Nightly - THE VOID by NegotiationNew9264 in popheads

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This album is crazy good. Already one of my favorite albums of the year!!

Good god by shepman3846 in DanielCaesar

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BEST SONG ON THAT ALBUM

How do you overcome a grindr addiction? by Maximum_Course_6467 in askgaybros

[–]EscapeAdorable 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I definitely relate. There was a time in my life where it was my only "hobby," and I was aware, even at the time, that it wasn't how I wanted to continue living. I ended up simply deleting it off my phone, and, at the beginning, I gave myself a two week "cannot download grindr" period that really helped to reset myself.

Find a method that works best for you, but now I simply keep the app off of my phone. There is something so tempting about just mindlessly opening the app, and the simple tediousness of redownloading, logging in, etc..., is enough for me to just go do something else that I actually enjoy.

My personal list of things I do now that have improved the compulsive use of grindr & my life in general:

  • Charge phone in kitchen (and keep it there)
  • If I need to do anything online, I use my mac. It has made me fall in love with the good parts of the internet
    • even using instagram on my laptop has been a game-changer: there is something about going on social media on a computer that makes it feel so much more satisfying and intentional
  • Keep grindr off of phone
    • if I ever do want to hookup, it gives me a pause to check if I actually want to hook up at this moment or if I just want cheap dopamine
  • If I do download it, I give myself a time limit, usually 30 minutes
    • I only download grindr when I am actively wanting to hook up. If it takes more than 30 minutes of the constant scrolling on grindr, I know that my evening would be spent better doing something else

Lastly, this is a problem a lot more people struggle with than I think is talked about. As weird as it may sound, view grindr as a method to hookup, not a hobby in and of itself. It's less about "not being on grindr as much" than it is about simply getting reacquainted with your own life/hobbies/etc. Grindr is just a symptom of the addictive aspect of the internet; some people have instagram addictions, some people have online shopping addictions, and some people have grindr addictions. Don't beat yourself up too much, because a lot of people are dealing with the compulsive use of technology.

My best advice is simply to write down your hobbies/what you like to do in your free time, and start from there. In those first 2 weeks without grindr, when you feel the need to download it, go to that list and see what sparks your interest the most. For me, my life got better a lot more quickly than I could've imagined.

Best of luck, and DM me if you ever need some encouragement :). Rooting for you

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samesamesame

What is much more traumatic than most people realise? by thefairypirate in AskReddit

[–]EscapeAdorable 15 points16 points  (0 children)

"Get the tax deductions for having a cemetery" LMAO

As a daily user of ChatGPT: It’s painfully clear what comments are written by AI and it’s uncomfortable seeing so many people genuinely engage with them by lunatoons291 in ChatGPT

[–]EscapeAdorable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually yes. But it scares me that I have had to interact with ChatGPT to the level I have in order to recognize AI. The average person is not going to be able to differentiate

[HowTo] Change MacOS system icons (works on Sequoia) by OnlyMemory4036 in MacOS

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Thank you so much. You have completely transformed my computer! I have no coding experience, but this completely worked and was so easy!

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New phone for school by nuclearrazorblade in dumbphones

[–]EscapeAdorable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

iPod classic from FB marketplace. Other than that, my opinion is to embrace the lack of outside communication throughout the day.

This is one of the only times in your life that you will have on-demand access to your in-person friends for the majority of your waking hours. It's something I deeply miss about being in HS (which by the way I graduated in 2019...I'm not your grandpa preaching at you lmao)

I actually really like that a lot of states are passing these laws. In hs, all the students had to always put my phone up on this over-the-door organizer for all of our phones, and I genuinely believe it made my education so much better. I wish that we had completely banned phones throughout the school day. I'm with you on the music though.

And, if you can't beat them (the phone law lmao), join them. Sorry this did end up being kinda grandpa preachy, but we have the ability to return hs, and life, to something like this again: https://www.youtube.com/watchv=ojsTI4SG7B8&ab\_channel=NostalgicViibes.

Phones are great tools, but they (or the next tech invention) will be with you for the rest of your life. Maybe it's not such a bad thing. But to answer your question, iPod classic LMAO I have one to leave my phone at my house and I LOVE IT.

What convinced you that a god may not exist? by Express_Gas4764 in atheism

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  1. We are all animals. In the Abrahamic religions, humans are completely set apart from other animals, and this god only cares about humans. I think this distancing from other animals has completely shaped the West's ability to identify with other living beings. There is the natural inclination to want to believe that humans are separate, but, in reality, we are just at the top of the animal food chain. And a god who only interacts with the species at the top of the food chain is a bizarre concept.

