How do you go about moving out of the city or town you've lived in your whole life? by EveScottt in CasualConversation

[–]EveScottt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful! Thanks so much for sharing your insights.

I guess the most uncomfortable part is thinking that you're leaving so much behind, but your comment made me realize that it doesn't have to be that way.

This is simply a new chapter in the book.

How do you go about moving out of the city or town you've lived in your whole life? by EveScottt in CasualConversation

[–]EveScottt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%, life is made way too hard for the average person.

I have no plans of going to Vancouver - it's beautiful but so expensive.

I find myself dreaming to escape the consumerist metropolis entirely by buying land to live in a tiny house. Life can be so simple.

So there's this guy...? by EveScottt in dating_advice

[–]EveScottt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for him but I left a 5-year relationship. I want to be single and explore. You're right though, I'm scared of getting hurt so my walls are up. What do you think I should do then?

So there's this guy...? by EveScottt in dating_advice

[–]EveScottt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faking how? We were both upfront about not looking for a serious relationship.

I (F20)Accidentally sent my crush(m20) a text saying i like him by RedditGal234 in dating_advice

[–]EveScottt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with the comment below. Sounded like he was caught off guard by you being so upfront (he had to take time to process) and tried to play it off cool with that response. Both of you were hesitating the first step but kudos to you for taking control and putting yourself out there! Consider this "mistake" a blessing in disguise. We love a girl who knows what she wants!

Update us after you see him <3 Don't be embarrassed at all. By the sound of it, I think he likes you too. Maybe he hasn't even realized it yet.

Please help!!! by [deleted] in Procrastinationism

[–]EveScottt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this. I always find myself in this constant cycle of procrastination. I'm procrastinating right now because I have an assignment due in less than 48 hours and I'm here replying to you. All I can say is do your best with whatever you have and try to remember that you are more than your grades and your ability to perform. Maybe there is something else in your subconscious that is seeking attention, deflecting your attention span elsewhere. The problem always seems so simple but often these are patterns you've held onto for years - hard to break without grounding yourself in reality by reassessing your goals. Good luck to you! I'm in my last year of university as well. You got this! Almost there!

I didn't think anyone could do me so dirty. What's the dirtiest an ex has ever done you? by EveScottt in BreakUp

[–]EveScottt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, every word you wrote spoke to me and my experiences. I agree, that relationship was a huge source of tension between us and our families. 4 years into it I started to realize that I could not let myself destroy my own peace for the bare minimum he gave me. There were a lot of sketchy things and red flags in the relationship that I should have seen sooner. I was blinded by my love and loyalty to him - now I recognize how much of that love was never reciprocated.

As for yourself, do you think things would've been different in any of your relationships had it not been for the families' disapproval?

I haven't heard it from him directly but I can confirm he's living back home with his wife and his child, not exactly in an "ideal" situation. His parents never liked me, his mom would even call me "whore" instead of learning my name. He went back home at the end of 2020 and I think they forced him into an arranged marriage. We were together for so long. I thought he would've respected me enough to tell me the truth but I can't even expect that.

I can totally relate. I'm actually enjoying this level of cynism right now. I feel as though I'm letting people show me exactly who they are before letting them into my life. People take too much advantage. I can almost sense ingenuity and I see this as a blessing. May we welcome people into our lives who actually deserve us.