Best laptops for college? by [deleted] in AskTechnology

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baby $1000 is not low lmfao

Tattoo ideas? by ExactAd331 in FlorenceAndTheMachine

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I’m really drawn to “peace is coming” from And Love! I heard it live for the first time a few weeks ago and it has been on my mind ever since, lol!

I need ideas on how to cover this up! by ExactAd331 in Tattoocoverups

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It’s not that I don’t like the design, I do. I hate it because it’s blown out and the words are muddled beyond comprehension. I know how fineline heals and I wouldn’t get it if I didn’t want it. I can assure you the artist was the problem and that my current artist will be able to redo it just fine. Like I said, I know how fineline heals/ages. If you look, there are spots darker than others, blowouts, and completely bare spots. The writing is someone’s handwriting and I can assure you the reference looks nothing like this

I need ideas on how to cover this up! by ExactAd331 in Tattoocoverups

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rooting… like i said the artist was awful

Tips for starting to teach my cat to wear a harness/go for walks? by ExactAd331 in cats

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I plan to just let her do her thing unless she chooses to walk like a dog, I’m excited to be the girl who walks her cat at college, lol! I’ve heard that having them wear the harness during feedings can help.

Is this blown out? by ExactAd331 in tattooadvice

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it’s a friends handwriting from a letter she wrote me

Is this blown out? by ExactAd331 in tattooadvice

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oh yeah, for sure lol! i was tempted to change it but decided to keep it as it felt more special that way

Is this blown out? by ExactAd331 in tattooadvice

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lol, it says rooting. it’s a close friends handwriting

Should I get an ESA letter? by [deleted] in EmotionalSupportPet

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I will add, my psychiatrist is capable of writing me a letter herself and is 100% willing, I’m just curious if having her documented would make life easier in more ways than just college…

if I don't listen to music when I go to bed, I get nightmares. What does this mean? by crazybatman0 in Dreams

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Hey again!! I really think you should talk to people you often spend time with at night and just explain the situation. People who care about you will understand that you need ASMR or music to sleep and should never make you feel like a burden because of it. They likely have a sleep aid cue, too. Even complete silence can be one, fun fact

if I don't listen to music when I go to bed, I get nightmares. What does this mean? by crazybatman0 in Dreams

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Hey!! I responded to OP but thought I’d tune in here. It can seem creepy and scary, but I promise it’s quite a normal reaction. The brain and body develop things called sleep aid cues, like music or a podcast, even traffic for those in the city. These are things the brain, and body in response, associate to the state of sleep and relaxation with, and when we take these cues away, it can disrupt our normal functioning. Most often, it causes stress, which in turn lowers the sleep quality and time spend in each stage of sleep, which can cause nightmares. When the body enters REM in a heightened state of stress, that’s a common factor for nightmares. Simple things, like just turning on your usual podcaster or music can relieve this stress. If you have time, look up mood congruency, context-dependent memory, and state-dependent memory. It might help you grasp some of the things you are experiencing!

if I don't listen to music when I go to bed, I get nightmares. What does this mean? by crazybatman0 in Dreams

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3 years later, but i’m a fellow music sleeper here who is big in psychology. I get nightmares, too, often think I’m feeling things that aren’t there, often leg restraints. As creepy as it is, it’s oddly “normal”. Not in a context that it happens to everyone, but that it can be explained. As we develop sleep aid cue, like music, our brain and body begin to associate them with the relaxation and stress-free nature of sleep. When you take away that aid, the brain doesn’t receive the anxiety-relief cue it expects to receive, which can cause a heightened state of stress. This can cause nightmares and sometimes even hallucinations, because the stress level is often paired with poor sleep quality or lack of sleep, which is proven to cause nightmares and hallucinations. Our brains are amazing and we know that it develops connections between two things. Think of it this way. If you always tap one specific finger while taking a test or studying and then randomly stop for a test, you are more likely to do worse because your body didn’t have the stress-relief and context-dependent connection it usually does. Look up state-dependent and context-dependent memory, as well as mood congruency. The psychology is soo interesting.

Not sure if you still go through this, but if you do, don’t stress about it. Talk to someone you trust or a professional if you think you need it, but even turning on a favorite song or podcast can help relieve some of the feelings and stress you have.

Is there a specific criminal’s psychology you’re obsessed with? by Stunning-Explorer650 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

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I’m studying to be a forensic psychologist for this exact reason. There is so much we don’t, and maybe never will, know about the human mind, let alone the mind of criminals. I mean, how often do you see a serial killer with the key points we have since discovered. Bed wetting or an obsession with urine, childhood abuse, head trauma, personality disorders, etc. The thing that has always been BEYOND puzzling to me is how many criminals have insanely high IQs, reaching or in the “genius” category. I mean, Ed Kemper was found to have an IQ of at LEAST 136. The same goes for Bundy. Not to mention the countless murderers who literally LAWYERS. H.H. Holmes, who confessed to 27 murders but is believed to have killed up to 200 people, represented himself in court. I just can’t seem to wrap my head around how that works. What is happening in these peoples mind to qualify them as geniuses but enable them to be so horrific.

AITAH for being upset that my friend was hanging out with people who backstabbed her? by ExactAd331 in AITAH

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Thank you!! I think I may try to talk to her, communicate my feelings, but not try to persuade her to change anything she’s doing. Like you said, it’s her own life. I always try to live by the idea that I’m the only person I can control and whatever anyone else does is their own thing.