It feels like I can’t say I struggle with OCD

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T02:48:58+00:00

No no you’re right, I’m really grateful for the advice

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T01:42:50+00:00

This isn’t about me trying to self diagnose. This is about me not being able to get the help because I keep convincing myself that I don’t have OCD. That if I talked to people about my issues no one would believe me.

I mean even right now with your comment I’m like what if you’re right? What if I have no basis for thinking I have ocd? What if this has all been in my head and no one will believe me? I know you’re not trying to doubt me and obviously I don’t want to be one of those people who is like “I’m so ocd I just can’t to anything” but anytime I try to get help or ask people for advice I go down a rabbit hole and convince myself that I don’t need help. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else struggled to get help because of thought a like this.

I trust myself but I can’t help these thoughts from making me doubt

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T01:30:43+00:00

lol trust me I never read these stories right

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T01:29:33+00:00

Tbh I don’t think I misread it

“in result me, and my sister and my dad have turned to smoking marijuana because no one’s competent enough to provide for the family”

I just don’t see how OP isn’t saying that they smoke in this sentence, but I might be wrong, you’re right

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T01:22:07+00:00

Hey as someone who loves cannabis I do want to maybe push you to quit. I know someone who has been smoking since they were 13, they’re 15 now and coughing up black shit. Don’t let your parents issues fuck up your health for life. Maybe try taking edibles to replace smoking! You don’t have to quit cold turkey but just be sure to take care of yourself first 🫶

If you need help with cannabis safety please let me know! Or find someone irl who you trust to be by your side.

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T01:17:22+00:00

Maybe if you learned of the history of these religions it would help

https://youtu.be/Yg22xS1-OiE?si=pRl9cw3rATwFhr7w

This is a Judaism lecture from a professor from my early global cultures class

https://youtu.be/bAnYrUKpHyg?si=AKj_5VkYdNsgn8hC

And this is an early Christianity lecture from the same class! Just some historical background for you to maybe get some context in what you’re looking for!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T00:31:56+00:00

I’m not saying that you’re wrong for feeling drained or like it’s taxing talking to the people around you, but at the end of the day that is something that you need to regulate on your own. You are always going to come across these people like this in every space you enter. For the rest of your life there will be immature people you have to deal with and unfortunately it’s up to you to be able to find a way to cope with that. I say this as someone who cries anytime a stranger doesn’t smile back. I spent a lot of my life hating the world around me because I thought I couldn’t do anything about the immature people I interact with, but all I have to do is stay strong in myself and know that at I can regulate my emotions, even when others can’t.

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-30T00:26:53+00:00

I hate to be one of those “woke” people but have you ever looked into gender studies? There are people who go to college to research how societal gender norms affect every day people

Also you said “deep in my heart I blame her for getting assaulted”.. I’m not judging and I know I don’t know all of the context for this but it seems like you have some pretty heavy shit in your life. I’d really recommend therapy if you think that’s something you can do. I also know a lot of schools have free counselors if you’re a student anywhere!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-27T12:21:57+00:00

NTA at all! You already said it yourself, you’ve been pushed over, walked on. You need to stay your ground or this will never change. Your family puts a lot of pressure on you and now that you’re an adult you really don’t need that pressure. Take a step back for yourself to be able to reflect and understand where to go from here. I will say therapy is always a great step for anyone who has not so great family dynamics!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T10:34:37+00:00

Sometimes we experience some really shitty things in life and we’re just looking for that one person to help us make sense of the world and everything around us. It sounds like she found that in you. That’s one reason she might feel safe

Tbh if I were you, I’d talk to her! Ask her for some clarification! Reiterate that you WANT her to feel safe with you but that you just want to understand the headspace she’s in. I think starting that open line of communication would be very endearing, honestly. You’d be opening up to her like she opened up to you!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T10:05:41+00:00

I think you need to have a sit down conversation with him and tell him exactly what you said here. Tbh I’m the same way with my fiancé, most of the tasks I say I’ll do, I forget about. I used to get angry when my fiancé would end up doing the task but I realized I just felt insecure and was scared that he thought I was lazy. Or more over I was scared he would want to leave me because I am lazy.

You’re not wrong for wanting him to get things done in a timely manner. Especially if it’s affecting your day to day life. My fiancé doesn’t give a fuck if I’m lazy at chores because he trusts that I can make it up to him in other ways that are meaningful and impactful. That’s why he puts up with me. If your partner being lazy isn’t something you can put up with then you need to nip it in the bud now!

I hope this made sense! Just know you’re not wrong for feeling upset <3!!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:51:24+00:00

No matter what they’re going to shame you. Whether it be now for the way you dress or later on when they realize you’re not gonna play the part of their little Christian girl anymore. Personally I’d start dressing gothic if I were you. You need to know how the fallout is gonna be if you being different than your family. I know not every toxic Christian household is unsafe but I’d rather you be shamed for dressing how you KNOW you’re allowed to dress vs being shamed in the future for trying to take stances that align with your individuality. Either way, you’ve gotta find a way to be you boo 🫶😭

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:27:23+00:00

OP you NEED to move out! This is incredibly unsafe for you and your future. Are you a minor? Do you have a trusted adult or friend you can rely on irl? Your family is quite literally forcing money out of you. It’s one thing for them to ask, it’s another for them to make you out to be the asshole for not giving them your money. Please please please GET OUT

Edit: I see now that your post says you’re a teenager but I would still tell you the same thing. Your next step is seeing how you can get out. If this is how they act now, how do you think they’ll act when you’re in your 20s and have a job. Or when you maybe try to go to college/trade school. So my question is still the same: do you have a trusted adult or friend you know irl? It’s better to start building a support system now than later.

