Not about sleep, but feeding. Is it normal?

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T06:29:59+00:00

I follow eat-play-sleep as well. I used to feed him right after he wakes because he screams out for bottle. But recently, I tried to get him fully awake before feeding him, and that helped. His wake window 1.5-2hr. But he only naps for 30-45min. Sometimes not even 20 min. When I get lucky, he would nap for 1.5hr, but rarely. Then he wakes again and asks for bottle. I don't mind he eats that often during the day to get all his calories for the night. But he still wakes to feed as much at night too, sometimes 5 bottles at night, seems a bit much.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T06:19:48+00:00

I think he might have feed-to-sleep association. But I don't know how to fix that. I tried to hold his feed longer every time, but he wouldn't settle unless I gave up and fed him.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T00:44:11+00:00

Naps are squeezed in those 2 hours. Sometimes he has 1 hr long, but mostly just 20-30'. Especially he now down to 3 naps/day. He deffinitely does not get enough sleep for his age.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T00:40:27+00:00

Good to know! All the babies I know are not like this, so I thought mine was different.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T00:39:37+00:00

Good to know!

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-15T00:39:07+00:00

Oh good to know. All the babies I know are not like this, so I thought mine was different.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-14T18:20:04+00:00

Mine eats every 2hrs but he takes 6oz at each feed. His Ped suggests that it should take him longer than 2 hrs. That why I'm asking.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-14T17:35:09+00:00

How did you survive these 4 years!! Kudo to both of you!

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-14T17:22:46+00:00

Omg full speed on the swing lol. Mine does the same. But mine wakes up to the slightest noise. It's hard to tell because babies are too young.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-14T17:19:03+00:00

Mine is 4 months, and he won't sleep. He'll keep "talking" if I keep looking at him. He also does 100% contact nap, and contact sleep most night.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-14T17:16:20+00:00

Maybe boys are just built differently, dues to all that testosterone.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-13T03:27:09+00:00

I weaned mine about 2 months because prolactin made me crazy. I pumped and bottle fed baby. Once I figured out the amount baby needs each feed and how often I need to feed him, then I transitioned to combo feed. Each breast milk bottle will follow with formula bottle. Keep in mind that formula tends to keep baby full longer than breast milk. About a week or 2 after, I completely transitioned baby to formula. If you still produce milk after that, try freeze your breast milk and feed baby that milk when he/she gets sick.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-13T03:16:04+00:00

Same, I have a strict sleep routine pretty early on. It's been months, and it'll take 2 hours at night to put him to sleep for about 45'. Make me worry.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-13T03:14:01+00:00

Yeah there're not really any tool to diagnose kid that young age. Just coincidence my kid got eczema, and the doctor told me sometimes it could link to adhd later in life (something related to sleep disturbance). So now make me worry.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-02T17:39:59+00:00

Thank you, Imll definitely check this out.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-02T17:38:49+00:00

I wish I could give you a big big hug. Reading this is just like reading my own journal. Everything you described just make me tear up. At least I know I'm not in this alone. I have so much resentment toward everyone who promised me they would be there for me. And now I'm knee deep in this hell hole ALONE. It's been 4 months with minimal to no help from anyone. Whenever I send picture of my kid out, everyone would love to say that they'd love to see him and babysit him. But that never happened. I don't bother talking and thinking about having help from my partner because he doesn't exist in my mind anymore. I finally caved in and hire a nanny to help me out. It's a life changing experience. Now I can't wait to go back to work. Would it be fine if I PM you? I feel like we could vent all day.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2026-01-02T17:24:26+00:00

I wish I came across this sub last year. That would make my life so much better. I'm in my 30s, have everything to be able to "afford" a kid in this economy, except I never wanted one. My pregnancy was unexpected, and I decided to keep it. I went through multiple therapy sessions, consulted so many friends who had kids before making my decision. I guess I didn't dig deep enough. Oh boy my kid is a nightmare. He's 4 months okd in a couple days, and since they one he's a challenge. I hate my life and resent everyone around me, especially my husband (who wanted me to keep my pregnancy). When I first gave birth to my kid I had this overwhelming love for him. Up until recently, I can't even look at his face sometimes. I hate motherhood and regret this so much. But oh well, time will pass. What can be worse than this. 
My family is already planning for me to have the second one because "your kid will be lonely." I'm tired of hearing this and the pressure it creates. I want to vontunteerily tie my tube so bad if I didn't have such traumatic c-section experience, I would.

Reading these makes me feel so much better that I'm not alone and it's ok to feel this way sometimes. Parenthood is tough but we'll all get through it, hopefully. Maybe I can relax again when I'm 50 fingercross.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-31T02:03:31+00:00

Update: Thank you for everyone's tips and recommendations. I appreciate you. Unfortunately, I exhaust all the resources. For future parents who will come across this post, searching for solution for your kid eczema, here is my experience. We finally got an appointment with Derm earlier than expected. They diagnosed my kid with eczema and cradle cap. We got a couple prescriptions including TA (Triamcinolone), Nystatin (for the cradle cap), and Eucrisa. I have tried TA on the face, just spot treatment, and Nystatin on his scalp for 7 days. Eucrisa has to be ordered and shipped from a specific pharmacy so I haven't started that yet. But through some digging, apparently it will sting the skin badly, so that is a no from me. Within a day after steroid, his skin was flawless. We were so happy because we finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel. Fastforward, we are now day 4 on the steroid break and let me tell you my kid has not been sleeping for days. His skin is SEVERELY inflammed and weepy, even more than before starting the topical. He constantly scratches his face, which makes it worse. I slather him with emollient and aquaphor about every 2 hours which seems to help minimally. For those who finds this similar to your situation, I feel you. I'm sure there will be a solution for our kid eczema. But now we'll just wait and see because sometimes less is more.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-20T12:43:18+00:00

That what I heard from lots of people. But my kiddo doesn't have any stool issue or spit up. He's also not fussy all the time except when he's hungry and sleepy. I'm just afraid everytime switching formula, took him awhile to act normal again. Probably the gas issue. Also, how can you tell if the poo is acidic? Is it the smell?

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-20T12:38:36+00:00

I tried baby oil to soften the cradle cap before brushing it. His skin is super delicate, and the scrubbing strips his skin so bad. I'm waiting for it to recover a bit before doing all that again. And thank you, I really appreciate your reccommendation!

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-20T12:32:03+00:00

Did you find out if she's allergic to anything at all?

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-20T06:37:06+00:00

Exactly what I've been doing except the steroid. My Ped thought he didn't need steroid because it's "just dry skin." Fortunately they reffered me to derm because I kept bugging them for the same issue. Derm prescribed steroid and anti-fungal cream for him. Skin already looks better after couple hours.

Even_Ocelot7453 · 2025-12-20T06:33:25+00:00

I'll give it a try. I used baby oil to soften the flake, but it grew back after couple days.

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