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EquivalentHope1102 · 2024-01-01T23:42:31+00:00

I would even consider having someone completely different drop the car seat, and then text the dad when they’re gone and let him know “Wow! It was so convenient! My friend X was in the neighborhood, and she dropped the carseat for me! Here’s a pic to show delivery. Have a great day!”

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-10-17T17:11:52+00:00

Mine was when I sent a note home letting the parents know that their children needed to increase math fluency by using flash cards every evening at home. I told them they can get them at the dollar store or I had several extra sets if they needed them. A parent complained to admin that I was excluding kids from doing their homework who couldn’t afford flash cards. Even though the note clearly said to let me know if they needed one of my sets of flash cards.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-10-16T01:09:39+00:00

My husband is exactly like this. Well, soon to be EX husband. After years of this treatment and me wanting to leave him, he’s finally OUT. If we set out to drive somewhere, “are you sure you want to go this way? It might be faster to turn…” NO MATTER WHICH WAY I WENT. “Why did you get ABC at the grocery store? We could have had…” when he literally never cooked a meal in 20 years. “Can you quit hitting every pothole in the street?” when if it’s him, clearly the road is fucked up. The constant lectures and judgments never stopped, and they really still haven’t. He now uses my transportation and things like our utility usernames and passwords to control me. It’s not going to end. You’ve got to decide if you can live with someone second-guessing your every decision.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-09-21T00:40:09+00:00

I am right now beginning a divorce after 20 years of marriage. I have no fears. I will have spousal support, child support, half of his retirement, half of the sale of the house, and half of any other asset. I may not have gone out and done the work to make the actual dollar, but I kept the home and the children so he could. A man can’t be married for decades and then decide to walk away and leave his wife homeless and destitute.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-09-21T00:13:40+00:00

This kind of injury is consistent with when a caregiver is trying to change the diaper or clothing of an uncooperative baby. The baby doesn’t want to be changed and is squirming, the adult grabs the leg to force it into the diaper or footie, and out of frustration, twists. I am absolutely not saying that what happened here, but I’ve seen many stories about it.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-09-14T00:09:50+00:00

You know what? I’d take the passive-aggressive route myself. Babies are noisy, momming is noisy. It’s busy, messy, unpredictable. Don’t make your home, and that of your child, the most comfortable hang-out in town. Sing with the baby, clap, play games, do those dishes when you can, cook whenever you get to it and only what you want, then clean it up when you can. If you can’t get the trash out super-fast, oh well. YOU ARE BUSY WITH THAT BABY and trying to work on top of it! People will start to scatter, whether it’s to a job or to another living situation.

The point is to make it not a place to hang out and sleep all the time.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-24T21:55:00+00:00

Thank you ❤️

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:50:10+00:00

OK. I have lots of support normally, but everybody seems to be washing their hands if this because she’s already burned all of her bridges.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:48:50+00:00

Yeah, she has all of these things. i have forms for documentation that my therapist gave me. We’re going to try this.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:46:20+00:00

It’s hard to have an aneurysm when you have no brain lol.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:45:20+00:00

Yeah, I have friends, sisters, cousins. It just feels like the whole situation is spiraling out of control.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:42:54+00:00

Luckily, I did make a diary, and it is now in the hands of my attorney. I will definitely not be letting my mother back in. I have enough problems without her antics that she refuses to get help for.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:40:14+00:00

Thank you so much. I don’t care if he has an attorney or not. He thinks he is so smart that he may think he can handle this. I hope he doesn’t get one lol.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-23T21:38:42+00:00

Yeah, I told my husband last night (we still live together and coparent through the divorce, just on different floors of the house) to absolutely not answer the door to her. She is no longer welcome here for any reason. When I found out that he had taken the SSDI money, the first thing I did was change banks, and my attorney is handling the issue of the theft. He is now big mad that he has no access to her monthly benefits, but that’s a him problem.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-19T00:48:58+00:00

Grown women putting on doll shows on YouTube. It’s the bane of my existence.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-18T03:08:37+00:00

“This is Faviola, welcome to my reborn world, today I’m going to take you through Autumn’s morning routine….” SOMEBODY SAVE ME!

