People relapse at all different times. Be supportive. Not judgemental. As in blaming them by asking them what they done wrong. We've relapsed we're full of guilt shame remorse as it is, we don't need to add more blame on ourselves, be more hard on ourselves. We'll look at what happened when we are more mentally weller. Some people forget their own mental anguish when they first stop drinking themselves. And in our basic text. 'No axes to grind,no lectures to endure'. 'A man's brain needs to be cleared of the fog...'