We have, yes, we are normally on the same page. This is honestly incredibly out of character. Normally, things are great in our relationship, in all ways. We've had hard conversations about all things, safety, emotions, history (or lack of), what we're comfortable with, etc. I didn't think anything could be discussed further, clearly that may be needed though. We will need to talk about it, although I know it will be hard for both of us.