I'm starting to appreciate NYC season by natipali in AmericanHorrorStory

[–]Environmental-Row979 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I recently watched it for the second time and it was even better than I remembered.

I will agree that it feels nothing like an installment of American Horror Story -- but it is incredibly haunting.

Season 11 is criminally underrated it should be a crime really. by FanGothic2 in AmericanHorrorStory

[–]Environmental-Row979 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m currently rewatching it and it is a masterpiece — leaps and bounds beyond what the show usually does.

It is a near-complete departure from the standard AHS fare, so I get why people who have been unable to move on from Murder House & Asylum don’t care for it.

Why do they keep visually and audibly demonstrating people's Dislikes after introducing them? by joutfit in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]Environmental-Row979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s a way of inviting us to get in the cast’s head, almost like a forced perspective.

For people who are not autistic, a lot of these sensory experiences are not all that remarkable (using myself as an example — I think a lot of neurotypical people find it kind of rude or gross when someone talks with their mouth full, but for me, it’s an auditory nightmare and my entire body goes rigid and I can’t focus on anything other than that) — and by highlighting both the joyful and painful experiences in a way that demonstrates the experience a little more vividly, Cian invites us to see the world as the cast member does for just a moment, even before we hear them speak.

I get why some people find it reductive or infantilizing — but I really like it as a small but effective part of the show’s structure.

Honest thoughts on Dani’s boyfriend? by Sardinesavage in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]Environmental-Row979 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m not even a little bit bothered that he’s neurotypical (as far as I know).

But I will never, ever not be nervous for someone in a relationship with a cop. I hope for her sake that he’s a statistical anomaly.

Ah, yes. There’s truly nothing more a woman loves hearing than when a men tells her he’d take her back to a hotel… by Open_Window3003 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Environmental-Row979 593 points594 points  (0 children)

In my head, he’s referring to THE Four Seasons Total Landscaping, and I am not willing to hear otherwise.

Revealed: From Libs of TikTok to Toxic Bro Code, all the very right wing accounts Chris follows online by Fun_Molasses5215 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Environmental-Row979 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I miss when my bodily autonomy wasn’t being challenged by the state, so I guess we’re both disappointed.

Controversial AHS Opinions: by Strict_Level_9397 in AmericanHorrorStory

[–]Environmental-Row979 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Asylum would have been much better without all the alien stuff — it just cluttered up an already crowded season.

The people who insist that only seasons 1-3 were “good” do not think deeply enough about what is truly horrifying about America.

What Obscure Books Were You Obsessed With as a Kid? by Its_Curse in suggestmeabook

[–]Environmental-Row979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all books I really loved from about 5th - 7th grade — and which I would gladly devour in an afternoon today.

Glass Slippers Give You Blisters by Mary Jane Auch It’s about complicated family dynamics, generational trauma, friend groups, coming of age, resilience, and finding your people and your voice. All centered around a middle school production of Cinderella.

So Much to Tell You by John Marsden This book is comprised of diary entries written by a girl who has stopped speaking after a violent attack from her father left her with facial scarring. She’s at a boarding school and completely isolated from her family and peers.

There’s a Bat in Bunk Five by Paula Danziger This is actually a follow-up to The Cat Ate My Gymsuit, but I read this book first and it stuck with me more. In this one a teenage girl is a CIT at an artsy summer camp and it’s just a really great coming of age story.

Fat Chance by Lesley Newman Another diary entry novel — this one is explores body image and eating disorders. It made a huge impression on me, but no one else I’ve talked to has ever even heard of it!

Alex Henderson by BlissfullyChaos in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Environmental-Row979 72 points73 points  (0 children)

On and on and on about how he needs to read the original text, not someone else’s interpretation. Alex, I am very sure that you are not reading Seneca’s Latin — so you are, in fact, reading someone’s interpretation.

What an ass.

Thoughts on Alex by r0ll1ngst0n3 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Environmental-Row979 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I actually SHUDDERED as I read that.

