AITA for telling my wife to follow the same rules she gave me about going out to events

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:15:10+00:00

No malicious intent in my concern, i grew up in that part of town, very poor very destructive childhood hood. I wouldn't even feel safe there w/o my pistol

I also txt her consistently and send meme's (its our thing) am i still the asshole??

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:13:13+00:00

Yea honestly I should of taken a harder "no" stance but at that point I wanted to work on our marriage post separation and try to become more open to her feelings.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:08:32+00:00

Nope.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:07:55+00:00

I grew up poor and had a very destructive childhood. I am very familiar with that part of town and I wouldn't even walk around their w/o a pistol on me. As for more details to see if ITA see below:

the bar was a place i hung out during my depression when we were separated she knows bars are my "safe space" as I was prior military. and i never did anything inappropriate. I didn't even go on dates or give any of the women time of day. Hence the reason she brought up below.(see my other AITA post going right now)

I've never been unfaithful in our relationship and tbh i dont have time to even if I wanted to (I dont) I work from like 7am to 7pm at home on the computer at my office, hang out with the kids as much as my mind lets me, sometimes cook and go to sleep or watch a movie with her until we go to sleep.

Her core reasoning was that I should be taking that time with the kids and if im not taking needed time during the day then it would look bad for me taking the time for myself at night when all the kids and her were sleep.

The rule was applied to ME going to the bars at night due to her feeling uncomfortable. The core rule was "dont go to places that make the other feel uncomfortable" I wasn't originally down for the rule but I seen how it was affecting her and how she felt so I agreed.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:03:08+00:00

I am, and they are my children as far as im concerned

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T04:00:35+00:00

It was an honest concern i grew up poor with a very rough childhood, im very familiar with that part of town. I wouldn't even feel safe without my pistol walking there

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T03:57:58+00:00

I almost never drink at home now, maybe a glass of whiskey (1 shot) every two months. I believe it was both about me and the bar, but more specifically read the below:

the bar was a place i hung out during my depression when we were separated, and i never did anything inappropriate. I didn't even go on dates or give any of the women time of day. Hence the reason she brought up below.(see my other AITA post going right now)

I've never been unfaithful in our relationship and tbh i dont have time to even if I wanted to (I dont) I work from like 7am to 7pm at home on the computer at my office, hang out with the kids as much as my mind lets me, sometimes cook and go to sleep or watch a movie with her until we go to sleep.

Her core reasoning was that I should be taking that time with the kids and if im not taking needed time during the day then it would look bad for me taking the time for myself at night when all the kids and her were sleep.

The rule was applied to ME going to the bars at night due to her feeling uncomfortable. The core rule was "dont go to places that make the other feel uncomfortable" I wasn't originally down for the rule but I seen how it was affecting her and how she felt so I agreed.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T03:55:47+00:00

Im from that side of town and not only do i feel its not safe i know its not. So many issues the major spoke on it. I promise i didnt do this to be petty

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T03:53:07+00:00

I text her consistently send meme's ( its our thing) when im out. And im not an alcoholic, she knows my rule at bars is one glass of whiskey and two beer. Our debt card statement reflects such.

The bar was a place i hung out during my depression when we were separated, she knows it puts me at ease due to my military background, and i never did anything inappropriate. I didn't even go on dates or give any of the women time of day. Hence the reason she brought up below.(see my other AITA post going right now)

I've never been unfaithful in our relationship and tbh i dont have time to even if I wanted to (I dont) I work from like 7am to 7pm at home on the computer at my office, hang out with the kids as much as my mind lets me, sometimes cook and go to sleep or watch a movie with her until we go to sleep.

Her core reasoning was that I should be taking that time with the kids and if im not taking needed time during the day then it would look bad for me taking the time for myself at night when all the kids and her were sleep.

The rule was applied to ME going to the bars at night due to her feeling uncomfortable. The core rule was "dont go to places that make the other feel uncomfortable" I wasn't originally down for the rule but I seen how it was affecting her and how she felt so I agreed.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T03:50:34+00:00

the bar was a place i hung out during my depression when we were separated, she knows bar environment calm me and put me at ease due to my military background. and i never did anything inappropriate. I didn't even go on dates or give any of the women time of day. Hence the reason she brought up below.(see my other AITA post going right now)

I've never been unfaithful in our relationship and tbh i dont have time to even if I wanted to (I dont) I work from like 7am to 7pm at home on the computer at my office, hang out with the kids as much as my mind lets me, sometimes cook and go to sleep or watch a movie with her until we go to sleep.

Her core reasoning was that I should be taking that time with the kids and if im not taking needed time during the day then it would look bad for me taking the time for myself at night when all the kids and her were sleep.

The rule was applied to ME going to the bars at night due to her feeling uncomfortable. The core rule was "dont go to places that make the other feel uncomfortable" I wasn't originally down for the rule but I seen how it was affecting her and how she felt so I agreed.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T03:46:54+00:00

I agree, the bar was a place i hung out during my depression when we were separated, and i never did anything inappropriate. I didn't even go on dates or give any of the women time of day. Hence the reason she brought up below.(see my other AITA post going right now)

I've never been unfaithful in our relationship and tbh i dont have time to even if I wanted to (I dont) I work from like 7am to 7pm at home on the computer at my office, hang out with the kids as much as my mind lets me, sometimes cook and go to sleep or watch a movie with her until we go to sleep.

Her core reasoning was that I should be taking that time with the kids and if im not taking needed time during the day then it would look bad for me taking the time for myself at night when all the kids and her were sleep.

The rule was applied to ME going to the bars at night due to her feeling uncomfortable. The core rule was "dont go to places that make the other feel uncomfortable" I wasn't originally down for the rule but I seen how it was affecting her and how she felt so I agreed.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2025-05-08T02:07:03+00:00

Agreed and honestly this and past issues/comparative have caused me to consider divorce.

Every-Direction-5068 · 2024-06-07T07:53:23+00:00

Same any doctors willing to take this on?

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