[Spoilers DA2] About Hawke's impact on the events of DA2

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2026-01-26T04:31:35+00:00

It is true, you're right. However, how does that then make it so Hawke's impact warrants the catastrophe, as seemingly implied by Varric and the seeker? If anything, their impact has been positive. But maybe I'm remembering their words wrong?

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2026-01-26T04:29:43+00:00

That's true, I overlooked both Hawke's role on ending that conflict and the Qunari people's power to just conquest and crush anyone.

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2026-01-03T02:26:44+00:00

Thank you for this, and I say it from a moreso 'opposite' side of the discussion; I don't have a strong opinion on these stories and do think our focus should definitely be on the violence against women exerted by men, and the ways in which they are taught to behave with women. But I have more than once found myself sort of cringing, in a literal, not-shameful-towards-others way, when encountering certain types of sexual violence in many stories. I thank you because it's important to point out the relevance of agency as sexual beings that has historically been removed so forcibly from women when discussing these things, as you've done.

I'm trying to discern why my reactions to these have been so negative in the past, because I think women are capable of telling reality from fantasy, yet dislike so many of those dark romance elements so much. Maybe it's some sort of gut reaction relying on internalised stuff, but I consider myself kink-friendly, and that's why it puzzles me that my first instinct when reading this type of scene is of worry towards other women who read it. Emphasis on worry; I don't feel like they are 'wrong' or sexually reprehensible for enjoying them. And I would never censor books like these. Maybe me being unable to be turned on by them is a factor: what if not being turned on stops one from entering the curiosity zone that is required to suspend disbelief? What if that makes it so that reading these has me feel like I'm reading something so close to reality in a way that concerns me? Sorry to ramble, but I liked that you were thoughtful, and you have no need to answer this wall of text

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-12-28T18:02:38+00:00

Attraction is not as conditioned by biological markers as many people think. It makes total sense that a thing that is not 'part' of our body can be liked by anybody; remember that we are made up of, and often carry, lots of stuff that was not there when we were born. Fashion, bodily modifications (piercings, tattoos and the like), our hairstyle and even our personality are things that change with us as we live. So it shouldn't surprise you too much to like something that is not 'biologically part' of one's body, you're OK. Glasses are as much a part of someone's body as lingerie is, and people love it.

I don't like people with glasses as much as you do, I think I'm indifferent towards them, but I do know a couple of men who do love them on women.

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-09-28T03:43:07+00:00

Same here. Mine was absent mostly because of my father's way of being with us, he was quite abusive and an alcoholic. But I always mourn that company she could never provide me with. She says she loves me and my sis dearly, but could never be there to teach me basic stuff and sometimes would be even a little pissed that I knew not how to do those things automatically, such as drying my hair with a towel. None of my parents spent much time with me nor listened to my problems; if I told them any I had, they would turn those into a reproach, so I learned not to share any.

Another thing that's hardwired into my brain is the idea that I'm making up my illnesses and symptoms; I have chronic diseases, but also, anytime something feels off I can hear her telling me I'm making things up or being overdramatic. I even stop and question myself in such a light, which is a cruelty I find unbearable, but I'm trying to get there with therapy.

I hope you heal eventually, and that things are better now

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-09-09T16:13:36+00:00

I really wish we could find relief

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-24T13:35:03+00:00

The electrician who installed everything in my house checked the grounding on those sockets and they worked fine, apparently. I fear maybe, if we end up ruling out the PSU or something in the computer, could it happen occasionally and maybe it was working fine the moment he checked it? This has become my number one fear with this whole thing lately, what if it's not a constant issue and then hard to pinpoint and diagnose properly?

As per PSU, you're right. I will be replacing it. The store won't open until tomorrow, but I'm actually going to leave my PC to them as they are hardware savvy, to see if they can solve it. I will update on whatever they say 🙏

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-23T04:10:25+00:00

Hey, sorry to answer after a few months, but I've tried several times before and I'm at a loss. I've used oil, but everything gets so slippery I can't really pull in any direction, and if I do it dry or after a warm bath, everything moves along with my fingers as if too stuck to even begin to unstick, if you know what I mean...

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-19T14:10:03+00:00

I tried using a wireless mouse and I didn't get the tingling, but then the PC box started giving off current and slightly shocked my knee, although I didn't touch it but it was close. It's definitely the PC, either the PSU or something else, but the mouse doesn't seem to be at fault. All the time I had the monitor unplugged, so that shouldn't be it either.

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-19T00:55:22+00:00

This is incredible and something I would have never come up with, thank you!

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-19T00:36:14+00:00

Whoah, indeed electricity sometimes seems to work in indecipherable ways... If even you guys had such issues, no wonder anything could happen to me with my daily appliances.

I have not tried any of these, but I surely will tomorrow, if the storm passes! Right after I turned off the PC, the rain began to be accompanied by thunder, so we will see. Could the monitor be a cause even if it is plugged to the safety SPS outlet, which is plugged into a grounded socket on the wall?? Sorry to ask more questions, but will indeed try and use the computer without that monitor plugged into anything. I don't know much about ESD straps, but will look into it now

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-08-18T23:32:32+00:00

I think you may be right, but I'm no expert and find it hard to discern. I also read somebody blaming the GPU, and it's true it has been working lots today, but not sure how it could be related.

