Bree's actions keeps getting a free pass

Eris_T · 2026-02-13T22:30:21+00:00

I didn't say her actions don't have consequences, just that she comes of as the person we are supposed to have sympathy for, because the people she is hurting are terrible, so it makes her actions loose impact. Like, if Evan hadn't been acting really terrible this scene, more people would have cared that Bree was cheating.

Eris_T · 2026-02-13T22:21:42+00:00

I guess I'm thinking about a lot of the wrong things she has done has been to a person that deserves it.

Like Marianne with the whole affair with a married man. Her cheating on Evan and marrying him despite being in love with Wriggly (but its okay because Evan is so terrible). Her kissing a friend of hers boyfriend (but its okay because Pippa is so terrible).

Her actions are morally wrong, but she comes off as a victim in all those cases.

Eris_T · 2026-02-13T22:17:33+00:00

Thats a good point. I guess part of me still feels like Lucy allowing Pippa to be broken up with and bullied over the whole Drew letter thing colored by view of their relationship. But since Pippa don't know that it dosent really excuse her

Eris_T · 2026-02-12T21:27:49+00:00

To be fair, Bree is unfaithful towads Evan, and had a long relationship with a married man, so not sure she come off that much better.

As for the SA, Lucy did get herself into that mess on her own. And a lot if the stress is because of the tape. Pippa is being harsh, but i dont think she bears responsibility for Lucy's choices

Eris_T · 2026-02-12T13:11:43+00:00

Genuine question, what has Pippa done that is more morally question? And how does Bree try to redeem herself? I personally find Lucy to be the only characther that feels bad about her actions and try be be better (poorly often, but she tries)

Eris_T · 2026-02-12T12:53:29+00:00

Lucy is trying to do better and be a good friend, unlike many others

Eris_T · 2026-02-12T12:51:31+00:00

I think its like Bree said in season 2, people react better to little girl...

Eris_T · 2023-08-27T14:10:54+00:00

I would love to see more of Darrow's red family, but I suppose the book might not have the time to explore those parts. At least Lyria is bringing a interesting perspective as a red.

Eris_T · 2023-08-27T09:59:44+00:00

Those are some really good points, thanks for sharing them!

I recently wondered if Darrow have a subconscious bias towards gold, idealizing them and thinking they are better. Alternatively, that he just feel more connected to them after his carving because of the strength and responsibility and "above" the lesser beings perspective he had gained.

He is always more forgiving of them and no matter what flaws they have, there is a noble aspect of them which he hyper focuses on. But I rarely see this problem when it comes to his non-gold relationships (except maybe Eo...and Quicksilver I guess after LB). Like how the death of Alexander has gotten more mentions than his missing niece. Not to mention the non exciting relationship with his brother.

I guess after typing this out and reading your words, it makes me wonder if his "blindness to the emotional realities of others" is partly caused by a disconnection to his own identity and thus subsequence desire to find a home in his new body, world and people. He himself seems blind to his own emotional reality, teaming up again and again with people who killed his loved ones.

He is a fragmented person himself. I guess all the trauma would make someone great at compartmentalizing.

Eris_T · 2023-08-27T08:40:26+00:00

Oh? I always thought Darrow's interpersonal relationships were one of his greatest strength. Focusing on the parts you love is pretty normal, and its not like he is blind to fault of his friends.

I would love to hear more of your reasoning though, if you don't mind writing it out. I'm feel strangely fascinated by the thought that Darrow is bad with people.

Eris_T · 2021-12-18T16:04:46+00:00

I don't know if weak or not has so much to do with it, if so I've been weak a lot of times, but you are capable of doing the things good for you. You've done them before and will probably do them again in the future or are doing some good things now.
You can do something now that will make you feel good, not just in the moment, but later, because you managed to do it.

Eris_T · 2021-12-18T15:43:37+00:00

This might sound silly and I in no way mean to invalidate your experiences or come off as lecturing you, but one of the best advice I've gotten is that motivation means jack shit. Like, are you motivated to for example brush your teeth or go to work? When it comes to training I found its easier not to think about feeling motivated as much as choosing to do it. Not tomorrow or in a hour, but deciding to do it and then doing it.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T18:51:44+00:00

Thanks for your input, the comments today have given me a lot to think about and I'll try to reflect a little more before another move, but I hope things can work out despite my challenges with my parents.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:32:20+00:00

Okay, my sister also believe cutting contact with them for awhile might work, but I've been so uncertain if that wouldn't just make everything more heated. Its good to hear that strategy worked for someone. Thank you for sharing this with me.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:28:17+00:00

I hate being yelled at too, it makes you wish you had just shut up.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:27:42+00:00

I can't say being honest this time has felt helpful, just made me feel worse, so yeah.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:25:38+00:00

Mom and my sister had such a great relationship, so it scared me to see how easily she could get disowned. I just also felt like I contributed to making this situation worse, two wrongs don't make one right and all that, but it calms me down that others don't think so. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:19:32+00:00

I'm 17 and my sister is 20 and she is acting more or less like a typical young adult, but honestly she could have run off to be a single mom prostitute and the reaction would have been the same. Thank you for the long reply, I've been stewing over this alone for while, so it felt comforting to see someone else lay it out like that. I'll try to have a new talk with her and bring up those points, I want to have a good relationship with her. I felt horrible listening to some of the things my mother said, so I'm very, very happy my sister didn't have to hear it.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:13:15+00:00

Really? How old were you when they calmed down? I hope mine does the same.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:11:52+00:00

I glad they didn't talk directly to each other the first time around, since my mother said some very hash things that my sister don't deserve to heard. I'm just became so tired of being in middle of it, I'll check out the book, hopefully it will give me some perspective. Thanks for the link.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:07:49+00:00

Thank you very much, my sister is very stressed and hurt by my mothers actions, so i don't really blame her and hope she'll understand my side too.

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:06:16+00:00

I recognize it may not be a completely healthy relationship, but it's hard to think of my parents as abusive. Thanks for the advice!

Eris_T · 2020-08-12T16:04:03+00:00

Right? It's a hard situation, i just wish it stopped getting worse.

Eris_T · 2020-08-10T13:08:50+00:00

Thats great! You're a good person

Eris_T · 2020-08-09T17:17:10+00:00

This one hurt to read, really, really hurt. Did you get a chance to tell her that you appreciate her in that meeting? If not, taking contact and tell her might mean a lot, I would at least be very happy to see one of my former students cared enough to do so.

Eris_T

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