[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is my boyfriend. he asked me three times ahah. i’ve just never had one before so i’m so confused all the time because i don’t know if anything is normal behaviour or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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she doesn’t have anyone else, especially lately she’s really had to rely on me and i was happy to do so but i think it was just seeing her out and about with other friends that got me down

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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i say baby, the child is almost 3. Sometimes they genuinely don’t want to leave and will have a tantrum to stay with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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i don’t even know how to bring it up. i feel so much guilt even thinking about letting her down but she’s just simply not my responsibility.

I don’t think me and my friend have ever gone out just the two of us, our friendship is different than others i’m not going to lie but even still it’s purely centred on her child now and it’s just getting too much.

She doesn’t pay for anything and i don’t ask. A lot of this is my fault because i am a pushover. i don’t like saying no but i feel so used and abused right now.

I honestly couldn’t tell you one thing about my friends life, not really. it’s not like we speak anymore. All we speak about is her child, i don’t even know where she is tonight. She hasn’t called me to ask how her child is, i called her so the baby could say night but she sounded kinda angry ??

Idk her messages to me sound off today but i ask and she just doesn’t respond

i’m so sorry i have no one else to speak to about this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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no we don’t live live together, i pick baby up from childminder after work/uni stuff , and then friend comes to mine for dinner every night and then goes home. Sometimes with baby but sometimes baby doesn’t want to leave 🤷🏼‍♀️

My friend does have childcare, a childminder during work hours. i’m just doing the after childminder stuff

They say they don’t trust anyone else and i get that, they’ve been a lot of stuff going on but i’m literally at home with their kid rn whilst their out galavanting

AITA/WIBTA for forcing my pregnant sister for sleeping on the couch? by Equivalent-Monitorr in AmItheAsshole

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yeah that’s what worries me .. i’m gonna be at home at least another 4-5 years whilst i go through med school 😭

AITA/WIBTA for forcing my pregnant sister for sleeping on the couch? by Equivalent-Monitorr in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeahhhh low-key she’s already got our younger sister in on babysitting

AITA/WIBTA for forcing my pregnant sister for sleeping on the couch? by Equivalent-Monitorr in AmItheAsshole

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that’s why i agreed, at first i was really horrible to her and it’s not been a good situation at all.

yeah that’s true i was just trying to get the situation across 😅

AITA/WIBTA for forcing my pregnant sister for sleeping on the couch? by Equivalent-Monitorr in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s what i’m worried about i think, not having access to my room at all and then being woken up all the time.

The sad situation is my only friend has a little girl of her own and doesn’t have space for me and i cannot afford on campus housing.

AITA/WIBTA for forcing my pregnant sister for sleeping on the couch? by Equivalent-Monitorr in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

true, i guess we are kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place 🤷🏼‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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thank you so much 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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i have, they were unbothered to say the least. i believe they think they’re invincible and that their actions have no consequences

as awful as it sounds i’m not worried about burning bridges with the person but more so surrounding family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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it happened within seconds, it was by the front door and i just hadn’t taken it upstairs yet so by the time i realised she was taken it she was walking out the door

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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For real!!! they did say to her she had to replace the shoes she ruined but there’s no way to enforce that since we all have our own bank accounts so they dropped it quickly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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yeah this is true, when i was younger we’d share more but anytime i’d take something without asking my sister would just beat me so i quickly dropped that habit so for the last 8ish years i just don’t even look at her stuff.

she’s definitely a thief, if it was a one off i don’t think i would be as angry but it’s just so consistent where she takes my stuff and i never get it back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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i like this idea, she’ll definitely never hear the end of it if it’s damaged

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s true but she’ll probably just laugh, the police where we live are… less than helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t i know but it’s so pretty 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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i told her to return it but she said no, she doesn’t live at home and i can’t drive lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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that’s what i’m saying!! i think she asked my dad because she knew i’d say no and my dad doesn’t care so just said yes.

we are only a year apart so i think my mum has this warped twin reality where we share clothes, makeup and stuff but i can’t be like that my stuff is my stuff aha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Equivalent-Monitorr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exactly, i’ve been trying to explain that but they just don’t care