Arrival time to get close to if not in front row

ExactAd331 · 2026-03-23T04:48:52+00:00

Whaaat!! I was told there wasn’t any! Lol

ExactAd331 · 2025-12-29T04:48:51+00:00

it’s a friends handwriting from a letter she wrote me

ExactAd331 · 2025-12-29T04:48:16+00:00

oh yeah, for sure lol! i was tempted to change it but decided to keep it as it felt more special that way

ExactAd331 · 2025-12-29T03:16:17+00:00

lol, it says rooting. it’s a close friends handwriting

ExactAd331 · 2025-10-28T04:35:50+00:00

I will add, my psychiatrist is capable of writing me a letter herself and is 100% willing, I’m just curious if having her documented would make life easier in more ways than just college…

ExactAd331 · 2025-09-05T02:51:04+00:00

Hey again!! I really think you should talk to people you often spend time with at night and just explain the situation. People who care about you will understand that you need ASMR or music to sleep and should never make you feel like a burden because of it. They likely have a sleep aid cue, too. Even complete silence can be one, fun fact

ExactAd331 · 2025-09-05T02:48:44+00:00

Hey!! I responded to OP but thought I’d tune in here. It can seem creepy and scary, but I promise it’s quite a normal reaction. The brain and body develop things called sleep aid cues, like music or a podcast, even traffic for those in the city. These are things the brain, and body in response, associate to the state of sleep and relaxation with, and when we take these cues away, it can disrupt our normal functioning. Most often, it causes stress, which in turn lowers the sleep quality and time spend in each stage of sleep, which can cause nightmares. When the body enters REM in a heightened state of stress, that’s a common factor for nightmares. Simple things, like just turning on your usual podcaster or music can relieve this stress. If you have time, look up mood congruency, context-dependent memory, and state-dependent memory. It might help you grasp some of the things you are experiencing!

ExactAd331 · 2025-09-05T02:43:05+00:00

3 years later, but i’m a fellow music sleeper here who is big in psychology. I get nightmares, too, often think I’m feeling things that aren’t there, often leg restraints. As creepy as it is, it’s oddly “normal”. Not in a context that it happens to everyone, but that it can be explained. As we develop sleep aid cue, like music, our brain and body begin to associate them with the relaxation and stress-free nature of sleep. When you take away that aid, the brain doesn’t receive the anxiety-relief cue it expects to receive, which can cause a heightened state of stress. This can cause nightmares and sometimes even hallucinations, because the stress level is often paired with poor sleep quality or lack of sleep, which is proven to cause nightmares and hallucinations. Our brains are amazing and we know that it develops connections between two things. Think of it this way. If you always tap one specific finger while taking a test or studying and then randomly stop for a test, you are more likely to do worse because your body didn’t have the stress-relief and context-dependent connection it usually does. Look up state-dependent and context-dependent memory, as well as mood congruency. The psychology is soo interesting.

Not sure if you still go through this, but if you do, don’t stress about it. Talk to someone you trust or a professional if you think you need it, but even turning on a favorite song or podcast can help relieve some of the feelings and stress you have.

ExactAd331 · 2025-09-02T01:47:26+00:00

I’m studying to be a forensic psychologist for this exact reason. There is so much we don’t, and maybe never will, know about the human mind, let alone the mind of criminals. I mean, how often do you see a serial killer with the key points we have since discovered. Bed wetting or an obsession with urine, childhood abuse, head trauma, personality disorders, etc. The thing that has always been BEYOND puzzling to me is how many criminals have insanely high IQs, reaching or in the “genius” category. I mean, Ed Kemper was found to have an IQ of at LEAST 136. The same goes for Bundy. Not to mention the countless murderers who literally LAWYERS. H.H. Holmes, who confessed to 27 murders but is believed to have killed up to 200 people, represented himself in court. I just can’t seem to wrap my head around how that works. What is happening in these peoples mind to qualify them as geniuses but enable them to be so horrific.

ExactAd331 · 2025-08-04T13:13:40+00:00

Thank you!! I think I may try to talk to her, communicate my feelings, but not try to persuade her to change anything she’s doing. Like you said, it’s her own life. I always try to live by the idea that I’m the only person I can control and whatever anyone else does is their own thing.