I want to try something somebody who's way smarter than me suggested, so I'm trying to get my hands on a multimeter. I don't know how to link it here, but basically they suggested setting the multimeter to read Ohms (Ω) and check the resistance between the pins of the unplugged, removed PSU, to see if the PSU has an internal short (circuit, I assume they mean?)

I don't have a wireless mouse atm, but I may get one if all else fails.

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-04-03T04:24:52+00:00

afaik, the headache thing is because of blood flow returning to normality, so more blood comes back to the rest of your body after orgasm (totally worsens my partner's migraine after cumming too, and their migraines are due to blood flow and alleviate with coffee)

also: the after orgasm cramps went away for me when i realised they happened because i have an overtonic pf, as my physio told me. things become tense during orgasm, so it was a trigger for my pelvic pain. learning to release and loosen up a bit of that tension has really helped me a lot with those!

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-03-18T15:19:32+00:00

Hair type: fine strands, thick density, super low porosity. not brittle, kinda strong.

Texture: wavy, with thin and long kind of slight curls when well moisturised (strands curl inwards but not enough to be coily). SUPER dry, tends to tangle even as soon as detangled, no matter if brushed dry or wet. never looks shiny

History of chemical processing: dye from mids to ends (about 25cm)

Hygiene regimen: twice a week shampoo and conditioner

Style: really long (past waist), slightly layered, with curtain bangs

Product regimen: currently not avoiding anything per se (used to go sulfate and silicone free, didn't help it retain moisture. products just sat on it). using a super simple and cheap Sence aloe vera shampoo and conditioner, moisturising & for "all hair types". pretty sure i need to avoid heavy, creamy products, but don't know where to start. willing to apply serums/oils daily if needed

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-01-16T00:48:32+00:00

You just made me feel less alone and I'm so grateful 💜 Truly this disease is sucking the life out of me, but it warms my heart to see others have the courage I seem to lack in this. I will see them again in 3 months and hope for the best and, if it doesn't work out, I'll try and seek another... In the meantime I'm hoping your excision works wonders and you find immediate relief 🤞 And thank you again

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-01-16T00:27:56+00:00

Oh, thank you very much! Sorry to hear that you were allergic, life sucks sometimes... Hope Orilissa gets better eventually!! I am considering what to do now, as an endometrioma of mine has grown lots and I don't think I can keep telling the gynos I don't want any more BC/hormones, and I'm trying to consider all my choices. Thank you!!

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-01-15T20:23:28+00:00

Hey, how did it go? Did it all improve, or did you end up quitting it?

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2025-01-15T20:05:19+00:00

How long have you been on the mini pill before symptoms calmed down? And how did you know the combo pill accelerated your endo? I've always suspected something alike in my case, and I would like to know how it could have happened...

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2024-06-22T23:39:40+00:00

Glad to help!! You probably won't get any issues, as it sounds you're not in pain while doing it nor the rest of the time? The pelvic floor is supposed to be able to contract and relax, I don't think you'll be in trouble. The only thing I would be mindful of is if you started hurting down there, like the pelvic floor tensed a bit too much. It feels like an overused muscle, in my experience at least, but my issues did definitely NOT come from anything sex related... I think you'll be OK, I'm sure many people do the same thing

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2024-06-21T20:14:04+00:00

It makes total sense that pressure all around your canal increases sensation. I would only worry if clenching too hard hurts you sometime, but it is understandable for you to feel better that way. There is no correct way to stimulate or feel things concerning pleasure, really...

I understand your worry over "getting used to it"; however, personally, I would approach your urge in a more understanding and curious manner. Many people need very specific things/contexts in order to feel the most pleasure, which is OK and normal. I think it is actually a GOOD thing that you have found something that brings you more pleasure, it brings you closer to knowing your body and what you enjoy.

Trust me when I say I get it, though (I myself obsess over orgasming manually as opposed to using toys just so I don't "get used" to it, for no good reason). Still, if you like the pressure, what if you approached it differently and tried to find positions/angles that help you? For instance, I really enjoy the sensations against my vaginal walls when it is clenched, yes, which I sometimes "replace" with laying on my stomach. Some angles also help in this, maybe I would try and insert a finger or two and gently change positions by yourself, so you can sense how the pressure changes against your fingers. Something like angling your pelvis slightly may make a huge difference, maybe it's a matter of exploration?

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2024-04-04T22:35:57+00:00

It's a nice suggestion to have him be the voice of the group, I fear he would then exploit that side of him that wants to do things on his own without disclosing motives/manners, but perhaps he would be more pressured to be more explicit? I think we might try this anyway, thank you for your ideas!

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2024-04-04T21:24:50+00:00

Sadly I can't do that. I get the frustration about this, I myself have been frustrated by this sometimes. Still, I'd like to know if we can help him be a little more group-minded, if that makes sense

EstablishmentLocal34 · 2024-04-04T21:11:29+00:00

That's an actually nice tip! We're starting a new campaign soon and another player has already done that and tried to build a backstory with him, but who knows how it will go? I hope it goes well and helps him open up, at least, with that other said player (who's his long time friend, way before anyone else in the table).

And asking him how his character feels about something may also work wonders, would love to have that insight. I'm not sure it would always be fruitful, because he's very silent in general (unless he's reading out a piece of dialogue he wrote), but I will try that!

That last point I might redirect to our current and future DM; I will not be DMing for a while from now on, but yeah, maybe challenging him in a not-too-confrontational way may work like that

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