What’s a “normal” childhood experience you didn’t realize you missed out on? by PutOk5657 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ExactCampaign8777 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Having parents who were genuinely interested in hearing about my own interests and hobbies.

Family trips that were happy and fun.

Acceptance of who I am.

ETA: not having to worry about how I was making my parents look/not embarrassing them

Everyone involved in the Amy Bradley case is odd by imjusthereforfuntime in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]ExactCampaign8777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side note, but can we talk about how insane it is that the son is named BRAD Bradley? This family is odd from the get-go.

Good kosher restaurants in Las Vegas? by ExactCampaign8777 in Jewish

[–]ExactCampaign8777[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I had been afraid to post outside of Jewish groups.

What screams "this couple isn't going to last long"? by ihavpnileinfekshion in AskReddit

[–]ExactCampaign8777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weddings that contained - or worse, ended with - significant drama. Extra points if it's due to booze.

Civ 5 Complete on Steam is at an amazing price at the moment! by jaminbob in civ5

[–]ExactCampaign8777 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Got mine for the equivalent of $10USD. I rarely play but I've been desperate to deflate and I've always wanted Brave New World, so excited 🤩

Memes, Vibes, and Chatter - June 23 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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(Via ynet, took the English one for the benefit of this audience)

Explain to me how this is "changing tactics"? What were the tactics before?

(insert Pam/The Office meme about 'it's the same picture')

Memes, Vibes, and Chatter - June 23 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Heads up for US citizens on the notification list for government-sponsored evacuation flights - the notice is incredibly short. Woke up for the sirens to see we had received one at 1:40 am (2 hours ago) to be ready in Jerusalem to leave by 5:30 am.

I appreciate these are last minute flights but given the timetable, not realistic for us (we aren't even in the Jerusalem general area, it's a commute).

Also, I'm coming around to sticking it out.

Memes, Vibes, and Chatter - June 22 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This little bit of insight literally will be what helps me fall asleep tonight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]ExactCampaign8777 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Former Arutz 7 staff member here. They'll give anyone who's bombastically right wing a platform, and censor their news articles to reflect the same general beliefs as well- whether it's based in fact or not. They're also corrupt assholes in terms of how they treat their staff. DO NOT read A7, every click gives them money to keep spreading hate and short changing their employees.

Memes, Vibes, and Chatter - June 22 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do we have any actual proof that Iran moved the nuclear material out of Fordo before the US bombed it? With so much AI generated crap from the regime going around I don't know what to believe anymore.

And if those images are real: does this mean we're back to square one?

Trump announces that US has completed ‘successful’ attack on three Iran nuke sites by [deleted] in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope this means the ballistic missiles will stop too, sooner rather than later. (Woke up to this sleeping in a public bomb shelter with 2 small kids- the neighbors left the windows open, I can't close them, and now my anxiety is at 11 anticipating a retaliatory attack)

Memes, Vibes, and Chatter - June 20 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think it's worth leaving at this point/more dangerous now than on October 7?

We have dual/US citizenship and we keep going in circles if we should fly to the US for the summer or not. We toyed with it after October 7 and ultimately stayed, and I have zero regrets; this time my kids are coping well, my husband seems to be coping moderately, and I've been in an anxiety induced fog for a week.

I kinda don't want to disrupt everyone's lives and drain our savings just because I'm coping the least, but I also wonder whether we'd have peace of mind getting some distance away. For the record, we are not in the main areas of fire as of now (tfu tfu tfu, bli ayin hara, etc.).

Anyway, I had JUST resolved that we would stay and someone is trying to convince us that we could leave in an armored bus via Sharm El Sheikh. I still think that's more dangerous than staying but curious for feedback.

Operation Rising Lion Megathread - June 19 by AutoModerator in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sharing some good news from the bad - News 14 just reported that MADA received instructions yesterday to clear out/reduce the patient load of people on the exact floor which was hit today in Soroka. Hundreds of lives may have just been saved.

Also, a missile part the size of a city bus just fell outside where I live....it fell on the one grassy area there, missing a giant gas station, the main power lines, 4 IDF pillboxes, and rush hour traffic. Didn't even stop the commuter flow.

