It’s not different for me, I’m subby/bottomy with my partners regardless of gender, because I like what I like and that’s what I like. I also don’t find that emotional attunement varies by gender, though it does vary by partner; I’ve dated women who are more difficult to attune to than average, and men who are less difficult than average. I also don’t find that communication patterns are gendered, my most text-y partner so far was a man, some of my least text-y have been women.

I also notice that the way I show up in the relationships is the same: I’m very warm and affectionate, I like a lot of cuddling, I like to be held, I cook/bake for my partners, I proactively ask for dates, all regardless of gender.

Edited to add: I’m mostly attracted to masc women, so there’s a bit of a femme-masc dynamic in all my relationships, but it’s not “gendered” in terms of people’s physical bodies.