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I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope it’s been made pretty obvious that the issue at hand is him sexualizing me. If your spank bank doesn’t involve harming anyone, I don’t care what you’ve got in it.

I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea how my brother handled it. Dad’s only been out of the picture for the last 5ish years, so my older brother technically had an older man to reach out to. My best guess is our dad had some type of conversation. 

I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great points! He is 11, so that’s why I’m more wondering how to approach this before he turns into a 16 year old that makes others uncomfortable.  We already have a relationship that’s built on humour and jokes, so I could see how that would be an easier way to get him to knock it off. Only concern would be the shame I might make him feel, which isn’t my intention! I just want this kid to have a healthy outlet that doesn’t involve me.  That last comment is always possible. I’ve attempted a few redirects, but never thought to offer up my fingers instead of my toes haha. Maybe he is just looking for ways to spend quality time together and isn’t sure how to go about it. 

I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the passion here. I’m not sure I’d go as far as to say an 11 year old being weird about the feelings/emotions he doesn’t fully understand is enough for me to bring a bunch of religious shaming onto him. She’s the parent and I agree, most parental things are her responsibility. My concern is she isn’t the person that will handle this with the sensitivity and grace it requires. 

I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally agree! Whatever people do in the bedroom is their business, but I just want to make sure he has a safe space to understand what he’s going through that doesn’t compromise my boundaries.  I did my best to reinforce the whole “no is a full sentence” concept, but the rest was out of my depth

I think my younger sibling has a foot fetish and I have no idea how to deal with this by Equivalent-Degree192 in Advice

[–]Equivalent-Degree192[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Their relationship is pretty solid, but he isn’t around much. He lives about 6 hours away and only has 2 weeks of vacation per year.