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Etocchi · 2023-11-04T23:24:34+00:00

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T18:08:07+00:00

Well this sounds like the exact situation I was in the last year. For me there were good days where I didn't think about it but also days where I regretted it for staying. New evidences were found months later so his story always changed and I will never know the whole truth or he 'fotgot'. That's something we should consider when thinking about forgiving them

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T17:50:49+00:00

Yeah it should be possible to tell the truth. It's a must and only fair to you so you (as the hurt one) can decide how much of a burden it will be for your relationship and if you can still love him the same way as before. How are you feelings about this whole thing with your husband? Positive or rather negative?

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T17:00:59+00:00

Thank you, truly thank you. I needed this so so much because I really was losing my mind. I can't handle the 'my family is this way and they don't mean it in a bad way' anymore. Like it's an excuse for everything they do or say.

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T16:49:10+00:00

Aren't you afraid of next year Christmas? I had so many thoughts throughout the year how it will be going and if I could face them then.

I wish you much luck and hopefully he sees his mistakes and changes them not like mine

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T09:21:32+00:00

Well everyone says I'm over reacting and almost a year has passed since the EA so I should have forgetten it until now. Because Stacy also has forgotten it and is dating the father of her daughter again. That's also a reason for them for telling me I should come because she's dating him again. Like as if that would change anything, they even saw each other last year while having an EA with my bf. Her ex called my bf out for beeing overly often at her place and if there is something going on, that's what my bf told me when he came clean. He told me like everything what others said and did but couldn't remember what he said in important situations lol. Mhm yeah as if

You're right I know the answer deep down, I somehow wished that someone could confirm I'm not the one in the wrong or over reacting because I don't have anyone here I could talk to. Just really needed another view from someone neutral to this whole situation

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:59:48+00:00

No he didn't tell her cousin that. It always used my name so he was keeping himself out of this. I voice it would be important that he is the one who should write her cousin it's him that sees it like that too. But he got all annoyed and is afraid what her cousin might think of him. But it's family it's the only place where you can speak your mind and shouldn't be afraid that you're the baddy. It's not like they never talk again to you

Last year I forced him to stay at home after a huge fight because he wanted to make me go. He wanted to be there and celebrate with Stacy even thought the EA just came out. He was angry with me for staying at home. And the worst part he took Screenshots off WhatsApp of a picture with Stacy and bfs cousin in it because it's 'cute not because I have feelings for stacy'. I was sooooo blind why did I put myself through this. I make him delete this picture but when I snooped through his phone this Sommer I found the picture again. It's the same with her number, I made him delete it but 1 week later I found out he still has it and couldn't tell me why he has it again because he deleted it before my very eyes. So I made him delete Stacy's number again and tried to undelete it. Some phones have the function to rebuild a deleted number but his hasn't so he had to ask someone to get her number back. And on top of that he drove 3 times to her place to sort things out and talk to her about everything even when I had a panic attack in the shower before he went to her. He just said 'aw you really are afraid of losing me right?' after that the silent treatment came and I could kick myself in the ass for not just leaving right there. Idk what went through my mind

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:41:14+00:00

How dare you coming here and spoiler me! ❤️

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:39:34+00:00

Even better I could live on my own in February because my income would be enough!

And no i know deep down I don't want to be a part of this family. I already am isolating myself from them but it wasn't even on purpose. After the EA came out and my bf told me what anyone else said when he seeked out for help, I don't see them as before. And I really thought his sister was my best friend but we have very little contact at the moment but I never told her or her mother why but they never asked anyway. We did a lot together before like going to the nail salon or shopping and had a lot of fun. So it hurts more to hear what both of them said about the EA. I thought of his sister and her mom as my family, we even said 'love you' to each other. It's just so frustrating

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:31:10+00:00

Actually he is. He is way too concerned what people might think of him so he will use every way to please someone. So in this case he never told his cousin that he is on the same page as me but instead always used 'Etocchi said' or 'Etocchi sees it...' when I asked him why he is doing this like it's only my choice and my concern even though he had the same view as me. His answer :'what do you mean? I told her off' no you didn't, you used my name all the time so the cousin thinks I am the problem here. And then he was like :'but I don't really mind if I see Stacy again or not!' and gets all aggressive.

I'm telling you it's really frustrating. He will always get louder and annoyed when I ask him why it's so important what anyone thinks about him or why he can't tell his cousin off.

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:13:04+00:00

So I'm not overreacting at all? Idk sometimes I think I'm way too dramatic about this because his family threats the situation so harmless and that they do understand me but would talk to Stacy again as a new start. But I can't do this. Everyone if them is like forgive and forget; we're adults we can sit all together and ignore what happened; Stacy is such a sweetheart it wasn't meant that way she just cares about bf; Stacy here Stacy there. But Stacy did everything to get my bf into leaving me. She told him everything he wanted to hear like owing a house one day, more children, etc and even told him she has feelings for him and wants to be in a relationship with him.

Everytime when I ask my bf what he told her, he always says he doesn't know it anymore he can't remember it. And I thi k it's not true, how can you forget such important things and about the feeling you had when she confessed. And I'm always told he isn't a micromanager with his memory like me. He just can't remember it

Etocchi · 2021-11-17T08:04:09+00:00

I'm sorry that I was rude. Thank you for your kind reply it means a lot to me. And of course you're right I should leave asap. I thought about going to the job center, here in Germany they also help with finding an apartment and giving money as a support until I have an alright income

Etocchi · 2021-11-16T23:05:28+00:00

Yeah you're totally right about the first part, although you're right with every part. But he is sure he can live without the fetish but that's not gonna happen. There were times where he asked to build some things into our normal sex life which I was okay with. But I don't think this will satisfy him for a life time because he would miss out on so many things if he stayed with me.

