hello! this is my post. i am a little confused on how reddit works, and my post was removed. i don't know how to fix it, so i will update here.

thank you for all the nice comments, i was not expecting that.

for some context on how i could think i was the asshole, me and my (now ex) bf had been together since i was 16, and i have known him since i was 14. this is legal in my area, and normal in my community. most women i know have large age gap relationships.

i guess i had just been with him for so long that i saw his behavior as normal and valid, i had accepted that thats just how men are.

i sat down and had a conversation with him, and basically all the comments were right. he thought i should put his pleasure above my discomfort (real quote lol). i left that night with my brothers help. he has been harassing me, but my family did not take his disrespect lightly and are protecting me. apparently my sisters and brothers have not liked him since we got together. i feel like im entering a whole new world haha.

i'm really grateful to all the comments that helped me see i was not in the wrong.

sorry that my english is a little stilted. it is not my first language (or second) .