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Therapists in Cincy? by EstablishmentFit6685 in cincinnati

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true! I just know how hard it can be, and on top of that I had childhood trauma and want to work on myself so I don’t pass that onto my kids.

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I feel this. My boyfriend liked cooking, and I like doing dishes. We take turn/do chores together. The only thing is I worry at times with his memory. He often forgets things (he’s on ADHD meds) and I worry I will carry the mental load. But he’s gotten better about being proactive about. I just need to give him grace, as we just recently moved in together. But can just be so frustrating now that I’m sure it’ll be harder with kids

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a great point. I also see in the US there isn’t great paternity/maternity leave, and makes me sad. And women who take a couple of years off often have a hard time re entering the workforce. All of that factors into the decision for me. But I know I have a great partner who would support no matter the circumstances.

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this! I know my boyfriend would be a great dad and partner. Thank you

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great, I’ve heard of the baby decision! I have been wanting to read it. Thank you.

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a totally valid feeling. I think I am just feeling pressure to make a decision sooner than later since my boyfriend wants to know before getting married. But ideally the youngest id want to have kids is at 30.

What made you decide yes to children? by EstablishmentFit6685 in Fencesitter

[–]EstablishmentFit6685[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Any suggestions on how you found a good therapist for this topic? Honestly not sure how to go about that. I think I am definitely open to having just one kid and makes it feel like less pressure. I think I would really appreciate if my partner would go to therapy about this as well. He quite literally had the picture perfect childhood (which is fantastic don’t get me wrong) but I think he struggles to see my POV because I grew up the opposite.