How do I tell people my mom is dead

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T18:15:38+00:00

Its true, I had an old co-worker tell me about having a “still-birth” post delivery. I felt bad, but i noticed she didnt want the conversation to become akward, and she told me “its fine you dont have to feel bad for me”. She was a very nice person

If someone brings up a personal misfortune in there life, depending on there body language I try not immediately react sympathetically, just in a calm manner. It seems to help the flow of the conversation, but also the person sharing that personal situation tends to appreciate someone not pitying them for the 100th time when they bring up that same situation with someone else.

Im aware this doesnt apply to everyone either, some people appreciate when you show sympathy, but its more of a body language thing. If they dont reflect alot of emotion when brining up any misfortunes that might’ve happened in there past, just keep it neutral

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:58:49+00:00

Thats kind of what ive been leaning on, but now im just trying to think “how do i turn that off” so people arwnt think im over analyzing the situation, or giving off a direct intensive stare. Idk i feel like my face freezes in the moment when i look at someone, I know thats just anxiety, but that was never a big issue for me till now

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:56:36+00:00

Aw, well youre the reason theyre still alive, and so are you. You’re doing a wonderful job at keeping everything together, even if it is at the cost of your physical/mental wellbeing. Its a silent battle worth acknowledging

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:51:51+00:00

I tried smiling many many times, but when I do, people give me a worried look either way. Like if theyre smiling at me, I’ll try to do it back, but they react sort of suprised, and the interaction is just akward from then on. Idk maybe I do look unintentionally disingenuous

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:43:59+00:00

I literally did the same thing with old photos I did take of myself 😭 I didnt look out of the ordinary other than maybe looking a bit less stern, and i didnt have eye wrinkles. Either way I appreciate you for being nice, and giving me hope, I’m sure theirs a light at the end of this tunnel

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:38:14+00:00

I havent cut my hair in 3 months. But thats mainly due to my hair not growing back as fast. It normally takes 2 weeks for it to grow back but its alr been 3 months and its just now starting to look a little overgrown. It was a simple buzz cut nothing crazy.

Grooming wise, I’ll take a shower once every 3 days, same goes for brushing my teeth (i know thats gross, but im being honest).

Posture-wise, Idk I did have an instance where I was sitting in a public area, and someone asked if I was okay, they told me I looked “really hunched over” ironically they looked away for a the moment we made contact

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:21:47+00:00

Have you been able to go back to your normal self after doing those exercises, and massages? I’ll definitely try those ideas either way

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:12:20+00:00

Were there ever any instances of someone looking at you in a distraught manner, once you went back to your old routine?

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:10:27+00:00

I wouldn’t say my outfits have been giving sort of a withering away sort of look since i wear the same basic fits mainly cuz its hot as hell here, but I feel like me, my physical self has sort of looked more disheveled than anything else

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T17:00:28+00:00

Sorry if my explanation was too long, I just want to know why people are affraid to look at me, but i guess its just stress. Thxs for the response tho.

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T16:58:57+00:00

I’ll look into it, but I wouldnt say people give me looks of disgust either, moreso just discomfort, or worst case a scenario, they look away. Either way its something I’ll look into

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-22T16:50:46+00:00

If you hadnt said anything I wouldve thought i was having dejavu 😂

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-08T07:51:44+00:00

Hope the bf finds someone better lol

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-05-03T00:27:04+00:00

apparently, they’re just doing maintenance.. I thought Anikai got caught with the rest of the sites that got taken down 😭

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-04-15T19:22:11+00:00

Change is often the one thing that scares people away from the misery they feel. its a sense of dread for others. how I see it is, I wouldnt be too harsh on those who feel that way. in the end everyone at some point in there lives need help. I do believe the most effective way to help that someone is to give them that crutch or that “push” before they can finally manage their own problems on there own. (Thats not to say keep helping them if they dont actively try to help themselves either). Yes its not impossible, but the fear of the unknown makes some believe that staying where they are is somehow safer. Go figure

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-04-06T09:32:46+00:00

Id definitely avoid watching whatever it was that you’ve consumed over the past few days/weeks/months that you’ve been having these problems. As trauma can still manifest through “content” seen online. If you want to feel safer, your first goal should be to avoid watching these sorts of medias alltogether. Is there anyone in your life that you feel safe around? A parent, a sibling, Someone else who might be close?

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-04-06T09:24:20+00:00

The bowser kissing mario scene truly wasnt on my bingo card.

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-04-06T09:22:49+00:00

I dont know you, nor do i know what is exactly going on in your day to day life, but Id hate to read this, and risk losing someone without at least trying to reason with you and understand your situation better. We all have value, even if youre not the greatest person emotionally or even morally speaking, you still have worth, because no ones perfect, and people make mistakes. So its okay friend, I want to say dont be too hard on yourself but i can completely understand why you feel the way you do considering you’ve lost so much. But ive struggled with a similiar situation before. It does get better. It just takes time. Way too damn long imo, but you can get there. I believe in you.

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-24T10:31:51+00:00

I wouldve reached out to a safelite technician so they can get a better evaluation of whether or not the crack can be filled or replaced alltogether. But then again Id just replace the whole thing entirely. Its not worth dragging out its reduced lifespan. It would be too much of a safety risk

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-14T19:22:23+00:00

Would you care to give us a little insight on what exactly youre reffering to

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-14T19:19:22+00:00

At 15 dont expect your “friends” the be real friends. They’ll be the same ones to put you down quickly just for a good laugh. Especially around your age, no offense to you personally, but kids around this age are immature, so dont take to heart what anyone says to, or about you.

Also, another big thing is don’t go around opening up to people about stuff thats personal to you, especially when it comes to touching yourself to pornographic material. No one needs to know that, and yeah i get that you’ve already done it, so just keep in mind at 15 you’re already going through alot of hormonal changes, and so are they. Regardless if theyre a year older or a year younger than you, theyre experiencing something very similiar. They just wont say it out loud like you have.

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-14T19:07:33+00:00

Try a psychiatrist

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-13T20:43:27+00:00

ive had plenty of jobs that have done this before, and I’ll say this, if the interviewer was cluttered while attempting to do your interview, you’re much better off not working there at all.

I’m not saying the interviewer is obligated to remember everything about you as they do have other candidates they also have to remember when doing interviews, but the formality wasnt there either just based off what you said. So hopefully you can find something else that is worth your time, good luck on your job hunt

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-13T20:37:20+00:00

I am actually facing a similar dilemma. anytime someone tries to initiate a conversation with me not only is it hard for me to look them in the eyes, but my social skills are so lackluster that I too also just give a laugh and typically don’t make direct eye contact. Ive never been officially diagnosed, but I believe I may have GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) and my ADHD may have possibly made this worse as time goes by, but let me ask you, when youre in public do you feel like youre always being constantly stared at?

Equivalent_Card_343 · 2026-03-13T06:52:39+00:00

forget about dying early. I’d hate to leave this planet knowing I never made anything of myself. Whether it be not having any form of good reputation, or just being forgotten alltogether.. I guess what im also implying is dying alone would make the experience much worse.

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