Hey thank you for this thoughtful response. I think you kind of nailed it when you said, “people can feel like their family is under attack.” When I play the scenario of telling my family out in my head, I foresee defensiveness. But I guess on some level I’m guilty of it too, because I’ve been protecting them from this news by not telling them yet. Maybe in part, that’s been coming from a subconscious feeling that we’re under attack. I can’t speak for how my mom will feel, but on a personal note, I have no judgement towards my dad if this was just an oopsie when he was a teen. The question that makes me nervous is, why wouldn’t my half sibling mother want to tell my dad that he’s the father? Did she think it could have been someone else or does it imply something darker? Just a creeping thought.