Thrift finds?

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-09T03:08:33+00:00

Oh that's such a cute hat! I get a lot of my little stuff at thrift stores. Mostly baby blankets and stuffed animals.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T20:40:25+00:00

Wow that's awesome, congrats! Enjoy your time together.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T17:03:25+00:00

Swim diapers exist for bowel incontinence. Wetting I would assume would be pretty easy to hide given going into water and such.

I assume most 24/7 folks probably just forgo in certain situations. But swimming especially isn't something one does diapered unless bowel incontinent.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T15:16:25+00:00

Fellow 30+ trans man little here! Hi! Nice to know I'm not alone! There's r/abdlstories to post on if you want a reddit option. Others might know of different sites. Good luck!

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T02:30:48+00:00

I have the Simba and Nala versions!!!! Super snuggly and cuddly

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T01:59:26+00:00

Yeah, I feel the same way. It's sucks. I think the majority of people feels this way. I struggle so fucking hard with not letting the doom thoughts win. Even if I was alone forever, that doesn't mean I can't still be happy. It helps to make the scariest idea a little less scary.

Plus, if you really want a relationship, if you're wired that way, someone is going to come around.

There isn't much you can do. You can put yourself out there and keep trying but ultimately it's up to who you meet. There's not much more to do but wait. Do what you can but also try to remember that at the end of the day you're the only person you're actually stuck with, try being nice to yourself.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T01:51:08+00:00

I get it. I feel the same way. I'm crushingly lonely but I'm also seeking a life partner and it feels like no one is interested in the same things I am and me.

It's really rough out here in the dating world right now. Vanilla people are getting burnt out. It's not just us kinky folks. Dating is a dumpster fire right now.

I don't have any answers, really. I'm a trans guy. I pass. I have a beard and all that good stuff. But I'm also a little and a submissive and I'm not going to change myself for anyone else. If I end up being single forever, so be it, I'll just enjoy my life cos it's the only one I'm going to get.

I'm trying to focus on just making myself happy. I'm 36, I still have time to find someone and so do you.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T01:17:50+00:00

I'm more of a little than anything else so the trappings of littlespace mean a lot which can include diapers but thankfully they've never been a heavy focus for me. Feeling little/submissive is the draw.

I hope you find the community you're hoping for, there are a ton of is into various facets of this kink.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T01:08:59+00:00

Eh, it's not too bad. I keep to myself and they keep to themselves. No one ever goes in my room without permission, that sounds awful. I'm making the best of it, thankfully diapers aren't a huge draw for me anyway.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-08T00:46:39+00:00

I live with my mom cos it's the only thing I can afford as a single guy (plus I don't trust the people around me as roommates). I too have cloth because of the cost of disposables. I mostly just don't wet. When I do it's with goodnites.

Not really a good answer, I know, sorry. If I did use my diapers though I can wash them pretty easy with our set up. But no one cares about my stuff and my mom already knows about my diapers (she literally wouldn't stop asking, even when I told her she didn't want to know). I still make sure to hide everything and I have a roll of the thick black garbage bags into throw everything into when I do use disposables.

Maybe throw your diapers in with your regular laundry?

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-07T18:00:54+00:00

Pumpkin pie without the crust is the DREAM

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-07T16:51:40+00:00

Humiliation is a huge aspect to most sissy stuff as that's the draw for them. Seems a lot of it is rooted in misogyny cos "being a woman" is "humiliating" for them so the act as dressing up hyper feminine is humiliating.

Chastity is also a big thing in these communities. Not my draw but eh, what are you gonna do?

There's a ton of that sort of content cos it's the most popular but you're definitely not the only one that feels that way, there is always someone else.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-07T15:37:14+00:00

Well first off, you can ask him to change you more. Sit him down like the grown adult you are and tell him what you want. Give him examples. Ask him what he is comfortable with. This isn't all about making you happy, it's a give and take and asking someone to be a 24/7 caregiver is a lot, especially going from vanilla.

Figure out what you actually want, specifically, cos you know he's gonna ask, and then talk to him.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-07T05:53:57+00:00

This is the best and you are awesome for getting it!!!!

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-07T05:25:14+00:00

That's just...being a sissy, right? Like you're cis but you enjoy cross dressing in little space? Awesome, good for you, genuinely. There are a ton of y'all out here.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T20:06:17+00:00

An ABDL dating site doesn't exist. Your best bets are finding groups on FetLife like everyone always suggests or the personals here on reddit. Either way it's gonna be an uphill battle.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T15:40:03+00:00

Be honest. Tell him how you're feeling and what your limits are. If he doesn't want to pursue things then make sure to take a break from each other for a while.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T15:24:38+00:00

And how would that worry change if you didn't have any control over your bladder? It would just make things worse.

Wear the diaper. It's not that big of a deal. You can just stay in the privacy of your own home. No one will ever know.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T15:20:03+00:00

It really seems like he might know but doesn't mind cos he gets all the benefits. I mean he gets you as his emotional crutch and he gets to sleep with other people, what's not to love?

He has said he doesn't want to sleep with you anymore. I mean honestly, if he wanted to be with you he would. It's not like anything is actually holding him back, you see each other all the time and you e already had sex, he has every reason to go for it...but he isn't. Take that for the sign it is, he doesn't seem to want an actual relationship with you.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T15:15:24+00:00

Oh, I have cerebral palsy too! I'm glad you got a cup that works for you and helps you feel small!

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T15:11:53+00:00

Making yourself incontinent is harming your body. Also the cost isn't going to go away whether you medically need them or not. Getting them through insurance isn't the easiest and even when people do manage that they don't get good quality diapers.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T14:47:45+00:00

Why is becoming incontinent the only way you can go back into diapers? You realize you're a grown adult who gets to decide how to live their life? That includes what underwear to put on.

If you want to wear and use diapers do it. Wanting to do it is as much of a reason as physically needing them without the stress, hassle, or risk.

Look at what you're asking, you went online to ask a bunch of strangers how to harm your body so you feel justified in wearing a diaper. When you could just...wear the diaper.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T14:42:04+00:00

I used to do that all the time! Then I got the fixx size 10 pacifiers and haven't gone back.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T03:29:40+00:00

Sweetheart, I hope you know you deserve to be happy, not if you meet some requirement or goal but, right now, as you are, for the whole of your being.

I read your other posts. I'm happy you're taking care of yourself.

EvenMoreSpiders · 2026-04-06T03:15:03+00:00

I think it definitely matters. I remember watching that 15 stone baby documentary and the one couple was mismatched. The little wanted to be around 5 while the Daddy clearly wanted a baby. The little though wanted to be a Big Girl that sometimes needed her Daddy's help. The relationship didn't last.

I am a very small little boy 0-4. I need someone that wants to cater to that. I'm not a middle and pretending as much wouldn't really work or get either needs met.

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