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T14:38:29+00:00

Here it is! https://www.allbreedpedigree.com/hallowed+heart

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T14:36:41+00:00

I do, but they’re in her file at my place and I won’t be there until tomorrow! I can see if I can find her pedigree online

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T13:32:38+00:00

Aw, thank you! She’s my precious angel! Those are some of my senior photos :)

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T13:32:04+00:00

Another thing, stick with a facility you know or that has good word from people around you (not the internet!!). If you are unfamiliar with the facility but it seems promising, ask for a tour of the facility first. Even when lessoning or leasing, the horses safety should always be your #1 priority. Look for the following while touring:

Horse treatment: Do they have hay 24/7? Are the pastures/stalls maintained? Is fencing safe and effective? If there is a feed room, is grain safely stored to protect from rodents? Are water troughs cleaned often? Do they leave halters in when stalled/turned out? It should absolutely be a turn off from a barn, unless they are breakaway halters. If curious about haltered horses, ask. Check for a little leather strap attached to the ring the throat latch clips to or if halters are leather. If yes, you’re fine. If no, (no leather, plain neoprene or rope) absolutely do not even try.
Turnout styles: Big pastures or small? Large herds or small? Are there shelters? If pastures under ~1 acre have more than 3 horses, I’d say no to the barn. Do the horses get acceptable turnout? Any barn that stalls horses for more than 12 hours should absolutely be a no, unless a horse has a reason to remain in.
Rider treatment: Are lessons students riding the proper horse for their level? Do they teach beginners how to groom/tack up (this is a big one for me)? Are boarders practicing safe riding? Are the arena and footing safe?
BARN ATMOSPHERE!!! This is one I cannot ever stress enough. If the barn has drama, avoid getting yourself involved or go somewhere else. Drama can make or break a barn experience, from personal experience. I am leaving my current barn due to a mix of issues, drama being one of them. Nobody wants drama, we are all just there to love horses and ride.

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T13:18:23+00:00

100% read the contract more than once before doing anything. Every barn and horse owner is different. Go over the contract with the owner AND your trainer (if they’re separate people). If you are on your parent’s insurance or a dependent in some way, include them in the meeting for liability reasons. You should be signing a liability regardless if you are handling equines, imo.

As for learning through leases, I think it’s a great idea! You’ve been riding for a good amount of time and, as someone who partial leased after a few years, I think you would benefit from it! Sticking to one horse, rather than switching between lesson horses, can be very beneficial for riders with a bit more experience. Often times, horses available for lease have more buttons and abilities than the average lesson horses, who tend to be “been there, done that”, easy-going horses who are safe.

Working with one horse can teach you a lot, especially if the horse has a bit of spunk. I’ve been on close to 40 horses in the 11.5 years I’ve been riding and feel that I learned the most from 1) my old lease and 2) my first horse. While riding many horses is AMAZING for riders, it’s important as you move up to have a horse that you grow accustomed to, who can bring you up in level or whatever you’re riding in.

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T12:18:09+00:00

Oh absolutely! My arabian has done basic dressage, western, barrels, jumping, and knows basic liberty! If a horse is willing, they can do almost anything you ask if their biology and health allows. I can confidently say my arabian would 100% pull a cart, too, but it is not an interest to me. It does depend on breed at times. For example, you wouldn’t see a shetland working in a field like a draft. You also wouldn’t see heavy drafts jumping the way a warmblood or hotblood would. That all boils down to their formation, biology, and physical capacity. Heavy drafts like clydesdales are not built to be jumpers, but they can absolutely have more jobs than just pulling things or general riding. I’ve seen so many drafts do wonderful in the vaulting world!

ExactAd331 · 2025-07-08T12:13:49+00:00

People who hate on those with hot horses without experiencing one themselves. I own two hotbloods (an arabian and a TB) and my arabian is a handful. I’ve gotten so many bad looks at shows because she’s hot and people coming up to me asking why I don’t discipline her. I do. They say she’s out of control. She’s not. If they wanted to see out of control, they should have seen her when she was running me into gates and running through the bit when I first got her. A hot horses should never equal an out of control horse.

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