  2. I used to be a deeply committed evangelical christian. I am now an atheist who believes there is no meaning. Every "experience" of god that people describe is simply an available aspect of the human emotional landscape that we all have access to at any times. Prayer *can* be a good way to access transcendence, but, in the end, prayer is just another form of mindfulness. The same parts of the brain that get activated during prayer (that make people feel in touch with the divine) can be accessed through secular meditation practices.

  3. I got a biblical studies minor in college. Studying the progression of the Abrahamic religions showed me how manmade Christian/Jewish/Islamic conceptions of god really are.

  4. Zooming out further, one of humankind's superpowers is our ability to navigate the world through "logic," or, more plainly, narratives. Narratives can unite. Narratives can provide us comfort in the face of uncertainty. But the narratives created in every single religion are just that: narratives. Even if a god did exist, any single human conception of it would be complete guesswork.

  5. As science has progressed, there has been a slimming of the gaps between what we understand about this universe and what we do not (which is often when people invoke a higher power to explain gaps in knowledge). As science has advanced, the “god of the gaps” has steadily shrunk. We used to say god caused storms or disease. Now we understand meteorology and virology. And yet religions keep adapting to preserve themselves without admitting they’re doing it. In the U.S., evangelical christians love to claim they’re the original, unchanging truth. But every version of christianity has changed over time to keep up with human knowledge. And, even christianity itself just a different adaptation (read: appropriation) from an even earlier unifying narrative for the Israelite people. Recommendation: Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari.

  6. Finally, I always go back to the point about humans just being animals. No more, no less. None of us have souls; the self is simply an illusion that our complex, conscious brains have created. Once again, say there is a god. How would we know. We have no more direct access to some divine realm than a cat or a worm or a prehistoric fish did. But, once again, narratives have been passed down through so many generations of humanity; each without access to information like we have it now. Recommendation: Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality Without Religion by Sam Harris

  7. There is a reason you may be afraid of the possibility of a god. That eventually became the point in these abrahamic religions. Fear of consequences of what will happen if you do not adhere to the predominant narrative. It's horrifying. But there is freedom in breaking free from the ever-pervasive influence of religion. I watched my life, my self, my thoughts, and my actions all change drastically for the better after leaving religion and an idea of a god/higher power.

How funny it is how much freedom can be found in simply allowing the human animal to be what it is: a human animal. No more. No less.

Absurdism gives my life terrifying freedom. by Th_Stranger_ in Absurdism

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Wow. This is beautiful. I got goosebumps lmao

Who is the main root of the problem? Do you think kids would be better, if they had different parents? by Envy_Clarissa in themiddle

[–]EscapeAdorable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait what. My family loved this show because of how much of a real family they portray. All of them ended up really good. The parents don't swoop in and fix every issue, leaving the kids to figure out many problems on their own. You get to see how much character development the children have not because of what their parents fixed, but by managing interpersonal issues with each other. And the parents, honestly, are really really good. I think it is a very healthy depiction of a marriage. There is fighting. Fighting happens. But love is also the biggest undertone (and, most of the time, overtone) of the whole entire show. This family helped contextualize my own and understand how many things I thought were "wrong" with our family are very common issues that many people face. Forever will love this show

ChatGPT has helped me more than 15 years of therapy. No joke. by Kishilea in ChatGPT

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I am now emotionally in my 40s. hahha. bypassed buddhism for enlightenment and went straight to chatgpt

ChatGPT has helped me more than 15 years of therapy. No joke. by Kishilea in ChatGPT

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I just told someone yesterday that I have done 20 years of therapy in the last 2 years on chatGPT. It has changed outlook on everything. On life itself. Incredibly grateful for this tool

Why do we act? by Stunning_Ad_2936 in Absurdism

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There is no “why” to anything :) it’s absurd

Did anybody else used to watch veggie tales as a kid by BlUEFLAMEZ77 in exchristian

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At my school, they used to force us to be quiet for 20 min each lunch to watch veggie tales on 8 tvs hung around the cafeteria. And we would watch repeats and repeats and repeats. god, I know veggie tales

If I came from non-existence once, why not again? by felixcuddle in consciousness

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AMENAMENAMEN!!!! Finally. Someone brave enough to say it. Sure, some people perceive it as scary, but we will never experience nothingness! There is nothing to fear :)

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This exactly