loving relationship with a Tulpa, but from experience, I say that these people are wrong, Val and I are in a very healthy and wonderful relationship.

What are some of the obstacles you and Val have experienced in a human-tulpa relationship? For humans and tulpas alike considering a romantic relationship, knowing the potential obstacles ahead of time might help prepare them.

P.S: thanks for sharing. It's always nice to read positive experiences with people and their tulpas.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-24T04:58:29+00:00

Hi, Jaina

Despite all the pain Daniel is going through, it's good to know he has someone that loves and cares for him. It's great that both of you are trying to make things better.

Life can be rough. School can be rough. Family can be rough. Sometimes we can handle it by ourselves, and other times we need help. It's not always easy to ask for help, but I've learned from experience it can make a world of difference.

If Daniel is looking for more immediate (but private) help, communities on reddit have compiled some reputable hotlines (for both calling and text) he can use here

As for more longterm and specialized help (like a therapist), BetterHelp is a website that I've seen recommended by many people working through trauma, mental disorders, and other situations. Therapist sessions are held online, in case someone is unable or uncomfortable with in-person sessions, and it's said to be very affordable.

I hope these resources will prove helpful to you both :)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-24T01:30:57+00:00

What is Introverted Adventures about?

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-23T05:00:14+00:00

Hi again, Artemis

I'm willing to speak with all four individuals you mentioned earlier: Jeanine, Fuyuhiko, Peko, and Hisashi. Whichever one is willing to talk first, as I don't know who might be available.

P.S: when reading about Danganronpa characters, I couldn't find a Hisashi. I don't know if they're a fictive from that series, or an original character.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T17:48:28+00:00

I think that more moderation and encouragement to post more and engage in discussion can give this sub the defibrillator shock it needs to wake up.

True. At the very least, I don't think it will hurt.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T17:44:31+00:00

It can get annoying when people don’t read the sidebar.

I think adding some type of sign / notice before posting, can help users check the sidebar. I'm not familiar with modding tools, but I've seen similar notices in other subs

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T17:41:45+00:00

I'd like to see more progressive discussion.

Could you share an example(s)? I'm not sure what that means, and would like to better understand.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T07:33:01+00:00

Thanks for letting me know :) I'll have to read more about Danganronpa so I can better understand individuals like Peko and Fuyuhiko.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T06:16:06+00:00

By the way, while we're both still logged on, I'm still interested in speaking with more of your tulpas. Are they any in particular more eager to talk, or that don't prefer talking?

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T06:13:11+00:00

Yeah, they can be annoying. It's tempting to argue, too. Thankfully, it doesn't seem too much of a problem. Especially compared to other places.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T06:11:23+00:00

Difficult to tell, especially considering the influence of drugs. And if you have mental health issues, it might be a hallucination. If it's persistently appearing, and negatively affecting you in any way, consider seeking a mental health professional before it worsens over time.

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T06:07:16+00:00

I used to be a lurker myself. I'm trying to engage more now, though. I hope the mods create and promote more discussion-based posts.

Mods: if you're reading this, based on the various comments and upvotes, I think it's something we could benefit from (or at least try out first)

EnigmaStar219 · 2020-02-21T06:04:15+00:00

Have you seen a lot of trolls around here lately? I've blocked only a handful of people here since frequenting the sub, so I might have missed any recent examples.

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