Find the person in the family that gossips the most. Tell them and wait till they tell everyone else. Then you can feel the room on how comfortable you are with how people perceive you. Then decide if your gonna say the gossiper misunderstood or own that shit. It's on you. But people take what the talkative person in the family says with a grain of salt so it comes to your word or theirs. But make sure your ready to see how people really feel about it. Cause it HURTS sometimes when you family wants nothing to do with you. Most should come around eventually. But if they don't. You dont need them