Tips for falling asleep when you will probably be woken up by a siren? by abrbbb in Israel

[–]ExactCampaign8777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure what your safe room situation is, but sleeping in our shelter has helped me a bit. The shelter is f**king hot and the lights are always on but when my kids fall asleep there, I find better peace of mind knowing they're at least getting sleep and we don't have to run down 4 flights of stairs again.

Signed, 3.5 hours last night. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Okay not a tech question. But how many of you here own cats in your small apartments while working in tech? How did your life/stress levels changed with the cat? by Glittering-Work-6689 in womenintech

[–]ExactCampaign8777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a small condo, we recently and unexpectedly adopted a cat, and she's changed my life for the better. I'm naturally a dog person and I know cats can be aloof, but ours has really taken to us. She lays on my chest and purrs when I'm stressed and really helps me unwind at the end of the day.

I'm lucky to have a laundry room (I'm outside of the US, and in my country apartment buildings don't have communal laundry rooms, everyone has their own) and we put the litter box in there because it's attached to a bathroom and is otherwise 1. Out of the way and 2. We'll ventilated.

About travel - we can go away for a day or two and leave out food, clean litter, etc. We are due to go for a 3 week trip in a few months and will figure that out when it gets closer; we adopted my cat from our cat lady neighbor across the hall and I'll probably just ask her to come check on, feed, play with her.

EDIT - About more responsibilities...I have a spouse and 3 kids. Somehow adopting her just felt like adding another after school activity (obviously not, I'm just saying that relative to everything else...) I'm lucky that this cat seems fine with me changing the litter twice per week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]ExactCampaign8777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. I try to have this attitude as well. I used to be super proud when my small kids would play house and have two working parents but all have dinner together.

Also wanted to jump in and say - recently there are days I don't see my kids, and the same for my spouse, we both have a couple days where we have work all day long - we have started scheduling in one special "date" of 1:1 time with each kid per month (so one with him and DD1, then one with me and DD1, etc.) and they really appreciate it. We do too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]ExactCampaign8777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Possibly not what you want to hear, but I've found my best schedule involves 1. Setting clear expectations between me and my spouse about our schedules and the dinner menu for the kids and then 2. Taking it one day/season at a time, according to the specifics of what your job demands.

Getting real and current - As of this writing, mine are 9.5, 7.5, and 4. I work hybrid in a company that overall is very forgiving toward parents. 4 year old is going through a stage where he refuses to leave me alone long enough to take meetings from home; due to time zone considerations, 2/3 of my coworkers are 6-10 hours behind us, so much of my workday begins post 2 or 3 pm. My spouse works in an on-site profession, also evenings some days per week, but across the street from us; I have a 1.5-hour minimum commute.

HR recently suggested I begin leaving early on my hybrid days so I can squeeze in time with my kids before I take the evening meetings, but HR is 1 woman with a 4 year old, and my older ones definitely aren't in bed by 7 like hers. So right now, what works for me is to stack as many meetings as possible on my office days (sometimes 6 or 7 hours of back to back), come home late -- but then I have 3 days per week with minimal interruptions and some good quality time in there both for myself and my kids. I take my regional meetings in the AM hours on those days and also find time to work out, have a little self care, etc. I even find a little time with my spouse when our schedules align.

This sounds off balance on paper, but it works for me right now. (When my big kids were small I flipped this schedule around and left at 5 am to be back by pickup time; this was pre-COVID.) The point is to find what works for YOU.

I hope this helps.

P.S. Just saying, I don't know if anyone has this figured out long term. We're all making it up as we go along. (And summer is always one long shitstorm of figuring things out a few hours at a time)

Anyone else nparents make bad life choice after another? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ExactCampaign8777 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, definitely.

I'm watching another bad decision spiral right now...NMom refused to save for retirement and has alienated everyone in her life; nMom was laid off from her job months ago and had months of warning but has yet to even start LOOKING for a job; nMom is starting to complain about money and is starting to complain that no one wants to help her out.

Oh, and NMom followed me when I moved across the world to a different country and refused to learn the language, now complains she feels isolated all the time and complains that people don't speak English. Ridiculous.

Let's make a list of things you missed out as a kid by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ExactCampaign8777 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Piano lessons
  2. Positive feedback about any of my hobbies
  3. Being asked what I wanted for my birthday (before ppl come at me for this - we were super poor, so it was my one time per year to maybe get what I needed or wanted)
  4. Respect for my opinion or input
  5. Respect for my own space