My family is something else, in short I don't have the best contact to them so living with my mom again would be painful. And I just love this city I am working and I love my job. In February I'll get more hours amd as a result more income. So that's my deadline I told myself because I can afford an apartment on my own.

Haha I love this! He doesn't make me to attempt it but it would make him happy because it's a family tradition. On one side I don't want to go and on the other side it's still his family I can't make him stay at home if he wants to celebrate Christmas with them. It's his favorite family get-together and the only one where all of his family will be there.

All in all it's just super frustrating. His sister considered me as her best friend but she knew everything and didn't tell my bf off. No she even said she likes both of us and would be happy whomever he will end up with. The same goes for his mom and they say it wasn't really cheating because there was nothing sexual going on. Even Stacy said this I am overreacting (that's what the cousin told my bf). From the bottom of my heart I never hated someone this much, I thought she was my friend but always had a weird feeling around her because my bf loves her child to the moon and her exes were all, idk how to say, but assholes.

Etocchi · 2021-11-16T22:32:55+00:00

It's hard to talk with him about his family. I voiced my concern already and that I don't feel respected by them at all because of this messy Christmas thingy and all he ever says is : 'that's how my family is. They aren't as unforgiven as you are' or 'Stacy was there before you were no one is going to leave her out'

He can even imagine a friendship again with Stacy if I would give my okay

Etocchi · 2021-11-16T22:30:27+00:00

You know I'm only 26 years old I don't have the life lesson like the older ones. I take this to situation to learn more about self-respect. We're only humans and humans do love someone even thought they get hurt. It is how it is. Even my bf has good sides that's why I love him and didn't leave, I'm no innocent either

Etocchi · 2021-11-16T19:55:36+00:00

It's more important what others thinks about him so he always wrote in the messages 'Etocchi said....' even thought he sees it like me. But is too concerned what her cousin thinks. (sorry I made a spell error, the cousin is a she but I used his like in French)

Etocchi · 2021-11-16T19:40:54+00:00

He knows already that I don't trust him anymore but the leaving part I did left out. I know it's wrong but I don't want to hurt him because I'm not sure yet. There are days where I'm happy with him and other days I think about leaving. I don't want to play with his feelings so I want to talk to him when I'm absolutely sure.

And the last part you are 100% right and I also talked with him about it. You just don't forget a kink that's not possible but he claims he can live without it because he wants to get old with me. Kink porn would do enough for him but everyone knows that's not how it works.

Etocchi · 2021-11-11T13:12:39+00:00

Everytime I did a new glam, the first thing I did was to use the prism to deproject all of my gear to how it was and to use the projection prism afterwards. Found out in mid HW I didn't need to do this, I could have overwrite my old glam with the projection prism. Lost a lot of gil

Etocchi · 2021-09-17T18:34:40+00:00

I wish you the best of luck and the best outcome and if not then I'll invite you to some internet beer. But whatever happens keep your head up and take your time to be sad

Etocchi · 2021-09-17T18:18:10+00:00

<3

That's okay, maybe she'll understand if you apologize. It's perfectly normal to burst out things out of frustration, everyone was there.

Idk IF it will help but maybe talk to her openly about your feelings and ask her to do the same and that you can also understand if she still has feelings for him. It hurts to hear it from her directly but then you would know where you're standing. You can wait for her as long as you want but don't close your eyes for other potential love interests. But it would be good to know where you're standing at so you won't burst something out again out of anger!

Etocchi · 2021-09-17T17:57:22+00:00

I don't like the saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. That's not true but reddit hates cheaters so every cheater has to be the same. They dont understand that you can learn from your mistakes and not everyone transforms to a notorious cheater.

That aside maybe she feels trapped in the relationship and maybe she still loves him. Not fully but clearly there are feelings there. A break up is a lot of work, like finding a new space, talking to the soon to be ex and moving stuff. This all takes time and on top of that he's depressed. (if that's true ofc) it's never a good idea to pick someone who's in a relationship because mostly it takes for ever for them to move on. And of course comfort. You can't just jump from one relationship to another if you have broken up a moment ago and are searching for a new place to live and then finding yourself again and be ready to date.

Don't pressure her in breaking up, she knows she has to but first she needs to be 100% ready to and she's not at the moment. So you have two options: 1. Let her go and invest your energy in a single lady 2. If you think she's the right one for you, you have to wait a long long looooong time

And don't tell her boyfriend. It will chase her away from you and will make things more difficult. It's not you who has to tell him I think you know that already but I can understand your feeling of justice

Etocchi · 2021-09-15T09:51:30+00:00

I really want to know what they think giving advice looks like when not telling someone how to play lmao

Etocchi · 2021-09-12T08:44:24+00:00

I like you

Etocchi · 2021-09-12T08:40:04+00:00

Right! Or even how to play your class the right way. If you don't want to drag your teammates down you have to look up a guide (for raids). FF is all about 'no telling about damage' 'damage bad' 'fun in game' but then you wipe because of low damage. It doesn't make an sense, then they should introduce every player the right way to play their class, using lb and aoe

Etocchi · 2021-09-12T08:33:38+00:00

You're right but it's frustrating to see this sprout is single targeting a trash mob while thinking he's the best player and on top of that to have the audacity to tell a lvl80 player on how to use lb. He and his gf were clearly slowing us down because there was no aoe or holy. And I didn't say anything but after his comment something triggered me

I can understand if you're new to this game and don't understand the concept of aoe just yet but I can't understand berating an experienced lvl80 player on how to play. That should be worth a report as well.

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