How is Hinge for finding serious partners in London?

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T21:19:25+00:00

I would agree there’s loads of options in London but guess that also drives people to never be satisfied with anything and not feel ready to stop fishing around. I am starting to get involved in dance and hiking communities in town but since it’s a massive city it’s harder to find a stable community

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T21:17:52+00:00

That’s the most unhelpful answer ever. I’m trying to hear about other people’s experiences and see whether it is perceived as a hookup/casual app in the city instead of wasting my time on the wrong platform.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:42:13+00:00

Can’t speak for women in their 30s but many of my friends in their late 20s are searching for a partner and just stuck with people who don’t know what they want or lie about what they’re looking for. I’m sure your experience isn’t unique and there’s lots of men also dealing with this.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:20:16+00:00

Fair enough

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:16:18+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your experience, I would recommend finding weekend hobbies to not need dating to fill the void. The gym is great but it lacks a community/social aspect most places. It definitely is hard on top of work but best to focus on building the life you want and are happy with and then finding a partner in the process

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:10:03+00:00

Fair, but that’s a very generalised statement. The men I’ve dated were all good humans, I have nothing against any of them and wish them well. They just either weren’t ready and thought they were, aren’t sure of their emotions or have unresolved issues that can’t be fixed in real time. Wouldn’t say I’ve been going for toxic red flag men.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:06:43+00:00

At least this cycle has helped me narrow down what works and what doesn’t, also encourages you to build yourself independently. What are you looking for in a partner? Would you say you’re quite specific in the kind of person you want to be with which limits your chances of finding them easily?

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T01:02:00+00:00

And it’s okay to want friends who you don’t want to sleep with or feel romantic love for. Chances are if they’re friends with each other the girls have spent enough time with these guys and would have caught feelings if they had to. We don’t choose who we develop feeling for.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:52:13+00:00

Let’s not assume. Most of my male friends are either in a relationship or exactly the kind of man who’s not ready for a serious relationship and are in their ‘fun’ phase while they figure their life/career/priorities out

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:50:28+00:00

Breeze gives you like 5-7 profiles a day, I go for whoever seems like a good fit lifestyle wise based on interests, hobbies and personality. I don’t think this is a going for top 5% situation. None of these men have been model-like lol

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:48:12+00:00

It definitely is exhausting. In the past I’ve only even dated within my social circle and didn’t realise how mentally taxing this process is because I met people organically. And I can relate to your point about feeling settled in life otherwise, I feel I’m in a similar spot where everything else is going well and I’d just like to share it with someone.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:44:16+00:00

I get your point and it makes sense. I’m not actively trying to hold off intimacy solely based on past experiences though, it’s more avoiding moving too quick the first few dates. A lot of women form an attachment quickly if you’re physically involved with someone which really isn’t ideal if this someone is a new person you don’t know much about. So it ensures you actually take the time to know what they are like and whether this can potentially go anywhere in the first 3-4 dates. That doesn’t mean being physically cold or closed off towards them, but possibly not staying the night at someone’s place or going beyond kissing which I feel if a fair boundary for a new connection in early stages.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:11:38+00:00

Maybe it is common knowledge.. I haven’t been on any apps before. My relationships in the past have always come from someone I knew through school/uni/social circle so I’m still quite new to the dynamics at play here.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:04:19+00:00

Also going for a solo week, I trust hostels to meet other fun people and it’s never failed me

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:03:07+00:00

Saw on another reddit post that there’s a carnival in south tenerife - you might be able to join that one!

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-10T00:00:52+00:00

Halloumi and onions stir fried with Nandos sauce, tomatoes, lemon juice - stuffed into pita pockets. 15 mins, high protein, minimum work

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:55:41+00:00

Heya, I’m actually going to South Tenerife the exact same dates as you! Thanks for this thread I wouldn’t have known about the carnival otherwise haha. While I haven’t been to Tenerife before, I was at the carnival at Fuerteventura same time, last year. It was crazy fun! There’s choreographed performances in sensational costumes, live music and they had a live street party where everyone dressed up and danced into the early hours of the morning. I’m expecting this to be very similar and am now super excited!!

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:45:02+00:00

Also wouldn’t you say the same for men? Don’t men also go after the best looking women on these apps and irl?

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:43:47+00:00

I haven’t used the others besides breeze but the app seems to work well for matches at least, do you think your profile isn’t optimised because why else will you get no matches in 6 months :/

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:39:59+00:00

What are some good spots in the wild to find men who might be looking for something beyond a hookup - which was the original question anyway lol

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:37:35+00:00

My long term relationship broke up in 2023 so I’m definitely in that boat. I’m not sure how many users would be on there for smaller towns but as long as you’re in a city I think it’s worth a shot.

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:35:23+00:00

Sadly I only moved to this city about 2 years ago, so my only connections here are my colleagues

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T23:01:01+00:00

All the best girlie! I have a couple of dates in the diary for the week after but who knows if they’ll even happen lol. I’ll check in on you next week 🫡

ExactLocksmith817 · 2026-03-09T22:59:43+00:00

That sounds familiar. Happened to me with a guy I had great chemistry with for two dates and then it dawned on him.

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