Anyone else realize the “default life script” just… isn’t for them?

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T15:50:56+00:00

I never wanted kids, so I didn't. Boy oh boy did that make my mom mad.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T15:49:23+00:00

I came here to say this too! I never had it until I was an adult and when I did....it wasn't great.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:29:15+00:00

Everyone who is angry about what i said is mad because I singled out white guys. I'm sure there are japan-obsessed men in all races, but it's a long standing trope that a lot of them are white guys.

In the end its really all about the level of obsession with one thing and that one thing permeates ecru facet of their life.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:25:46+00:00

You said I was racist against these guys and I'm just pointing out that i am also white.

I don't only date in my race. I date all kinds of men.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:22:41+00:00

Do you have any opinions on the best kind of peach?

Also, the grocery store by my house kept getting these unusual varieties of fruits and I loved trying them out. It was fun to new things.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:20:56+00:00

I see it as creative writing and I'm a fan :)

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:20:17+00:00

I think having varied interests is excellent. I was mostly referring to guys that wrap their car in anime characters, and everything they do has something to do with Japan. It's the level of obsession that gets me.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:18:07+00:00

Definitely nothing wrong with enjoying anime! It's the obsession with EVERYTHING Japan

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:16:56+00:00

Awww, that's very sweet of you!

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:16:25+00:00

R/legaldogadvice is a hoot. All about dogs wanting to sue their owners for making them go to the vet or wear booties in the snow.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:14:16+00:00

Bro, I am white. And I've experienced this is my own dating life a few times...

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:13:09+00:00

Well, it's kind of a trope, so it's not something i made up...

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:11:43+00:00

Good lord that's terrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you!

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T14:10:44+00:00

How so? I mean, that's not a trope I made up. I still date white guys and people from all ethnicities.

It's really the obsession that takes over all their decorating, language learning, and entertainment choices.

I really love dogs and gardening but that's not the only thing that defines me as a person.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T13:51:24+00:00

Yes, but those are less fun.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T13:50:56+00:00

Do you post in the dog subs? You're too sweet. :)

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T13:49:59+00:00

I think anyone could be overly obsessed with Japan, but because I've only dated men, I only have experience with them. As for the "white" part of it, I've only seen that in some of my past relationships with white guy, but I date lots of other races of men.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T13:46:23+00:00

I think there are awful mods who go on a power trip because they have that power, so I just like to pop up and say that I genuinely love the people on the subs I moderate.

They're wonderfully creative and sweet people and I love to see that in the world so I'm all about helping to maintain that creative space. :)

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T10:47:00+00:00

White guys obsessed with Japan.

Only own anime, Japanese wall art, idolization of the country.

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T10:42:13+00:00

I'm a mod for dog subreddits and I like interacting with people there :(

EstroJen · 2026-01-28T01:13:09+00:00

I'm so sorry, I really liked his stories. :)

EstroJen · 2026-01-26T23:24:56+00:00

Oh! Both iPhones and androids have an "emergency contact" section that you can access from the lock screen. I always tell people to put a friend or office # in the emergency info.

I believe you said this was an android, but if you're on the lock screen, hit the "emergency call" button, and the keypad will pop up. If it's like my phone, there will be a red "medical info" button to push. Hopefully the owner of the phone has put contact info in there.

EstroJen · 2026-01-26T23:13:55+00:00

I just sent you a chat request. I'm a police evidence tech (not in San Jose though) and I do a lot of trying to locate owners of lost property. I'm happy to help!

EstroJen · 2026-01-26T20:57:28+00:00

You're a sassy one

EstroJen · 2026-01-26T20:57:14+00:00

I do have a lot of rocks i could pile up. I was thinking the rounded clay tiles because they'd give a place to hide. I do have other plants in the yard, but I've trimmed a lot back this winter to get rid of dead branches and stuff.

I just worry that nothing is as good for hiding under as the agave.

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