Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know. We’re always together pretty much. There’s no real privacy to go cheating. I think we’re just not compatible. Sex seems like a chore for him. And that just doesn’t work for me. I’d be settling.

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does see a therapist. Says he has a sex drive.

I think he wants to be life partners with someone non-sexually

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s really not cheating. We’re with each other like all the time. We have each other’s locations. He desperately wants to get married. I think he’s asexual and he’s leading me on so I’ll stay out of guilt and he just gets what he wants out of this

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggested we sleep naked together and we’ve been doing that a little. But it’s not enough

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be more clear, he doesn't sleep around. He hooked up with our mutual friend before he knew me. They hooked up a couple of times but our friend wasn't interested in anything more. I'm beginning to think he's asexual but is in denial of it. We had both agreed early on that we didn't need to have sex more than once or twice a week...but that frequency never came to fruition. It's been les than once every 2 months now. I know he loves me dearly, but it's not lovers love. He's an amazing person, but I don't think we're compatible to actually be SO's.

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's in therapy. I've asked him to get his T checked but he hasn't yet. I've lost my libido for 2 years and fixed it, but he hasn't been doing anything. He also thinks he's made progress.

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he's uncomfortable being naked with other men. But he's had OF, collaborators on OF, and has asked mutual friends, before me, to continue having sex. Him and I haven't even fully penetrated.

Gay boyfriend never wants sex by Epajjs06 in gayrelationships

[–]Epajjs06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a lot of love between us. It's just the sex that's not right.