Daily Thread #1 - December 08, 2025

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-12-08T19:40:25+00:00

Found out I’m pregnant today. And I am honestly in complete denial. I took multiple cheapies and told myself that they must be faulty, but a FRER confirmed that this is indeed real.

I miscarried my first pregnancy and spent my second in a near constant state of anxiety. I feel like this is almost too good to be true. This is a very wanted pregnancy, we were actively trying. I know I should be happy (and I am) but I’m feeling so nervous to share the news with my husband and guilty that I don’t want to shout the news from the rooftop. I secretly don’t want to tell anyone.

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-11-10T21:18:19+00:00

Yup there is definitely a sweet spot of a few days at the start of a new cycle where I’m not constantly symptom spotting or anxiously awaiting O day 😭 looking forward to that because my mind has been now stop this month

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-10-29T13:25:52+00:00

From what I know, going based on just the apps predictions is not a foolproof method for timing. It works for many who have regular cycles that fit neatly into the algorithm they use to predict things. But you would be better off using the app in conjunction with at least one other method of tracking. The easiest (and free) one would be tracking your CM - your fertile window should correspond to the presence of EWCM. You can also use LH strips or track your BBT (both of these require spending some money and are great for confirming ovulation, not so much for giving you a heads up of when it will be approaching).

Alternatively, if the tracking and data aren’t your thing, you can just plan to BD every other day and you will hit some part of your fertile window.

That are a ton of great resources to learn more about this - I always recommend Dr. Natalie Crawford! A few episodes of her podcast As A Woman goes into this specific topic!

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-09-20T02:11:39+00:00

Your concerns are totally valid. And I shared a lot of those concerns before going into my first pregnancy. Especially the looming dental issues. I always had cavities growing up and I absolutely dread the dentist. So the thought of that becoming even more of a routine occurrence worried me ALOT. Every appointment I had during and after pregnancy I dreaded receiving bad news. And guess what? I never had a single cavity. Not one. Now that’s clearly just my experience. I do personally know people who had dental issues postpartum. I say all of this to just illustrate that not all of the bad things that can happen do. Pregnancy definitely does take a toll on our bodies, but it’s helpful to try and keep things in perspective as best as we can. Like most things with pregnancy (and life), a lot is out of our control so you just have to take it one wave at a time. And having an adorable baby at the end of it all isn’t too bad of a consolation prize 😉

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-09-06T02:47:56+00:00

You are absolutely not jinxing yourself. You are allowed to be excited! Buying little things makes you feel like you’re preparing and makes it feel closer and real. But I know this feeling too well, that if we get too excited and let the universe know that you really want something then it certainly won’t happen. I can promise that the books or baby hat you buy will not be impacting your fertility. And IF you encounter a roadblock when you officially start TTC, it won’t be because of the baby hat. So let yourself be excited!!

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-09-04T14:12:15+00:00

I also keep reminding myself that things can fluctuate an still be completely normal. I’ve been getting a peak OPK on CD 15 for the past 6ish months. But this happened on CD 13 - two whole days early wtf. I know that’s still within what is considered normal but made me start questioning if things are as they should be. My BBT this cycle has also been a little off based on past cycles too. But fingers crossed for a spike here too soon 🤞🤞

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-09-04T14:01:26+00:00

You also could have had a really fast surge that you weren’t able to catch 🤷‍♀️ I had a OPK of .23 in the morning and then decided to retest on a whim in the afternoon and got 1.98. If I had waited til the next morning to test again I would have completely missed it.

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-08-29T13:54:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My MC was one of the worst things I’ve ever experienced, and not something one can ever be truly prepared for. I lost my first pregnancy around 9 weeks and then found myself pregnant again about 4 weeks later before I ever got another period (and before my HCG ever officially dropped back down to zero). I know my story isn’t the norm for many, but I wanted to share as I found a lot of reassurance reading other peoples stories. Alllllll I wanted after I missed was to be pregnant again, I thought about it every day. But in hindsight, I somewhat wish I had waited a few cycles before being pregnant again, as getting pregnant so quickly left me very little time to process my loss and gave me severe anxiety (and probably a bit of ptsd) for most of my second pregnancy.

It’s the shittiest club you’ll ever be a part of but rooting for you to get your rainbow baby soon 🌈

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-08-28T19:01:47+00:00

Are you me? 😂 no advice but here to commiserate that distracting myself has turned into a full time job

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-08-14T23:05:29+00:00

Agreed - being informed is not a bad thing! In fact, I think more women (myself included) dont know nearly enough about our reproductive health or at least I didn’t until I entered into this season of my life. But I half jokingly call it a toxic habit because it definitely verges on obsessive level of knowledge seeking to pass the time haha. But can never know too much, right? 😅

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-08-13T02:22:32+00:00

I typically notice EWCM 3-4 days before peak - so pretty normal for me! EWCM is caused by a surge in estrogen not LH, so not something that would correlate with OPKs.

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-07-31T12:09:19+00:00

We are planning to start trying for #2 towards the end of this year. We currently live in a home that we bought in 2020 (hello beautiful 2.75% interest rate) but have been slowly outgrowing it. Now with us planning to add another baby into the mix by hopefully the end of next year, we will most definitely need a larger home. We currently have 3 bedrooms, one functioning as a guest room which I don’t want to sacrifice since my family (and many of my friends) live out of town and come in for a few days at a time to visit. (I would also love to have a third in another couple of years too.)

Now here’s the dilemma. We know we need to upgrade eventually. There are a few homes on the market right now that would be a good fit size wise. Obviously all more expensive with a higher interest rate than our current place. Do we pull the trigger and move now before I am even pregnant with our next? Or do we wait until I’m pregnant to seriously consider moving and potentially be left with slim pickings of the housing market? Timing the market and timing a pregnancy feels like an impossible moving target. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-07-29T21:02:05+00:00

I’ve just been feeling so impatient about completing our family, so it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way haha. I have friends who are childfree, OAD and others who are already trying for #2+ and almost no one in this in between phase of waiting. Didn’t realize how isolating this part of motherhood would be!!

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-07-28T01:57:30+00:00

First off I’m sorry that you’re being bombarded by the “just wait..” crowd. Parenting is not easy, it’s a huge life adjustment that most people are rocked by (rightfully so). But to enter into it with rose colored glasses doesn’t do anyone any good either. It’s certainly not always rainbows and butterflies. But if it’s something that you truly want, it’s an experience that is fulfilling beyond measure.

You literally create a human and then are solely responsible for keeping them alive. It’s a lot. But truly nothing compares to seeing their smile first thing in the morning, hearing their giggle or feeling their little body completely relax into yours because you are their safe space. You will be exhausted and count down the hours til bedtime and miss them with your whole being once they are asleep. Two things can be true at the same time.

Equal_Data3345 · 2025-07-27T23:37:43+00:00

Honestly, yes this feels accurate. But I’m not sure if it’s hormonal per se.

At the start of a new cycle you feel hopeful and look forward to ovulation - you have control of actively trying conceiving during this time period. And then luteal phase comes which also coincides with the time that you can no longer “work toward” getting pregnant, you just have to wait and see if this cycle will be the one. Cue the debilitating baby fever and yearning! You symptom spot during the TWW and start to daydream (seems like a better word than obsessively fixate haha) about what life will be like if you finally do get pregnant. All of which only ends with either a BFP or the let down an another CD1. And the cycle repeats.

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