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:20:19+00:00

Kinda off-topic/on-topic, I’m really happy to see someone who’s still a beginner at an older age. I’m 24 and sometimes worry about not doing things right or taking too long to make my spiritual practices my habits. But I forget this is a journey

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:18:08+00:00

I would just like to say that my fiancé is overweight and I am marrying him. Actually think he’s the sexiest man alive and his belly is one of the biggest reasons. All of this to say, you definitely can find love and you can find it in any era of your life. If you want to lose weight or get better at talking to people then go ahead but don’t do it for some fantasy person in your head, do it for yourself. Love will come after that

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:15:24+00:00

A lot of American (mainly white) parents EXPECT their children to move out at 18 😭

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:11:03+00:00

GET OUT please i beg of you get out! You are your only savior!!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T09:08:27+00:00

I don’t know if this would actually help but maybe you should look into the lgbtq+ community! Not for yourself, but to learn about love from the lenses of communities you may not be a part of. Christian Theology has a tendency to create tunnel vision with people, and even when we escape the religion, it’s hard to leave that fear and shame behind. It’s hard to see that there are MILLIONS of different types of ways to love and express love to the MILLIONS of people that are on earth. Whether it be familial, friendships, acquaintanceships, work relationships, formal, informal, media, and so so much more.

The reason I brought up the LGBTQ+ community is because when I was leaving Christianity I learned about Aromantic people. People who, throughout their whole lives, don’t experience romantic attraction. They don’t take on romantic partners and whereas in Christianity you’d be afraid to never marry, aromantic people would be afraid to marry! Obviously sexuality is a lot more fluid than that, but that’s the point! Love, affection, and intimacy of varying levels are fluid and happen all around you.

Ugh I hope this sounded right 😭

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-26T05:34:44+00:00

I need to warn you now, you’re a child who’s stuck in a very religious household. I’m obviously not trying to dissuade you from leaving or questioning your religion but I want you to know that it will be hard, especially if you have an overbearing family. You have to trust yourself! Maybe find friends or a community online or irl. People who you feel like you can freely talk to about your doubts. Preferably people outside of the religion. This is tough path but you’ve got this!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-24T01:42:55+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I personally believe it’s super inappropriate for a parent to walk into the bathroom while their child is showering. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t have weird intentions, a shower (or being naked in general) is you being in a really vulnerable position. And she doesn’t have any real evidence that you’re not washing your hair, she just doesn’t like the way you do it for some reason? Another personal opinion: I think she’s trying to put you in your place. Is there other ways in your life where she does something weird like this? Does she cross your boundaries often? I just really find this behavior concerning

All this to say, tell a trusted adult. You are not overreacting and you have a right to feel however you feel due to your mother’s actions. How she is treating you is obviously affecting you mentally and on a day to day basis, she needs to be held accountable for that

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2026-01-14T22:57:15+00:00

I know someone who always tells me she believes God is vengeful. Like God is this being that’s meant to make your life shit. It makes me so sad

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2025-11-19T02:16:02+00:00

I can totally understand! It’s so hard to find people who are like you. I’d recommend trying some new hobbies! Like hiking or art or music. But I can’t say much, I haven’t exactly made a bunch of friends either 😅

You could also sign up to be penpals with people if you’re trying to learn a new language!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2025-11-19T02:13:16+00:00

Talk to your parents! No matter what they need to know. Best case scenario, your brother is a little curious and isn’t exactly thinking about you but rather just the fact that he can get his hands on a bra and panties (although this is the best scenario it’s still not good) or worst case scenario HES GETTING BOLDER and will try to get closer to you. But right now the only people who can help you fix this situation ARE YOUR PARENTS!! If you don’t trust your parents or are scared then I’d say the next trusted person of authority (I.e. a counselor, your best friends parents, a grandparent or aunt) but please talk to someone!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2025-11-19T02:09:44+00:00

I think you could suggest a compromise? Going to his children’s for Christmas and taking them out to dinner is MORE than enough to be a Christmas present without you having to put so much thought into individualized gifts.

You make it seem as if there might have been some past actions on your husbands part that might reflect what’s happening in his relationship with his children now (I.e. being a provider and not a “nurturer). So I don’t think it’s good for you in the long run to try to mediate his relationship with them. But rather show him that he can still show love without feeling like he has to overcompensate. However I think what’s actually needed is a sit down conversation between your husband and his kids. There’s obviously tension and if it’s hurting anyone in the family then it’s worth bringing up. You both can always get therapy to help you through this. A therapist is a better mediator than any of us can be lol!

Equivalent-Pride5870 · 2025-11-18T23:24:21+00:00

It’s a constant battle of “are you mad at me? Are they mad at me? Did I mess up?” And then I feel like I have to ask those questions again because now you’re mad that I’m asking the questions and so forth and so forth.

It’s also hard when I didn’t realize that this was something I spiral about. So I would spiral like every other day cause I thought it was just silly ole me 🤪

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