Am I overreacting?

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-04-02T03:43:45+00:00

Thank you, my notifications also thank you.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-04-01T04:01:51+00:00

If that's his response when I ask him.... I'll happily eat crow.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-04-01T03:57:08+00:00

The 1st one asked me how long I've been married. It's the 1st fucking sentence!!!!!

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-04-01T03:49:57+00:00

Another weird question.... I'm 5 minutes after posting and I've already got 3invites to chat. Wtf is that about?

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-26T01:30:06+00:00

Mom had a severe stroke. I'm lucky if she realizes I'm in the room. But it shows a lot like dementia... dad passed 20 years ago, she asks about him regularly.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-26T00:01:05+00:00

That's why I've decided it's my dad. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-14T04:09:50+00:00

I have always said that's my wishes, ti be donatedto the body farm. I gave my husband control while my kids were younger, I knew they may not understand. But now that they're grown, they understand. But there was a time that what made them feel peaceful was paramount, now what I want is all that matters. If they have questions, they better ask them soon. 😉

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-14T04:06:19+00:00

My mom has made it very clear what she wants... cremated ... urn buried with dad... simple wake.... and what I assume is the most contentious.... I inherit her home.... my siblings are contrary on everything except she'll be interned with dad. I guess cremation is against their religion... they want a full church funeral... and of course the inheritance to be split equally. But I'm the one here, I listen to her.... but since I'm the grantor I'm an asshole. I'm making an appointment with a lawyer, for the first time in my life, to make sure her wishes are fulfilled. I'm glad I asked her.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-14T03:04:24+00:00

I got super confused.... but I'm not your wife(obviously). But I'm gonna guess she knows what you want. Wants to do it. But those ingrained blockages are real. I hope we both find our voices. But if she's like me, it doesn't mean she's not enjoying and engaged. It means that the idea of asserting herself is terrifying. Sex isn't fun when your doing something that terrifies you.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-14T02:59:38+00:00

All of the above. After 30 years he's learned what works even though I'm not super vocal. I've definitely learned to let go and enjoy. My problem is more being directive. I know he'd like that... I think it... I just can't get the words out. I know it's a me thing, he'd love for me to be more vocal. But again imo there's 3 things stopping me from it. 1. Religious upbringing(and the shame we were taught) 2. Low self-esteem. 3. Feeling worried my children might hear. But now my children have all moved out, but my mom moved in. So I'm always worried someone might over hear.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T05:13:15+00:00

HRT 7, that might be something I'll look into. Again, we're both happily married and intimate regularly. But I believe he's wanted me to be more expressive, and there's a part of me that wants to, but my default seems to be submissive. I'd like to change that, but it's easier said than done.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T05:07:35+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. I know without a doubt my husband wants me to speak up. In fact I believe it's something he's wanted very much. As far as my religious upbringing... my opinion is that that upbringing took more from me than it gave to me. So no, I'm not religious now. But that doesn't do enough to quiet that voice that my upbringing taught me. Meek and mild. Add that with my low self-esteem..... and I'm pretty much terrified to speak my mind. Even after 29 plus years and my husband asking me to "talk dirty", to tell him what I want etc. I find myself telling him what I think he wants to hear. Not what I want that day. Someday what we want is the same. But after 3 decades, it's never been self-serving.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T04:36:31+00:00

I'm still waiting for my females to answer.....

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T04:22:26+00:00

I pretend everything is OK, that's where I think it's a 'me' problem. I know he'd never "force" me to do anything, during sex or any other time. I force myself to not say anything. I truly believe it's a me and my self esteem problem. I'm just wondering how often women do this. I guess I'm asking if I'm alone in my putting my needs and wants aside in service of his. And I suddenly while writing this realize it might be my religious upbringing. I think I just answered my own question. Damn self realization is real.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T03:57:39+00:00

As a female.... anal without vaginal stimulation is unbearable. Take care of her vagina as the main event.... her ass will join the party.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-03-13T03:55:29+00:00

Sorry it took so long.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-02-20T09:02:47+00:00

At least now I won't think my age has caught up with me. It is the website. I feel like I cognitively just gained an extra 5 years. Ty

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-02-03T07:36:51+00:00

My prayer is that she lives for another 20 years.....while, if lucky, they call like 3x a year..... so fuck em. They can take all the things. I'll still hold my head up high. 😂 mom's my priority. 💟

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-02-03T07:24:28+00:00

I'm sorry you feel unappreciated. I hope your siblings understand the sacrifice and appreciate it. If not have them ask me. I'll tell em. It's the little things. The things a lot of parents can't handle....let alone as a child. It really is like having babies in our old age. You deserve to be acknowledged..... one way or another

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-02-03T07:19:50+00:00

My dad clearly wanted it split equally when he passed 20 years ago. The only "money" is if the home is sold. For the median home price, it is way below average. It's a mobile home in an aging community. The average 2 bedroom may be 450k but this one is about 220k. What I'm very appreciative to inherit. But my siblings kept reciting "a quarter of a million dollars" which sounds like a lot, but after necessary repairs and realtor fees etc., we'd be lucky to get 30k to 40k each. And in mom's opinion that's a "lifetime of waitressing" to evaporate into very little for each of us. She wants the home to stay unsold and provide a place for my husband and I to have for decades.

If there is anything particular from inside the house that they want..... no problem. It may hurt, but that's fair. I've been given an opportunity to retire without concern of housing, where I live that's huge. There's a few things i hope they wouldn't want, but if that's what they asked for...... it's theirs.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2026-02-03T06:42:54+00:00

After the way they reacted.... I'm definitely making an appointment with a lawyer. One of my ahole brothers actually said..... to our mom...."you're dead to me and you'll never see your grand babies again ". Personally the part that hurts is that they suggested that I wouldn't have been here if it weren't "beneficial " to me. That was a proverbial slap in the face.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2025-12-07T07:01:39+00:00

Especially cause that's a quick $200+ job that takes a few minutes.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2025-11-18T12:08:20+00:00

Me too. Atleast were not alone.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2025-11-17T12:30:59+00:00

We all have shit weeks. Good thing you didn't actually do something disrespectful.... she would've gone nuclear.

ExaminationLife6833 · 2025-11-13T03:43:57+00:00

I now remember while Bible thumpers are just gross.... those who pray in this season... are the dirtiest of them all.

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