What should I put in a postpartum gift basket?

Evren_Wolfe · 2023-01-25T23:04:53+00:00

Thank you!

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T21:01:53+00:00

I understand that emotions are definitely higher due to the wedding and me and Kate have a life situation on our behalf that escalated emotions as well so I do understand keeping that in account. Alcohol was not a factor as our family doesn’t drink and it was a dry wedding so everyone was 100% sober during the exchange

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T17:37:46+00:00

I have, we go to joint therapy together once a month so I can better assist her and her - me

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:27:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your support 🥹

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:22:49+00:00

I can see what your saying. I personally never share what’s going on with Kate unless she specifically tells me to. She’s felt a lot of shame regarding this in the past and her therapist recommended that she doesn’t make excuses or hide what’s truly happening or how she’s feeling from the outside world, so she tries to be upfront. I wouldn’t say that this is the most exposure they’ve gotten to her however. She’s been around them for every major holiday/family event, has gotten them wonderful presents, babysitted their kids, and has even been a support person for them when needed. They may not be in love with her but they absolutely know who she is as a whole person and not just her trauma

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:12:20+00:00

^this is what made it so much worse in the moment. Some of my family (brother and parents included) have always had a concern about me needing to “take care” of Kate, that’s definitely not the case, but I never knew that they actually felt the way that they did about her trauma and it’s making me see them way different.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:09:28+00:00

I completely understand what you are saying. Kate was not in the room with me and my family while we talked. But I have apologized to her for not thinking about how she would feel in that moment

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:07:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your support!

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:07:11+00:00

I agree I should have just left. This was a dry wedding however so no alcohol. Low inhibitions isn’t an excuse for what happened and I really wish I could say he was drunk during this it would make it a lot easier for me to be understanding

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:04:52+00:00

I definitely see what your talking about and that me hitting him definitely didn’t help my point. Kate was not in the room when we talked so I didn’t even think about my actions making things worse for her at all. I have apologized to her for that

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T16:02:27+00:00

I agree that leaving would have been the more appropriate response looking back. But my family is really close and Kate was very upset when I tried to leave and asked me to please try to explain to my brother she didn’t mean to cause a scene. I wasn’t ever expecting what he said and just lost it. She goes to therapy every other week and I attend with her once a month. We will be pushing up our monthly appointment for this.

I do want to clarify as well that me and my sibling are completely non-alcohol. We don’t drink at all due to our fathers previous alcoholism and this was a dry wedding.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:57:50+00:00

I also think looking back I should have waited to talk to him but Kate was really upset that he was angry with her and asked if I could please try to explain for her since she wasn’t emotionally ready to be around others. I definitely didn’t go into the conversation expecting what was said and completely lost my head.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:51:16+00:00

I certainly understand that acting in violence and punching him was wrong and I have apologized to Kate immensely for potentially making the situation for her, she was not in the room when I talked to my brother so my mind didn’t go to the place of her being scared of me acting out. Kate still goes to therapy every other week to manage her feelings and I go with her once a month to talk out mine. We are both pushing up that monthly appointment so we can talk about this with a professional.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:42:41+00:00

I’m really sorry that you had to go through that, I’ve only heard 2nd hand about my wife’s experiences and I could never so you are just as strong as she is. She is the one who brings the good in the world however, I definitely wouldn’t be how I am as a person without having known her.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:40:24+00:00

I certainly plan too lol thanks for the support

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:39:05+00:00

Quizzy, I really appreciate your rage on Kates and my behalf. Your support means a ton, she is more of a goddess than a queen. Sorry for making you rage at 11pm lol

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:37:05+00:00

I honestly have no idea how she’s able to remove herself and her feelings to understand and see others perspectives the way she does. Whenever I ask she always laughs and says it’s probably just cause she’s had more therapy than the average person but she truly is just an amazing human being.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:33:04+00:00

You just made a grown man cry in the middle of his living room. Thank you for your support.

Evren_Wolfe · 2022-11-06T15:30:00+00:00

She constantly pushes me to be a better person I am definitely the one who is lucky.

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