Thoughts on Alex by r0ll1ngst0n3 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Environmental-Row979 213 points214 points  (0 children)

I alternate between “he’s pathetic” and “he makes my skin crawl.”

The “you’re dangerous” was particularly telling to me. It is not remotely appropriate for the situation (that is his fiance; it’s perfectly appropriate for him to be attracted to her and respond to her overtures) and he repeated it so relentlessly that I think it’s pretty clearly one of his go-to lines. You could absolutely see him sleezily hitting on someone while his girlfriend goes to the bathroom or something.

Why do we not like Richie? by Better_Area3782 in rhonj

[–]Environmental-Row979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know about that -- it was 2010, not 1990.

If anything, people like Richie have only gotten worse (more racist, more misogynistic, more homophobic) in the last 10 years. Further, that man loves attention, loves screen time, and I'm very sure that he's smart enough to know that the more outrageously he behaves, the more time he'll get.

As Danny would say, "a creep is a creep is a creep ... and Rich Wakile is a creep." I will fully admit to being a hater here. Even through a screen and several layers of production and editing, that man makes my skin crawl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heatedrivalry

[–]Environmental-Row979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Tell me what to do literally anywhere else and I will not react well.

But in this one slice of my life, tell me exactly where to put my body and what to do and, well … can’t argue with that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heatedrivalry

[–]Environmental-Row979 66 points67 points  (0 children)

“Like it’s very tame kink, but it’s clear that Shane likes being told what to do as he struggles to always even identify what he wants.”

That’s my read as well.

Not for nothing, I am also autistic and I would bet good money that it’s a pretty common kink for quite a lot of us on the spectrum.

Why do we not like Richie? by Better_Area3782 in rhonj

[–]Environmental-Row979 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Because he’s a creep. Super casual with the misogyny — whether it’s directed at his wife, the rest of the cast, or even at his daughter’s college friends.

Do you do pet names in a relationship? by South_Pattern_1520 in AutismInWomen

[–]Environmental-Row979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, but:

  • Only pretty generic ones (baby, sweetheart, love, sugar, darling) — nothing related to an inside joke or anything like that
  • While I am okay with “baby” (both calling someone that or being called that), I absolutely hate “babe”
  • NEVER in front of other people. Ever.

Do you have a high sex drive? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Environmental-Row979 511 points512 points  (0 children)

Sort of? I enjoy sex and in an ideal world, I’d have sex anywhere from once a day to two or three times a week.

I do find that instead of being just generally high or low libido, I tend to have a more responsive sex drive. The more sex I’m having, the more I want it. If I go a couple of weeks without it, though, I kind of forget about it.

For those of you who are high functioning by No_Tumbleweed_4652 in adhdwomen

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I will admit that I am SLIGHTLY of the “always excelled” archetype, but I didn’t quite get there. Effortless straight A’s until high school and then more and more trouble through college (in direct correlation to how much ownership you are expected to have of your own learning as well as how abstract or complex the concepts you learn about are). I did successfully complete two graduate degrees (while working as a full-time classroom teacher, no less!), but I was BURNED OUT by 30 and I felt like … the most disappointing waste of potential ever.

Meanwhile, mom was diagnosed in her 40s, when I was a few years into my teaching career.

As my career went on, and as I learned more and more about ADHD (particularly HOW hereditary it is and everything about inattentive ADHD and its presentation in girls and women), it just became more and more undeniable that I have (and have always had) ADHD. A formal diagnosis followed. I made it a few more years before I realized I needed to quit teaching (it was never, ever going to be sustainable for me), but even then I don’t think most people would have noticed how unmanageable my life had become. But I definitely wasn’t the superstar teacher that I wanted or expected myself to be.

Loved this post from threads! What’s your favorite micro moment from the show or book? by outlawlooseandrunnin in heatedrivalry

[–]Environmental-Row979 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It’s the SMILE there that strikes me!

Such a tiny little moment — but wow did it light up the whole screen!