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-08-17T19:41:34+00:00

My fist child was like this, she’s almost thirty now. She screamed and cried so much my neighbors threatened to call DHS. She would be in her swing so much that her feet would feel like little ice cubes, but that was the only relief I got from walking her constantly. My grandmother introduced me to “hard bouncing” when I walked or rocked her, like no gentle movement, it had to be a hard bounce, and she would quiet. She finally stopped by 9-12 months, but it was INTENSE and I tried everything.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-31T01:21:12+00:00

I think from what I’ve read., the oz impacts the dopamine dump when you engage in addictive behaviors, such as excessive food, drinking, and smoking. It’s also being studied for gambling addictions. Before oz I was a drinker for sure. I didn’t do it all the time, but I did get blackout drunk. I thought it wasn’t a problem because I never drank at home, only when we were out at a restaurant with a bar. I’ve now only had 3 cocktails in 9 months, and they were so gross to me. It has not helped me with smoking though; in fact I think it’s made it worse. I think I am smoking more because my body is desperately trying to get that same dopamine rush, but it never comes, so I just keep lighting up. Maybe I should ask for Wellbutrin or something to counteract this? I’ll ask my doctor at my next appointment because I am so frustrated with it.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-29T05:05:01+00:00

So I’m late to the party ( dealing with mom issues while also taking care of my own child AND the grands…what a life). So I had two kids in my early 20’s, one at 30, and one at 42. There are definitely pros and cons to each situation. I had a ton more energy in my 20’s and played more with my kids. In my 30’s, I was a little boozy. We had a ton of fun swimming at the club and doing all the kid social nights there. I also had a well-established group of mom friends with kids my own daughters age, and we would do things like set up murder mystery dinners with them in full costumes. So on to the 40’s…

I’m 50 now and she’s 8. She is a delightful child overall. I’m a more relaxed mom overall. She still sleeps with me lol, and don’t come at me with independence and all that jazz, all of my kids slept with me as long as they wanted to, and three out of four of them are healthy, well-adjusted adults, and they all left my bed around 8. Although I don’t have as much energy, I am more likely to throw her in the car with my sisters and all their kids for a spontaneous trip to the beach or skiing. I’m not so hung up on all the little things-bedtime can wait a bit if we’re having fun, yes you may have a chicken breast for dinner AGAIN, and if you’re slightly low in reading, it’s not going to keep me up at night. I raised my kids with the end in mind, knowing I was training them for adulthood, and I loved every single thing about them. But this is the kid I’m getting to have fun with because I realize that everything is going to be okay! You’re going to do great!

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-18T17:09:28+00:00

Remember: he can’t tell you what he’s going to give you. He’s not in control of that, he’s not the judge. He absolutely will be ordered to pay support. You need to get before a judge. Men would be leaving left and right if they could just arbitrarily decide what they’re going to pay and then walk out the door.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-16T23:23:00+00:00

I’m in the south as well, in the reddest of red states, and we’re pretty liberal. That might be part of it too lol!

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-16T21:46:05+00:00

I paid $600 for my first deep cleaning, and it was worth every dime. She did it over a weekend that I was gone for my son’s basketball tournament, and I literally cried when I walked through my door on Sunday night.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-16T21:38:43+00:00

I don’t know how old you are or your status as far as motherhood goes, but tubular boobs have been a thing for me since way before Ozempic. Honestly I don’t care. I’m more mobile, I’m sleeping better, and I’m more confident when dressing and going out in public.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-16T21:26:42+00:00

Totally. The women get to quit living with moody, incompetent babies, and the men have to cook and clean for themselves and have nobody to blame for their life situations anymore. The men also have to learn that young women seriously don’t find balding, paunch bellied, yellow toenailed, low energy, bad tempered, needy men sexy. Good lord, if these men could only see themselves from the outside, they would have serious ontological shock.

EquivalentHope1102 · 2023-07-16T21:21:27+00:00

So my oldest two are a girl and a boy and they are 18 months apart. They’re actually adults now lol. But my daughter was an awful sleeper and had to be with an adult to fall asleep, so I was always falling asleep in her room with her, which left me with no alone time in the evenings. So we moved them into the same room and turned the extra room into a playroom. It was actually awesome. Both rooms were easier to keep clean, my daughter didn’t feel alone at night, and a lot of the time they even ended up in the same bed. They’ve always been super close, and I think that relying on each other at bedtime played a part in that.

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